Filthy Friday...whoohoo!!
My rant today is....don't you hate when you have a close relative or friend in a really BAD relationship and they don't see anything wrong? Meanwhile, you want to smack their soft little heads into a wall and tell them to wake the F up? I have been going through that for 3 years with my sister. She who has a high IQ, a masters in architecture, and has always busted her ass through college with a full time job. Eating cereal 3x a day just to make ends meet. My dear, dear sister who I wish would get hit with the reality stick.
She moved to a new town after landing a job near Yale. Goes back up to Buffalo to visit some college friends and runs into a guy (bum) who she falls head over heels for. Bum is almost divorced with a 1 & 5 year old (one of them has autism). A month later he loses his job up there and decides to move in with my sister, who lives 8 hours away from his kids. That was 3 years ago. He uses her car, convinced her to get a joint checking acct, and has no interest in finding a job because they keep extending his unemployment. Meanwhile she gets laid off because she is one of the newer architects and they need to cut costs. Bum has no money besides his unemployment and convinces my sister they need to go up to Buffalo every 2 months to see his kids. Rental cars, hotels, restaurant bills, the works....all put on HER credit cards. Then he proposes to her with no ring. Says he will get one she likes. That was over a year ago. We can never do anything with them because they are always broke and we have paid their way more times than is fair to us. My sister thinks he is a "nice" guy and treats her well. Of course he nice to you, you fool....you are his sugar mama. GGGGRRRR
It just so kills me seeing this leech stuck on her leg when she has worked so hard. I know I can't do anything about it and it is soooo frustrating. She is my only sibling. Last Christmas I bought them a ton of stuff that they needed for their apt. Stuff he should have been buying all along instead of ******g it away on cigarettes and fancy beer.
Sorry about my long rant. I am anticipating a problem after this baby is born because we have to pick a set of godparents. She will be offended if I don't pick them. I guess I can't tell her that I want her sleazebag BF to be no part of my kid's upbringing, given his morality and values I've seen for the past 3 years.
Shell out your dirt, ladies!!
She moved to a new town after landing a job near Yale. Goes back up to Buffalo to visit some college friends and runs into a guy (bum) who she falls head over heels for. Bum is almost divorced with a 1 & 5 year old (one of them has autism). A month later he loses his job up there and decides to move in with my sister, who lives 8 hours away from his kids. That was 3 years ago. He uses her car, convinced her to get a joint checking acct, and has no interest in finding a job because they keep extending his unemployment. Meanwhile she gets laid off because she is one of the newer architects and they need to cut costs. Bum has no money besides his unemployment and convinces my sister they need to go up to Buffalo every 2 months to see his kids. Rental cars, hotels, restaurant bills, the works....all put on HER credit cards. Then he proposes to her with no ring. Says he will get one she likes. That was over a year ago. We can never do anything with them because they are always broke and we have paid their way more times than is fair to us. My sister thinks he is a "nice" guy and treats her well. Of course he nice to you, you fool....you are his sugar mama. GGGGRRRR
It just so kills me seeing this leech stuck on her leg when she has worked so hard. I know I can't do anything about it and it is soooo frustrating. She is my only sibling. Last Christmas I bought them a ton of stuff that they needed for their apt. Stuff he should have been buying all along instead of ******g it away on cigarettes and fancy beer.
Sorry about my long rant. I am anticipating a problem after this baby is born because we have to pick a set of godparents. She will be offended if I don't pick them. I guess I can't tell her that I want her sleazebag BF to be no part of my kid's upbringing, given his morality and values I've seen for the past 3 years.
Shell out your dirt, ladies!!
M/C 10/18/10 9w2d...forever loved
It's a boy!
Wow, Chelle...some people are so blind it's sad.
Just staty focused on your immediate family and know that you have done everything you can to help them. But now your financial focus is on your family.
As for my rant...my husband. Oh my....comes home last night and asks if I have anything (muscle relaxers, etc) to help the pain in his leg. Of course I do...but then I decide to push his buttons!!! LOL
He had a full time, 40 hour a week job for the past 15 years. He decided that since started his 2nd job (about 2-3 years ago) that he is getting burnt out on the first one. 1st job is fixing instruments in a music store. 2nd job is running sound for music events-that could potentially interfere with the first job by having to leave early or sometimes he doesn't come home till 2 or 3am. So I can kind of understand the burn out phase.
So he chose to drop his hours to about 20-24 per week. We lost our optical and dental coverage and he lost his fully paid for medical.
So, back to the button pushing. (giggle). He complains about his leg...I spout off something to the affect of not a good time to lose his insurance. Asked what he intended to do...his answer was to just wait it out, it'll go away. So (another button to push) I say something else to the affect that he's 40 and that more and more aches and pains are on the way.
Ha ha ha ha...so, dumba$$ losing insurance, is in a physically demanding 2nd job, with no insurance by his own free will. He wants sympathy from me. Yeah, uh, no, sorry, don't think so. I'll give you the naproxin I'm not supposed to take, I may even be nice and share the vicadin...but no sympathy. (BTW, his last check was $387...for 2 weeks work...and we have a baby due in less than 5 weeks) Yeah, NO sympathy!!
Thanks for listening/reading!!!
-Jessica
Just staty focused on your immediate family and know that you have done everything you can to help them. But now your financial focus is on your family.
As for my rant...my husband. Oh my....comes home last night and asks if I have anything (muscle relaxers, etc) to help the pain in his leg. Of course I do...but then I decide to push his buttons!!! LOL
He had a full time, 40 hour a week job for the past 15 years. He decided that since started his 2nd job (about 2-3 years ago) that he is getting burnt out on the first one. 1st job is fixing instruments in a music store. 2nd job is running sound for music events-that could potentially interfere with the first job by having to leave early or sometimes he doesn't come home till 2 or 3am. So I can kind of understand the burn out phase.
