introduction...& a vent
Hello OH friends.
Since surgery I have been "hovering" over this board...I log in everyday and read and read and read. It brings me so much happiness to see hear about everyone elses journeys because I am literally counting the days until hubby & I can TTC.
My main reason behind WLS was for my future as a mother. I made a pact to be the best parent I could be and part of that was to not have any physical or health limitations. So I had surgery (RNY) on July 22nd, 2010, my heaviest weight was 315 (Dec 2009). I lost a bunch of weight before surgery so sugery day I was 280, I am now down to 215...holding steady at a 100lb loss since my heaviest. I have gone from size 3X/22-24, to XL/12-14. I feel good, I enjoy excercising, hell I even ran 2.5 miles last night! I could never have done that 100lbs ago!
So here's my rant...I know I am still early out, I will be 6 months on the 22nd. My weight loss has slowed, I have always stalled more then lost, so its been a battle, but lately I feel myself really loosing my focus. I keep telling myself that once I see 199 on the scale then I will be satisfied..but I feel so far away from that. I have set 2 goals for myself..."one"derland(199), then 180 which will be 100lbs lost since surgery. I feel like I will never get there and I am loosing my willpower & drive to "keep on keeping on". So many people around me are pregnant, my family & friends are all asking why hubby & I have not had kids yet. My poor hubby has baby fever horrible. He's 4 years older then more so his big thing is to have kids before he's 30..so his "clock" is ticking per say. I know that I have to wait atleast 12 months before TTC, but my heart is constantly overtaking my head and saying.."just do it" (get preggo). Ughh, I guess I just need to stay on track, focus on my goals, and fight the baby fever for another 6 months atleast.
Did any of you other ladies feel like this/experience this? Why is waiting so hard? I am dealing with so many mixed emotions...I feel like I am being selfish for making hubby wait longer, I feel sad because I not getting to experience what so many people around me are, I feel hopeless that I wont make it to goal or wont have the will power to get their before TTC...damn baby fever!
thanks for listening/reading.
~Teresa H.
Since surgery I have been "hovering" over this board...I log in everyday and read and read and read. It brings me so much happiness to see hear about everyone elses journeys because I am literally counting the days until hubby & I can TTC.
My main reason behind WLS was for my future as a mother. I made a pact to be the best parent I could be and part of that was to not have any physical or health limitations. So I had surgery (RNY) on July 22nd, 2010, my heaviest weight was 315 (Dec 2009). I lost a bunch of weight before surgery so sugery day I was 280, I am now down to 215...holding steady at a 100lb loss since my heaviest. I have gone from size 3X/22-24, to XL/12-14. I feel good, I enjoy excercising, hell I even ran 2.5 miles last night! I could never have done that 100lbs ago!
So here's my rant...I know I am still early out, I will be 6 months on the 22nd. My weight loss has slowed, I have always stalled more then lost, so its been a battle, but lately I feel myself really loosing my focus. I keep telling myself that once I see 199 on the scale then I will be satisfied..but I feel so far away from that. I have set 2 goals for myself..."one"derland(199), then 180 which will be 100lbs lost since surgery. I feel like I will never get there and I am loosing my willpower & drive to "keep on keeping on". So many people around me are pregnant, my family & friends are all asking why hubby & I have not had kids yet. My poor hubby has baby fever horrible. He's 4 years older then more so his big thing is to have kids before he's 30..so his "clock" is ticking per say. I know that I have to wait atleast 12 months before TTC, but my heart is constantly overtaking my head and saying.."just do it" (get preggo). Ughh, I guess I just need to stay on track, focus on my goals, and fight the baby fever for another 6 months atleast.
Did any of you other ladies feel like this/experience this? Why is waiting so hard? I am dealing with so many mixed emotions...I feel like I am being selfish for making hubby wait longer, I feel sad because I not getting to experience what so many people around me are, I feel hopeless that I wont make it to goal or wont have the will power to get their before TTC...damn baby fever!
thanks for listening/reading.
~Teresa H.
