D@mn these hormones, lol

Today has been a not so good day for me, lol.  I guess the hormones have finally caught up with me.  Right now, I am basically all alone.  Yea, my daughter, who is 12, is here and she is out of school this week but she is usually in school and I spend the day alone.  She had drama practice today and has it on thursday too, so I will be alone then too.  My fiance is gone.  He's been gone since Thursday and won't be home until probably the 3rd or so.  It just depends.  Usually it doesn't bother me, he was gone for about 10 days earlier this month.  But today it hit me.  I also have no friends here.  I'm not a person who has friends usually anyway but having moved here in September, I really don't have any.  And even though it doesn't matter since we can afford to purhcase everything, I have realized that I will not be having a baby shower for this baby.  I guess it's just kinda sad.  My family is really far away so I am by myself.  Hopefully, I won't have another day like today, lol.

I am sorry you are having such a bad day. Can you head to the mall tomorrow and people watch? sometimes that helps me. As far as the baby shower goes.. maybe you can invite family that are out of town for a weekend to have dinner to celebrate the baby.

I'm sorry. It sucks to be alone. Just because you won't be having a baby shower though, doesn't mean you can register for some stuff you need from Amazon.com. They have free shipping to the recipients house if the total is $25.00 or more. Since your older one is 12, that is a big age gap and I am sure some family will want to help you out giftwise. Try and get out of th house more, even to take a walk or go to the mall. Sitting home all day can cause depression :)

Hang in there Cass! I'm right there with you..I was never a stay at home type, but when my husband and I relocated to SC in 2009, I wasn't able to find work right away and it just fit our budget and schedule better if I stayed home with the girls. When we were in Texas and he was transitioning out of the Army, he stayed home with them while I worked full time. Heck, back then it was even new for me to be atep mom, so staying home had never really crossed my mind. The main reason we moved here was because I was having a hard time being away from my family completely. When we first got here, it was awesome. My cousin (14 hrs younger than me) and the rest of my mom's side of the fam were here. My husband found work almost right away and off he went. My best friend from home moved from PA to SC and stayed with us for about 8 months, but after we moved her out in april of last year, I have had no one. I used to do some in home child care, but all the kiddos have dwindled and it's just me. My hubby just got off of night shift for a month and a half and I hated it. I had quite a few days like you're having. Especially when I went home for Christmas and my sister-in-law betrayed me. We're moving home to PA this summer and they were in PA, but they decided over Christmas break to pack up without telling me and left to move to Texas with my husband's family. I was crushed and I'm still not talking to her much. Now, I'm here in SC with family all around me and I still feel like I'm on an island in the middle of no where. It gets lonely when you have no adult interaction in your day, but just think- pretty soon you will have a new little baby to occupy your time. :)  I'm so looking forward to next week and what's ahead. If you ever want to talk, email me and we can exchange contact info...it always helps to have someone out there to talk to- [email protected] :)

Thanks.  I'm hoping it gets better.  Most days I am fine.  I noticed that you live in Myrtle Beach area.  We used to live in Greenville, SC and we hated it.  But we love the Myrtle Beach area.  We moved back up here to Maine because of my fiance's kids but as soon as everything is worked out with that, we want to move to the Myrtle Beach area.  Have always wanted to live in that area.  Do you know how the schools are in that area?  From what I have found online, they aren't bad but it's hard to get a good idea from websites sometimes.

Thanks.

The area is actually really great (I could SOO do without the traffic and tourists!!) and the schools the girls have gone to so far are actually really pretty good. When we moved up here from Texas, it was quite a bit of an adjustment for them because of the styles they use here, but all 3 have adjusted so well and the older 2 have pretty much gotten and stayed on the honor roll. The education system to me is frustrating, but I won't go there LOL I'm hoping that after we move to PA, they won't have too much of a problem adjusting there. I hate moving them back and forth and here there and everywhere, but we're just trying to get our bearings. We lived about 5 miles around the corner from where we live now for a year before we moved over here. There are some really good things about the area, but it also has its downfalls..I know everywhere does.

