Sick with Jealousy

We have been trying for 15 months to conceive with no luck.  Saw a RE and started the process with him last month.  Just had surgery last week to remove polyps from my uterus, and we can go back to our baby dancing next month.  Hoping for some good news this year.

Why does it seem like everywhere I turn one of my friends is pregnant?  If one more of my FB friends announce it I am going to be sick.  I literally cringe with jealousy.  But now, my co-worker made her announcement to me this morning, so I have to physically watch it day in and day out.  She is so non-chalant about it.  It is her third child so maybe not a big deal, but she is not the least bit excited.

It is not in my nature to be a jealous person, but I can't seem to control my feelings.  I want to be happy for my friends, but instead I just want to crawl in a hole and cry.  Sorry for the vent.  Just wondered if anyone else went through the same type feelings?

I remember after about 8 months of trying I swore one day at Target EVERY woman there was pregant, I was so upset! And I am not like that either, it is just hard when you try so hard, I had to try for a year. She might not be so excited she is pregant, I know even after trying so hard I am just not one of those happy pregnant women. This is my second and the first one was an oops! And this time when I wanted to get pregant I could not for the life of me! And now that I am I am just one of those women who have a hard time being excited about it, I guess it is the hormones...
Good Luck I am sure it will happen just when you stop trying...well that is when it happened for me.

<3 Robyn

I know my constant whining probably makes you want to stab me. I am sorry. I am sending you all the baby dust I have left over. Last three I have sent to, got BFP within two months....I would like to think I am good luck

Crystal,  I actually really enjoy reading the FB posts from girls that are WLS patients.  It gives me tremendous insight and gives me hope!  Keep em coming!  :)

hi well send me some of that good baby dust LOL

I read the TTC post each week and mentally send it each time. I was told at age 18 I couldn't have kids. After my first, I had a missed MC and was told I shouldn't try again... I had an ectopic pregnancy rupture leaving me with one tube and am now on baby #2 post rupture, #4 total... I can happen, and I know the pain of thinking it won't...It's yours darling!

 I'm so sorry you're having a hard time.
I was able to get pregnant very quickly with my 2 children and I totally took it for granted....
We have now been TTC #3 since october with no luck and, even though its only been 4 months of TTC,  I am already feeling that twinge of envy when I see someone on fb announce a pregnancy or hear about yet another pregnant celeb. The worst is Sixteen & Pregnant, lol! ...And I'm feeling like this after a relatively short amount of time so I totally understand how it can start to make you insanely jealous after TTC for 15 months!  
I hope that clearing out those polyps does the trick and you get your BFP really soon! 
Have you considered trying something like Clomid to help things along? I just started it this month to (hopefully) help things happen more quickly and regulate my wacky cycle...  Do you know if you're ovulating?

Good luck & lots of baby dust!!!

-V

Hi! I just wanted to start out by saying to come to the board EVERY DAY to read about the new addtions and baby updates, but hardly ever post anything, because I feel like "I don't belong" since i'm not pregnant, never been pregnant, and generally know squat about babies, BUT I do love coming here.

That being said, I am in the same boat as you, although I wouldn't call it jealousy. See, I am 6 months out from surgery, and the primary reason I had it was so in 12 months the hubby and I can start trying for a baby. We have been married for 5 years and have been talking about expanding the family for a few years now. I want nothing more than to have a child. All my friends have children and I've gotten to the point where I can't stand to be around them because I get so emotional because I WANT THAT. So yes, to an extend I feel your pain. I can'****ch shows like 16 and Pregnant or Teen Mom because I get so upset because these young girls are having what I want. Although, I have been able to control my feelings most of the time, I still feel the pain inside.

Here's hoping that we get our BFP soon (yours hopefully sooner than mine!)

Hi Amy...our stories are identical.  I too, had RNY with the main purpose of being a healthier me for future babies.  Hubby and I have been together for 7 years and its hard and hard to around kids and hear about other pregnancies because we both have "baby fever" horribly.  I am not a jealous person, because I know in good time my "turn" will come, but damn its hard.  I had surgery 7/22, so I am a few week ahead of you, so maybe it will happen around the same time for us : )

Been trying for 4 and a half years...I am past jealousy into numbness.  Your feelings are natural.