RNY-7/22/2010-Highest weight 315 / Surgery weight 280 / Current weight 186
1st Goal weight 199~"one"derland-REACHED! 2nd Goal weight 180~-TO BE CONTINUED!
1st 5K: 29.48-5/19/2011
2nd 5K: 26.47-7/16/2011 
1st Goal weight 199~"one"derland-REACHED! 2nd Goal weight 180~-TO BE CONTINUED!
1st 5K: 29.48-5/19/2011
2nd 5K: 26.47-7/16/2011 
Hi.
First off, you have a window of 18 months after RNY for rapid weight loss. Just because you are stalling doesn't mean you are not going to lose any more.
Your husband thinks 30 is a goal for having kids? Seriously? I guess the better question is, are you both in a position to provide financially for a baby and the lifestyle you desire?
You are in your mid-twenties, so there is no rush. Your clock (or his) is not ticking yet, for a long time. Give yourself a little time to enjoy each other and your weight loss before saddling yourself with a baby. My husband is 40, most of his classmates from college are just now having their 1st or 2nd kids. We are still trying for our first.
It is up to you, of course...but please don't let anyone pressure you into having a baby right now, especially so close out to your surgery. A lot of women post-wls struggle to get their baby weight off.
Good luck in whatever you decide.
First off, you have a window of 18 months after RNY for rapid weight loss. Just because you are stalling doesn't mean you are not going to lose any more.
Your husband thinks 30 is a goal for having kids? Seriously? I guess the better question is, are you both in a position to provide financially for a baby and the lifestyle you desire?
You are in your mid-twenties, so there is no rush. Your clock (or his) is not ticking yet, for a long time. Give yourself a little time to enjoy each other and your weight loss before saddling yourself with a baby. My husband is 40, most of his classmates from college are just now having their 1st or 2nd kids. We are still trying for our first.
It is up to you, of course...but please don't let anyone pressure you into having a baby right now, especially so close out to your surgery. A lot of women post-wls struggle to get their baby weight off.
Good luck in whatever you decide.
M/C 10/18/10 9w2d...forever loved
It's a boy!
Thank you Chelle for your reply..I agree there is no rush. I just turned 25, he'll be 29 this year..we've been together for 7 years, married for 3, we both have secure jobs with great benefits, so we are financially set, and we have owned our home for 2 years now, so we have the "space".
I guess I don't feel pressured...maybe I didnt write that clearly enough in my post...or maybe the "pressure" is coming from my internal want/desire to be a mother..but the flip side is the want to be "skinny/healthy"...hmmm so the conflict is coming from within but all the outside factors dont help I guess is what im trying to say maybe?
I guess I don't feel pressured...maybe I didnt write that clearly enough in my post...or maybe the "pressure" is coming from my internal want/desire to be a mother..but the flip side is the want to be "skinny/healthy"...hmmm so the conflict is coming from within but all the outside factors dont help I guess is what im trying to say maybe?
RNY-7/22/2010-Highest weight 315 / Surgery weight 280 / Current weight 186
1st Goal weight 199~"one"derland-REACHED! 2nd Goal weight 180~-TO BE CONTINUED!
1st 5K: 29.48-5/19/2011 2nd 5K: 26.47-7/16/2011
1st Goal weight 199~"one"derland-REACHED! 2nd Goal weight 180~-TO BE CONTINUED!
1st 5K: 29.48-5/19/2011
2nd 5K: 26.47-7/16/2011 
Teresa,
Congrats on your fantastic success so far with your weight loss. Seriously... how many people can say they lost 100 lbs in a year?!?! Like Chelle said, stalls happen... you're still very much able to lose more weight. I think your reasoning for "hovering" and posting on this board is your motivation to keep losing the rest of your excess weight... having a healthy pregnancy so you can have a healthy baby and enjoy life with your new family. The healthier you are the healthier your pregnancy will be and your baby as well.
6 months out from RNY... the honeymoon period is not over. So mix up your workout routines... change up your diet a bit... try different types of proteins. The slow downs are absolutely normal... happens to all of us. But it doesn't mean that your weight loss is over... just means that you might need to shake up your routine a bit.
