MIL is on my LAST nerve

I need to vent.  I am realllllllly pissed right now.

Sage's birthday party is in a month.  I got the invites printed and am in the process of addressing them.  My MIL messages me on facebook saying "blah blah the party is going to be fun."  Then she says we need to go over the guest list.  OK.  fine.  let's go over it.  Little bit of a back story.  MIL and FIL have 10 acres of land.  They used to have huge halloween parties with 100 plus people.  I told my MIL I had 80 people on the list.  Whi*****ludes all of her family and friends and mine.  She flipped and said no more than 50 (wtf?).  So I said... OK who are we not inviting then.  Then I counted and JUST her immediate family (8 brothers and sister and their kids) have 35 people.  OK so then I can only have 15 people from my side?  How is that even fair?  When we did my baby shower which my mom hosted.  She insisted on having all her cousins there when we never invite them to anything (she doesn't even want them to be invited to the party??).  Now I said to that, if we do not invite them, they ALL have facebook and will see the party is at HER house yet she didn't invite them.  I am making all the food and buying all the **** so I really do not see the problem.  I am NOT cutting any of my side.  She is realllyyyy ******g me off about this. 

We invited 75 people to Sage's baby shower and only 45 showed.  We invited 150 to our wedding and only 80 showed.  Just because we invite 80 people does not mean 80 people will be there.  We are going to dinner on Sunday to "talk about the list" there is no negotiating.  I am inviting whoever I want.  I dont care if that sounds *****y but it's not like we cannot fit that amount of people there, they have had far more than that before and they are not paying for 80% of the stuff.

Who's to say she has to know who you invite???!!!

Send out invitations, have them RSVP to you and she will never be the wiser.
Like you said, it's your party, your money...the only thing she is providing is the venue.

Also like you said, not everyone shows who is invited.
Do it your way....if it keeps the peace to just not inform her of the extra invites, then don't.

Otherwise tell her to take a long walk off a short pier  ;-)

Good luck!!!

Oo trust me.  I am inviting whom ever I want and not informing her.  She will have just about 50 people there and never know the difference

Perfect....and to lighten the party...spike her drink with either some alcohol, laxative, or both!!  ;-)
Payback!  ;-)

OOOooohhhh you just inspired the theme for my Filthy Friday post!
I'd say, invite your whole neighborhood just to show her who's boss :)

10 Acres you say? I am sure there is a good place to dig a nice deep hole and just push her in it! I got to say, I would have snapped by now. You put up with WAY to much crap from her.

HAHAAHA! I agree.  Lucky my husband is completely on my side and goes head to head with her for me when he has to