Starting to get scared...

Wow, this Friday?!?!  Congratulations!!!

I've still got a little over 6 weeks to go...it's just one of those Monday's where I start fidgeting  :-)

Congrats and good luck!  Hopefully things will go much smoother this time for you!!
Hugs!

Yep. 4 days. I have refused to allow myself to think about it until now... as it's just something I have to do and freaking out isn't going to help. But trust me, I will be talking to my OB about it tomorrow. My mom said what everyone else said about the spinal versus epi... I'm having my tubal and hernia repair at the same time so I want to not feel anything this time.

thanks for the well wishes, I'll let you know how it goes!

I am also considering a tubal...given the scar tissue that has created the complications this pregnancy, I really don't think I can put my body through this again.
But in the back of my head, I worry if it's the right decision. But at the same time, I'm probably due for a full hysterectomy in the next 5 years (family history).
What made you decide to do the tubal? (If you don't mind me asking).

Good luck and can't wait to hear more.
-Jessica

I have a hernia in my previous c-section scar and they are doing a repeat c-section and going to fix it while they are there. We had already decided that we weren't having anymore kids and my husband was going to get a vasectomy. When we decided on the repeat we decided to just have my tubes ties instead of his. I was raised in an impoverished home. My parents had 4 children and loved us very much but in honesty couldn't really afford us. I don't believe in doing that. (No flames please... just my opinon). I want to give my children more than I had... not necessarily spoil them, but I don't want them to be poor either.

Before we had Tristan, we didn't believe that it would be possible for us to have children. We began to look into adoption, but we were too young. My degree is in the Social work field and I am a true believer in adoption. So while a tubal is a very permanent option for me physically.... it's not for our family. If we decide later that we can afford more children, we will adopt. If we can afford to adopt... than we can afford more children.

Physically it was an easy decision... I am very sick when I am pregnant, and I don't like not being able to take care of my children. It's not fair to them. I didn't have WLS to have children... no one ever told me it could even possibly fix my fertility problems. I did it to have a healthy life with my husband and children (I was planning to adopt at that point). Now I have my children, I want to live a healthy life with them... getting pregnant again makes that hard.

Those are just my reasons... alot of people won't agree with me. My own mother doesn't.

Victoria,
Thank you for sharing that with me.
I feel the same way on so many levels.

Hubby doesn't want anymore. I don't think my body can be put through this again. I feel like I have neglected my 5 year old in the process because he has spent more evenings taking care of me than me taking care of him.
Plus we have a family history of hysterectomies before 40, cancer, etc...so it's inevitable...

I know a tubal is pretty much permanent and in the back of my head, I've always thought about adoption. If one day I can afford it, I would love to make it happen.
I actually have a dream one day of opening like a half-way house for kids that are turning 18 and still a ward of the state. Give them a place to live while either going to school or getting a job. Give them a chance to start their lives rather than being dumped on the street. Not sure how to make it happen, but I would love to find a way to help like that.

Thank you again, it does mean a lot to read what you wrote and has certainly helped to put my mind at ease.

Super big HUGS!!!
-Jessica

Jessica, I'm so glad you ask this question as I was hearing the same thing and having the fear of the epi or spinal wearing off in the middle of a csection (talk about a horrific and scary ordeal). My first csection was an emergency due to not advancing past 3cm and fetal stress. My planned csection is scheduled for the 25th of this month and I was really worried. Thanks to some of the answers these ladies gave I too feel much better. I hear the hospital stay is not as long with the second csection??? Anyway, good luck sweetie.

~~Gina

Wow Gina, you get to meet your little one so soon!!!  I'm so happy for you.
I find out tomorrow my actual scheduled date...I think that's why it's starting to hit me to worry.

You're right, most of these posts are good at putting our minds at ease!

I too have heard that they (insurance/hospital, whichever) has lessened the stay time but for me personally, I rarely get a break at home (essentially a single parent even though I'm married) so I wouldn't mind taking as much time as possible in the hospital...But that would only be if I knew my 5 year old was in good hands...

keep us updated!
Hugs,
Jes

The anesthesiologist will be RIGHT next to you the entire time.  I kept telling mine  "I can feel my left toe" and he would shoot some more in.  If you do not get completely numb, they will not keep you awake.  They almost put me to sleep because half of my body wouldn't get numb, but they tipped me onto one side and the meds evened out and I was numb.  The actual surgery was SO not as scary as I thought it would be.  Plus you have time to mentally prepare now.  It is scary but I know you will be ok.

See, I wasn't sure if the lack of total numb is because of the way our bodies absorb things or if it is luck of the draw....
I don't want to be put completely out. I want to be there the moment my son is brought into the world and I want to hold him and never let go...
I remember with my first son, I got to kiss him but not touch him/hold him because of the surgery. That made me very sad. When I went to check out the hospital this time, things have changed and they are totally baby friendly. You get the baby in your arms as immediately as possible. They don't do pacifiers anymore unless for medical procedures (circumcisions etc). They don't get a bath until 4-5 hours later...apparently they discovered it was messing with their body temps.
So again, I'm excited over the prospect of being able to hold him so much sooner!!!  The more the reason I want the spinal to go smoothly.

Thanks again for all the kindness.

Well, just try and focus on the positive side. I have never had a C-section, but if I knew beforehand, I would be happy about these things:

You know which day you will deliver. And the approximate time. You can probably even order birth anouncements now! (jk)
You know beforehand that you need to have extra help when the 2 of you get home. Figure that out now :)
You know you are not going to have to wait around and go into labor, or have a 2 hour pushing session.
You can read up on C-sections and aftercare online now, instead of it being a big surprise. you can prepare yourself and husband better for what to expect.

Dunno, hope that helps a little :)