i cant do this!

I am 14 weeks pregnant and a nervous wreck! I got preg 3 weeks after surgery and I am scared to death of miscarrying. I go to the OB every 4 weeks but that is not enough for me. I need to hear the heartbeat more often to ease my mind. I don't feel comfy asking to come in more often because the nurse just makes me feel uncomfortable like I'm being a pest. Ugh I wish I could just feel my baby move.

Chances are, things will be fine, but I can understand the anxiety. You can purchase (or even rent, i think) home dopplers that let you hear the baby's heart beat anytime you want! Why not get one and then have your doctor's office show you how to use it so you can have some reassurance whenever you need it?

I have a rented doppler already but cannot hear the heartbeat with it so I am sending it back.

Give it a couple weeks, you'll be able to hear the HB soon once your uterus moved out from behind your pubic bone and the baby is larger.

Until then, why not ask the nurses to show you how to use your rented unit? They deal with nervous first time pregnant women EVERYDAY, it's part of their job. If they act annoyed, ask for a different nurse, afterall, they work for you! 

((Hugs))

I know it's hard in the beginning, but try to hang in there! 

sorry, but you kinda already did it...

In my WLS office, they tell you to seek high-risk prenatal care if you had RNY. All this means is that you have the right to look for a perinoligist (sp?) or demand of you current group, more dr appts and ultrasounds. Since you had magor surgery 4 months ago and are severely restricted on food intake.....they really need to make sure the baby is growing accordingly. Use this point to your advantage. Most OBGYN are clueless when it comes to WLS and are looking to you to fill them in. If you stress that your calories & liquids are sverely restricted now, they will have to keep a closer eye on you. If they blow off your concerns, see if your insurance will pay for a high-risk OB and search for one. Many ladies here are classified as high-risk (only because of their WLS) and they ususally get a monthly peek at their LO's with utrasounds. Be your own best advocate. Stress that you had RNY recently and are worried. Hopefully they will work closer with you or you can find another group.

The first trimester is really hard.  I got pregnant a few months after a miscarriage and I was a nervous wreck.  You'll be able to feel the baby moving in a few more weeks and you'll relax a little bit.  I don't think you ever fully relax but it does get easier. 

Then you have the baby and freak out about all new stuff!