So he chose to drop his hours to about 20-24 per week. We lost our optical and dental coverage and he lost his fully paid for medical.
So, back to the button pushing. (giggle). He complains about his leg...I spout off something to the affect of not a good time to lose his insurance. Asked what he intended to do...his answer was to just wait it out, it'll go away. So (another button to push) I say something else to the affect that he's 40 and that more and more aches and pains are on the way.
Ha ha ha ha...so, dumba$$ losing insurance, is in a physically demanding 2nd job, with no insurance by his own free will. He wants sympathy from me. Yeah, uh, no, sorry, don't think so. I'll give you the naproxin I'm not supposed to take, I may even be nice and share the vicadin...but no sympathy. (BTW, his last check was $387...for 2 weeks work...and we have a baby due in less than 5 weeks) Yeah, NO sympathy!!
Thanks for listening/reading!!!
-Jessica
I get 3-4 calls a day asking if I am in bed, and even more emails asking why I am on the computer. I feel ya on the questions, tho yours would def drive me even more insane LOL
~*Crystal*~
HW-327/SW-313/CW-271/Doc's Goal:150 ......Awaiting Revision to DS
Post RNY baby born 6 weeks early, Jaelyn Mary Christine May 9th, 2011 
Ok I'm not passing up a chance to put my *****ing in LOL
So, my family here has been completely unsupportive and has basically uninvited my family from family functions over the past year...I have NO idea what I've done wrong, but includes my cousin who NEVER calls or anything unless she needs something. Well, yesterday she calls me and is in somewhat fakey tears...ok wtf now? Turns out her husband's good friend decided to take his own life and her husband is broken up about it. I've never heard this "best" friend's name mentioned prior to this, never laid eyes on this guy even at their wedding just this last March, and I'm supposed to give her tips on how to help him deal...ya like I know!!
And the ER!!! I don't wanna see the inside of a hospital unless it's for the delivery or induction of my child. It started with me having to take my stepdaughter Jan 30th for a broken foot, then last week on Wednesday I had to take my grandmother (even tho she NEVER thought to call me for help and my aunt had to ask), and then today I get a call at 7:30 from other cousin (who is to put it nicely one of the BIGGEST *****es to me on a regular basis) begging me to take her to the ER. Turns out she has a bad knee and she stepped out of bed, her knee gave out, she smacked her face off the ground, and cant walk now. I spent almost 4 hours there with her today. The most we have talked in months! Talk about using someone!! Not to mention I wouldn't even call her to ask her for a favor because I know she's TOTALLY unreliable. 3 trips to the hospital in 3 weeks is enough for me...I need a week off...so praying I don't see one until March 1st...can I make it 11 more days??
I'm thinking of opening an ambulatory taxi service....did I mention I never asked anyone for anything to do it? Regardless of the fact that my cousin bragged all damn morning that she got her 5000 incomet ax refund deposited today, yet she offered me not even one red cent for gas!! I so hate feeling like I'm used!!
ONE more week and 3 more days!!! AMEN! LOL :)
So, my family here has been completely unsupportive and has basically uninvited my family from family functions over the past year...I have NO idea what I've done wrong, but includes my cousin who NEVER calls or anything unless she needs something. Well, yesterday she calls me and is in somewhat fakey tears...ok wtf now? Turns out her husband's good friend decided to take his own life and her husband is broken up about it. I've never heard this "best" friend's name mentioned prior to this, never laid eyes on this guy even at their wedding just this last March, and I'm supposed to give her tips on how to help him deal...ya like I know!!
And the ER!!! I don't wanna see the inside of a hospital unless it's for the delivery or induction of my child. It started with me having to take my stepdaughter Jan 30th for a broken foot, then last week on Wednesday I had to take my grandmother (even tho she NEVER thought to call me for help and my aunt had to ask), and then today I get a call at 7:30 from other cousin (who is to put it nicely one of the BIGGEST *****es to me on a regular basis) begging me to take her to the ER. Turns out she has a bad knee and she stepped out of bed, her knee gave out, she smacked her face off the ground, and cant walk now. I spent almost 4 hours there with her today. The most we have talked in months! Talk about using someone!! Not to mention I wouldn't even call her to ask her for a favor because I know she's TOTALLY unreliable. 3 trips to the hospital in 3 weeks is enough for me...I need a week off...so praying I don't see one until March 1st...can I make it 11 more days??
I'm thinking of opening an ambulatory taxi service....did I mention I never asked anyone for anything to do it? Regardless of the fact that my cousin bragged all damn morning that she got her 5000 incomet ax refund deposited today, yet she offered me not even one red cent for gas!! I so hate feeling like I'm used!!
ONE more week and 3 more days!!! AMEN! LOL :)
See...this is where age (since I'm considerably older than most of you on here!) does me a favor. I have no qualms about telling someone like your cousin to take a taxi to the hospital...or call her neighbor...or her mother...or sibling...or an ambulance. If you don't have time for me any other time in your life...why would I spend my time taking you to the ER and waiting hours on end for you?
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Sounds like you need to do a spring cleaning on family members. Seriously, it is long overdue and needed if you keep getting the crappy end of the stick. Last year we booted my SIL & her greedy kids.... shortly after my MIL (to an extent). She is no longer allowed over here until she realizes the world does not revolve around her & her drama. Drastic? Yes....but we have had much more peaceful holidays without them. I am all for booting toxic people out of your life. If they can't reciprocate kindness in any way then POOF be gone :)
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