One thing I can say I'm excited about- I was born here in Grand Strand hospital almost 30 years ago and I will be giving birth to my one and only here :)

It's funny because when we go on vacation to Myrtle Beach (went 4 times last year, I think), we don't consider ourselves tourists, lol.  We have been there so many times, that we know where everything is.  But I do understand.  Fiance yells all the time at the tourists down there, lol.  We are tired of moving around also and have always wanted to live in that area so we think that is where we want to move and stay.  We lived up here in Maine for about 2 years and then left and moved to Greenville 2 years ago.  When we came back up here in September, things are so different from when we left, that we hate it up here.  We are just ready to finally find a place to settle down and quit moving.  Fiance is a truck driver so he is able to transfer anywhere basically.  We just want to make sure that the schools are ok.  We are frustrated with the school up here.  When we left up here before, my daughter was in Gifted, went to SC and they tested her themselves and immediately put her in Gifted.  We get back up here and they test her and say, well she's close but we want to see how she does in regular classes.  They don't seem to care.  Not to mention that they have had lice outbreaks quite a few times and never bother to let any of the parents know about it.  My daughter has had it 3 times since we got here.  We never had this problem the entire time we were in SC.  I mean, I know that it happens but to not let parents know about it, is really frustrating.

Our lease isn't up here until September so we will probably wait until then but we are not sure.  We still have to get the visitation issue worked out with fiance's 2 kids.  He hasn't seen his son in 2 years and he saw his daughter when we got here but hasn't seen her since.  His ex-wife won't let him.  They refuse to answer the phone when he calls and will not return his call.  I feel so bad because there is nothing I can do about it.  He just wants to see them.  But we are working on getting the money to get a lawyer and take her back to court.  It sucks because there is a visitation order but she doesn't follow it and basically there is nothing he can do but go back to court.  It makes me so mad because my daughter's father doesn't pay his child support, hardly ever calls her but I still let her see him because it's the right thing to do.  My fiance pays his child support every week but she refuses to let him see them.  Frustrating.

Sorry I got off on something else, lol.  Thanks again.

Thanks everyone.  I am hoping it gets better.  I am actually going to a Scentsy party this Sunday so I will get some adult conversation, lol.  Most days, I do fine but yesterday, it all just hit at once.  Since I live in Maine and all of my family is in Kansas, it makes it hard for them to come up here.  My parents will be here at the end of May to stay up here for awhile when the baby comes.  That I am glad of.  Also with all of the snow and it being so cold, there is not much to do up here.  Hopefully it will start to go away and I can get out more.

Again, thanks for letting me vent.

Hang in there Baby!

I understand how you feel being home alone all day.  I have a good support system here, but because I have been off work I have been stuck home alone for weeks now.  It is hard.  I have been experiencing brutal pre-natal symptoms, so I am stuck home.  If you are well, I agree with some of the previous posters, head out to the mall!  People watching can realy break up your day.

Another thing you might consider is to take an aqua-fit or pre-natal yoga class at a local Y or health club.  You might find that a class is good for your energy, but also a great place to meet new people - especially new mommies-to-be.  I have found that many of my friends have expanded their circle of friends through mommy-and-me groups, pre-natal groups might help you get a jump on that.  There seems to be a natural bond that forms between mothers of young children and mothers-to-be. 

Showers are funny things.  My sister-in-law didn't have one for her first because everyone thought someone else was taking care of it.  She was pretty hurt as she felt overlooked.  I can understand how you might be feeling pretty bummed about not having one.  If your family is too far away, I think you should take a day where you get totally pampered - a full spa day.  I'm talking facial, massage, pedicure, manicure, blow out - the whole bit.  I had one a couple of weeks before my wedding and I have never felt so spoiled in all my life.  It is not the same as a shower with family and friends, but it is good for the sould and you could treat yourself to your favourite luxuries and be doted on all day.  That is what I would do. 

Feel better and know that we are here for you.  We may be far away, but we understand and hopefully our words help a bit.

Jenn