How do you know everything is ok?

This is my first pregnancy and I am now 7w2d out (I know -- SUPER early).  I had my first US last week -- we saw the heartbeat and put my due date at 7/31/10.  I don't go bac****il Jan 10th.

the thing is, I was much less further along than my LMP would indicate.  I should've been 10 wks, but was only 6.  They said I ovulated late (right before my period), but it still makes me scared that something is wrong.  (my mom said she has 40 day cycles --maybe I do, too?) Has that happened to anyone?

So how do you know in-between appointments that everything is ok?  Can something go wrong and I not know about it until the next u/s?  If there is no blood -- does that mean everthing is ok?  Is there any way to ease this constant fear I am having?  I can't stay out of the bathroom to look for blood and it's hard to get excited because I'm scared something bad will happen and I won't know.  I'm starting to have nightmares. 

As an aside, I also have this milky white discharge ...is that normal?

Thanks, ladies :-D

Hi Melinda!! First, take a deep breath! :) You are NOT alone and I've been where you are now and it's EXTREMELY nerve wracking between visits and what nots, but try not to let yourself get too stressed over it. I was in a similar boat with the whole ovulation thing except for the fact that I hadn't had a period since March, got a BFN in June, took my normal round of birth control to induce my period (did this every 3 months regularly just to get a period), and wound up with a BFP in July. Now, I'm 28 weeks along and things have progressed smoothly. I'm a first time mom myself and I know where you're coming from. I must have thought about and researched every possible problem and complication you could think of. I didn't get to feel my little guy's first "real" movements til almost 19 weeks. I was frustrated, nervous, and scared all at the same time, but I assure the nervous feelings will get a little better. I can't say they will subside because I still start to worry about things- especially when my little guy decides to have an inactive type day. Then, there's the whole kick counting thing you start to hear about and I've not let myself become obsessed with it.

Not to scare you in any way- but there is always a chance of something happening regardless of how much we like to think there isn't, but it's not something to try to stress over. Try to just think positively and listen to your body. If something doesn't feel right, call your doctor or ask away on the board...the girls here are awesome at offering help.  And our doctor's are more than likely used to the typical "what if" questions from us preggos. We have a tendency to worry of course :) As for the milky white discharge, very normal as long as there is no odor or irritation down there. Always ask your dr at your appointments though if there is anything like that you aren't sure of because there are times when certain types of infections can occur and not necessarily have an odor. I had 2 seperate yeast infections in my first trimester, but didn't have any odor or even discharge with the second one. So far, (knock on wood) it has been smooth sailing since in that department.

Hang in there and try not to let your mind wonder- I so know it's easier said than done. Enjoy the experience cus let me tell you it FLIES right on by and before you know it's almost over...I'm so in shock that I'm already into my 7th month and my baby boy will hopefully be in my arms in just a little over 2-3 short months :) But, don't worry you're NOT crazy and it's all normal girl!  Hugs

~Kerri

I have felt that way with every pregnancy, it is not something that ever goes away sadly. My mother calls it one of many mother's burdens. The one thing you can assure yourself with is you have had an ultrasound, found a heartbeat, and baby is in the right place. All of the factors alone are great signs. Can something happen between appointments without you knowing....yes. I am not going to lie. BUT stressing about whether you will fall into that rarer catagory (missed miscarriages have much lower percentage than traditional miscarriage) isn't going to do anything but drive you mad.

So coming from someone that has been on both sides, succesful pregnancies and losses, enjoy it! If you spend the next few weeks worrying and stressing, you will regret it when all turns out A-OK.

First off mama, STOP STRESSING AND BREATHE!!
really, you stressing isnt good!

Dont worry about your due date or how long your US says you are. I have always said US are guesstimation machines, they are not always accurate. It also depends on the tech that did and if they measure right or not.

How do you know if everything is alright between appt? you dont. As of right now, I have been told that if you see the sac and see the hb and its all in the right area, chances of something wrong is rare. NOT saying there couldnt be, just the chances of something wrong is less of a chance. You wont know until you start to feel movement and that wont happen til at least 14-16wks and you will feel twinges. Actually hearing the HB on the doppler is every moms godsend, as soon as i hear it, I know things will be fine for the next 5months. JUST to let you know they wont be able to pick up the HB at first, because of the placement where the baby is, if the doppler is cooperating etc...

Milky white discharge is very normal. It will increase. What you ahve to look out for is "snot balls" or greenish yellowish color. Nothing to be alarmed about just mention it to your dr, it is what they call in laymens terms a "bacterial yeast infection" and it is NORMAL for pregnant women to get it. They will prescribe a antibiotic and thats it. THere is a chance for increased UTI, and yeast infections just to give you heads up. Your body will let you know when and if there is something wrong. IF you think there is something wrong, DO NOT hesitate and go to the ER. Dont wait aroudn for answers on the "boards" etc...(pet peeve of mine)

Now, bleeding in the first part of your pregnancy can be normal. Like having your period. WHEN TO FREAK OUT IF you have CLOTS and globs and BRIGHT RED blood and cramping to go with it, go to the er. If you gush blood goto ER. IF you pee and wipe and there is "tinge" its probably just irritation of the cervix. Happens after having sex etc...your cerivx is so engorged with blood that it will "bleed" when tempered with. NOW should you stop having sex? Um no. Wont hurt you or baby, actually in the end helps baby come out. =)

WE all have the worries about the what ifs and the other "unmentionables" that could happen. You have to relax and go wow! im pregnant. How awesome is that? By the 3rd pregnancy you will be a pro. WE ALL have been through this before when we are first time pregnant. I bled the whole 3 months with my first 3. ALL 3 healthy as can be...Now with my 4th, i bled from my 2/3month to my 5th month...im 35wks pregnant this week...and he is thriving kicking and trying to bust out sooner than what he needs too..(even tho my youngest boy seems to thiink he needs to come now for xmas and we have the seat bottles, and milk and diapers and most importantly his jammies)

I have had 3 m/c, and believe me when you have a m/c your body will LET YOU KNOW!!! just like it will let you know that if there is something wrong. Think about how when you get sick, you just dont "feel right"....Well when your pregnant and dont "feel right" usually means get butt to ER just to get check to make sure its ok....sorry for rambling.

SO sit back put your feet up and make your significant other treat you like a queen...people call and ask what im doing i flat out tell em, "talking to on the phone, dinking on the computer, watching kids and tv....oh and incubating a baby. What about you?" =)
keep us posted and PLEASE RELAX!!!!

Thank you all SO MUCH for your help.  I just tried for soooo long to get pregnant and never did -- then I have surgery, lose 150#, and get pregnant by mistake (though it's a way happy mistake).  It's all unreal to me and I just can't imagine it being this easy.
I do need to relax ... stressing does nothing for me.  I will have to chill out and just wait until my appt in Jan.
Thank you, again ...I can't tell you how much comfort I have taken from all of your words!

Hi,
You may want to invest in a medical-grade fetal heartrate doppler. You can get them off Ebay and other websites for an average of $99. Mine was  supposed to start picking up the heartbeat at 10 weeks but started at 7weeks. Sadly, it was how I realized something was wrong. Getting one may help put you at ease. You can also rent them, but since you are still early, you can get more value from purchasing it. Good luck!

awesome!  thanks for the suggestion.  Imma look into that