Filthy Friday!!!

Hi ladies! Hope you are all having a fabulous week. Hopefully you can find something to vent about here, though :)
My rant this week...my Mother-in-law. Crazy as a loon. She has not done "anything" specific recently...but last night I was having trouble falling asleep and was thinking about all the things she has done in the past 3 years (even little things that over time= bat sh*t crazy) and I was like "holy crap, what do I have to deal with once I have this baby?'

Here are some highlights....
Tried to hack into my AOL and Facebook accts a year ago (to see what I was emailing her son about an big argument we just had).
Sent me a nasty email the morning of my RNY revision. Knowing full well I was having massive surgery with a 3% mortality rate.
Tried to get my husband to go visit her while I was laying in the recovery room afterwards. Begging, actually.
Actually showed up at both our weddings with NO card or gift. But the at-home-reception she came rolling up in her brand new Lexus. Afterward claimed she did not know she was supposed to give us a card.
Does not acknowlege my daughters birthdays, but takes her daughters children to Broadway shows for all of theirs (at ages 5, 6 & 14)

And various other horrid things. I would be here writing smack all day. But...trying to breathe and remain stress-free. Anyway ,I was wondering if any of you are dealing with crazy in-laws and if so, what are some of the stories you have? Those of you who are lucky enough to have normal MIL's, you don't know HOW lucky you are. Get them a huge flower arrangement for Mother's Day this year!!!

I am SOOO blessed to have an amazing MIL, my hubby, he got the short end of the stick, his MIL, my Mom....well I dont have a year to type it all out...LOL

I just sort of ignore my soon-to-be MIL.  She's not to bad but she annoys me.  She's older and basically doesn't care anymore.  She says whatever she wants, when she wants.  She doesn't care who is around.  She's lost her filter, lol.  I have had to say things to my fiance about it before.  She is EXTREMELY racist and has no problem saying things in front of my 12 year old daughter.  I do NOT like that and my fiance has told her that if she keeps doing it, she is not allowed around anymore.  But other than that, she's not too bad.

Ok, so here's my rant for the day.

My fiance and I got pulled over in January at about midnight coming home from a concert.  The State Trooper said that he was speeding, but wouldn't tell him how fast he was clocked at.  My fiance had cruise control set so he knows he wasn't speeding.  But we have out of state plates.  The trooper proceeded to ask me for my ID since I own the vehicle.  He gave my fiance a warning for the speeding and then proceeded to write me a $900 ticket because I have out of state plates still.  He told me that I had 3 days to register the vehicle and pay the taxes and get a hold of him and he would throw the ticket out.  Ok, no problem.  I went the next business day and registered the vehicle, called him and he had me fax over my registration to him.  I did.  I kept the receipt from Kinkos.  I figured all was done.  I was wrong.  I received a letter in the mail 4 days ago saying that I owed $911 on the ticket and have until 4/4 to pay it.  So he didn't throw it out.  So I called the number on the letter and they said that I needed to call and speak to the trooper and he could dismiss it.  Well I have called  twice and left a message for him and he has not called back.  I am beyond pissed.  Stuff like this is what makes me hate law enforcement officers.  My fiance's response was, "well apparently you can never trust what they say."  I am going to call and leave him a message every day until he calls me back and takes care of this because I am NOT going to pay it.  I will take it to court before that.

Cass,
Call and speak to the sergeant on duty. Have all your facts written out on paper in front of you and calmly explain the situation. They may help you out.

I am glad I sparked the MIL is a crazy B thread!  As you all know she is NUTS.  But she does have redeeming qualities...  She loves me, my husband, our daughter.  Spoils her with things we need for her, ie. baby gate, new carseat, 800 dollar glider for her nursery.  BUT is extremely nosy, and pushy.  BUTT she doesn't know she is.  I mean really she thinks she's not.  She is very manipulative.

Around Christmas time she asked my husband if she could go with us to take Sage to go see santa.  He said IDK when we are going yet, but we will prob just go by ourselves.  I know this is her first and only grandchild, but she does not need to be with us for every single event.  So the one day we decided to go to see santa.  We didn't tell her we were going.  She saw the pics online and then a week later she went off on DH for not telling her.  We told her we wanted to go on our own.  She said we "could have just told her that" but that is not true.  If we told her that she would have just showed up anyway, that is how she is.  Around halloween we were going to my moms house to take her around the block for trick or treating.  She said "O i am coming down for halloween to see Sage trick or treat."  At the time, a family friend was in the hospital and my mom was not ready to have company.  I told her not to come down.  She said "well I am going to call your mom to let her know I am coming down."  She didn't end up going but we had to basically tell her it was NOT a good time at all and she couldn't.

There is COUNTLESS other things.  But more recently the digging through my garbage thing and the party issue.