You will get to have your baby... you and your husband are still plenty young.. you have many years ahead of you before your "clock" actually starts ticking. I'm 40 now and my fiance is 36 and we're TTC now. My dr is pleased a*****h that we're doing it now and not a few years ago because now that I've released 130 lbs I'm the healthiest that I've been in well over 20 years! I weigh less now than I did at age 14.
And with all of that said... I totally get baby fever! Just use that energy now to keep you focused on getting well into Onederland and think of it as making a healthy & vibrant home for your soon-to-be-growing baby!
Congrats on your fantastic success so far with your weight loss. Seriously... how many people can say they lost 100 lbs in a year?!?! Like Chelle said, stalls happen... you're still very much able to lose more weight. I think your reasoning for "hovering" and posting on this board is your motivation to keep losing the rest of your excess weight... having a healthy pregnancy so you can have a healthy baby and enjoy life with your new family. The healthier you are the healthier your pregnancy will be and your baby as well.
6 months out from RNY... the honeymoon period is not over. So mix up your workout routines... change up your diet a bit... try different types of proteins. The slow downs are absolutely normal... happens to all of us. But it doesn't mean that your weight loss is over... just means that you might need to shake up your routine a bit.
You will get to have your baby... you and your husband are still plenty young.. you have many years ahead of you before your "clock" actually starts ticking. I'm 40 now and my fiance is 36 and we're TTC now. My dr is pleased a*****h that we're doing it now and not a few years ago because now that I've released 130 lbs I'm the healthiest that I've been in well over 20 years! I weigh less now than I did at age 14.
And with all of that said... I totally get baby fever! Just use that energy now to keep you focused on getting well into Onederland and think of it as making a healthy & vibrant home for your soon-to-be-growing baby!
Our little miracle baby boy is on his way!
I do understand your desire for a baby...I truly do. That said...I really think you need to wait for another 6-12 months and do what's best for you and your body so that you're the healthiest you can be for your future children. You're young and you have many years ahead of you to TTC and build your family...but you won't have this window of 'easy' weight loss for years to come (not that you can't lose weight later, it just won't be as quick/easy as it is right now). Don't ru**** You'll be glad you waited that little bit longer once you're at or below your goal weight and happily pregnant in your healthy body.
Holly
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Hi Teresa,
I TOTALLY feel you on the baby fever! I had a recent revision and am waiting my 12 months too. It is hard to wait because when you are ready for a baby, you are ready. I don't have any advice on how to make it easier. I stay busy with work etc. and the weeks (and pounds) just kind of slip by. I started with the baby fever about 2 years ago. My hubby and I actually tried to get pregnant but I was too unhealthy and infertile because of my weight. Everyone I know is getting pregnant too. They didn't have to lose 100+ pounds first. I have jealousy issues about it. But I'm trying to be patient and look forward to the future! You only have a few months left! Pretty exciting!
GOod luck,
Nikki
I TOTALLY feel you on the baby fever! I had a recent revision and am waiting my 12 months too. It is hard to wait because when you are ready for a baby, you are ready. I don't have any advice on how to make it easier. I stay busy with work etc. and the weeks (and pounds) just kind of slip by. I started with the baby fever about 2 years ago. My hubby and I actually tried to get pregnant but I was too unhealthy and infertile because of my weight. Everyone I know is getting pregnant too. They didn't have to lose 100+ pounds first. I have jealousy issues about it. But I'm trying to be patient and look forward to the future! You only have a few months left! Pretty exciting!
GOod luck,
Nikki
Lapband 8/2007. Revised to VSG 10/2010.... 170 pounds lost!
Teresa- my reply is not about any of the baby stuff. But I wanted to let you know that I started out at 311. I was 300 day of surgery and I wasn't sure where I'd end up weight wise. Alls I know is it really started slowing down after the first year. But guess what 1year and 4months out from WLS I got to my lowest weight of 170. So you should just hang in there, because trust me it will happen!
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