OMG Just had a HUGE blow up here at work.  Believe it or not I work for a man.  Well he is the biggest girl I have ever met.  There are 3 women here in the office.  Myself and another girl have been here a year.  The other girl has been here 8 years.  She is the assistant manager of the office.  Long story short he got pissed at the assistant manager stormed out of the office like a ***** sucking baby.  OMG it was crazy!!!!! The entire conversation SHOULD have taken place behind closed doors in his office! NOT in the hall way where me and the other new girl had to listen to it.  To make matters worse I am kinda the assist mng assist and the other girl is his assist.  Well because he was pissed at assit mang I got all looped up in it to! He is a major dick well Not even that since he has periods every month! OMG he is such a girl.  I hate my job today.  I need a drink, smoke and what ever else I can put my hands on! lol lol  whew I kinda sorta feel a little better just typing all that out.  Oh and btw the thing he got pissed over was petty to.  Made himself look really STUPID!!!!! 

Ahhhh MIL rant time!!! I thought I had an excellent MIL until the baby came that is!! First, she flew in to be here when he arrived and we were all excited for that. She was helpful in volunteering to stay home with the girls while everything was going on and we were at the hospital- which allowed my husband to spend the night with me both nights. However, on the day I was getting discharged my mother, who is CONSTANTLY cleaning (like me), tells me how my house is a wreck and my MIL sits on my computer the whole time while the girls are doing their own thing. My mom ended up going over to my house and cleaning everything up and straightening it all out so that I didn't come home to a nasty house- that was perfectly spotless 3 days prior. Second, Monday morning we let the girls stay home, but the oldest had a field trip- my MIL proceeded in taking the other 2 with her to drop her off and tookthem INTO the school- hello!! duh!!! Third, Tuesday morning my husband left in the morning to go get ready for work and make sure they were up. He got home 20 minutes after they're supposed to be up and there was his mother- IN BED still!!! Then, she refused to be left without a vehicle while we were in the hospital and I was home. So, she drove my husband to work, came back, went to the beach a few days in a row, then we had to do back and pick him up and drive back home. Not to mention every other time she had to go or be somewhere- she got lost!!! Needless to say, my van was on empty by Friday- the night before she was leaving. Did I mention she booked her flight into an airport almost 2 hours away and we had to drive 2 hours there and back to pick her up and take her back?? Friday she comes out and asks if I put gas in the van- ummm NO I haven't driven. She proceeds to tell me that we were getting low and NEVER once offered a dime f******oney!! :O Unbelievable- I guess she felt we owed her- considering we saved her at least 100 bucks on renting a car to get here to and from the airport. WTF???

I think the biggest thing that hurt was the lack of time she spent with the grandkids and especially the baby while she was her. She acted almost like she didn't want to hold him or love on him and even the night before she left she never once asked to have him. It just struck me as odd!! Like I said- before this I thought she was great, but her true colors showed and to be honest I am more than ecstatic now and have no remorse over moving to PA- even further from them- and not feeling guilty. I guess that knowing she doesn't send birthday cards or any form of gifts or anything on holidays should have been a sign of her laxidazical attitude and LAZINESS!! Oh well- my baby has one of the best Grandmas a baby could ask for and watching my mom tell him goodbye on Tuesday broke every little ounce in my heart, but soon we will be living closer and she will get to share him with me!! :)

My FAVORITE topic:  IN LAWS FROM HELL!  My MIL is the queen b****.  Never said a nice thing to me, sits puffed up and mad at every family function.  HAS never helped me and hubby in any way.  My hubby had to save for his rehearsal dinner, they didn't give a dime.  My parents gave us a 40,000 dollar wedding, 5,000 dollar honeymoon, 2500 in appliances in our new house.  His family has never given us a PENNY.  It's on thing that they don't help us financially, but they have never said a nice word about anything.  Never told me my wedding was pretty, i was a pretty bride, nothing.  She gets mad that she has to GASP split holidays with my family.  She is an insane mean psycho woman.  But my Sister in law is HER made over.  She was hell bent on not having her baby on her birthday, so I swear she held the baby is, in order to have him the day after her birthday.  Well she found out my baby is due on her precious baby's birthday and she HASN'T spoken to me since.  When she announced her pregnancy, I told everyone, so happy, we spent 400 dollars on a baby rug for the ungrateful beast.  She makes comments about my weight.  She has never told me ANYTHING i did was pretty.  You know those people whom you compliment, and you expect them to FOR ONCE say something nice back to you, but you never get anything but judgment and criticism?  That's my SIL!  Her and her mother are the evilest women I know and I have to spend 4 days with them next week on Spring Break, HELP ME!

my inlaws are great- people who think they are owed the world **** me off... people who think they deserve a gift from someone.. or money from someone for another thing.... its your life.. and your responsible for your own life... get over it that someone didnt help you out.. no one deserves a gift.. or a atta girl .. or money... if you gave something to someone out of the goodness of your heart- kudos for you... if you didnt do what you should have done.. and are now "in trouble" tough **** you did it.. you need to fix it.. ohh... and dont take things that are not yours.

What sort of people show up at a wedding with no gift? That is the tackiest thing I have ever heard...more so when it's the groom's parents. They had no trouble eating like pigs or running up the hard liquor tab & having us pay for it. No excuses. If that's how they felt then they should have kept their cheap asses home. We would have been $300.00 richer at the end of the day. I don't expect anything from them but that situation was a public slap in the face. I know people who are uneducated and on public assistance with more dignity than that.