Well... I'm Back!

Chrissy

Congrats on your pregnancy - I wish you and your babies - this one as well as the others the best.  I truly do.

That said...I'm gonna kick you in the ass - all meant with good intentions - for just a minute.  You - and some others - may not like what I'm going to say, and I'm OK with that.  One thing I think anyone can say about me on here is that I've always let you guys know how I feel...and I don't do it to be a *****y ass...but more in the hopes that I get through to you to do something for yourself.

I assume you had WLS to lose weight and live a healthier - and hopefully longer - life for yourself, your fiance, and the one daughter you had.  Whatever the cir****tances, you ended up pregnant with your boys almost immediately after surgery - and they're beautiful and you're truly blessed with them.  Now, rather than once again taking the opportunity to continue taking care of Chrissy - so Chrissy can take care of her family - you've gotten pregnant again.  I STRONGLY suggest you have this baby (I would never recommenhd otherwise, because I know you want the baby) - then either get your tubes tied - or get on some kick-ass birth control that does not require you or your fiance's operational skills into it's use - until you've got your life in order. 

I believe you responded to Lexa that you now have a car and fiance has a job and you're looking for a job.  Please tell...how are you going to look for a job when you currently have three - with at least one more on the way - babies under three years old to take care of?  How will you manage day care?  How about the expenses?  I'm sure you've figured out by now that babies are expensive.  I am assuming - and I'm sorry if I'm wrong in this assumption - that you're receiving public assistance in many shapes and forms.  To continue getting pregnant without 1) taking care of yourself and letting your surgery - your LIFE CHANGING, LIFE SAVING surgery - do it's work; and 2) not have a method of self-support for these children - is beyond irresponsible....it's selfish.  Selfish towards your living children right now, towards this future baby, and honestly - towards the tax payers who are shelling out the money to support you and your children.  It may all come free to you...but trust me, when I see that chunk of change taken out of my pay check each pay day - and it is a large chunk of change! - it is NOT free to me or to anyone else out there doing their part.  I am NOT against people receiving assistance when they needed it...I'm against using it as a life style to raise and support multiple children that the recipient couldn't afford in the first place. 

PLEASE take the time during this pregnancy to do something for Chrissy - get an education so you can get a job once all these babies are old enough to go to day care - that will likely be paid for by all those chunks of change - so YOU can contribute to the system and reach down and help the next person get up there on that ladder too.  Get busy getting in shape.  You can walk for free - and it will not harm this pregnancy.  You may not lose a lot - if any - during pregnancy, but you can stop an regain, and you can get your body conditioned to burning calories and get it used to exercise - then CONTINUE IT after this baby comes.  Do what you have to do to get yourself into a healthier condition so you'll be there for years to come for all of your babies.  Do it for Chrissy plain and simply because Chrissy deserves to live a full life - full on a daily basis and full as in years to come.  You're so young...do it now before life keeps passing you by.

That's my soap box.  Again, I know I may have offended you...but that is not my intention...I'm just trying to kick you in the ass to get you to take care of yourself for you...and for your kids...this one and the three you already have.  Once you've gotten yourself healthy - and self employed and supporting your family - If you choose to have a baby every year - I'll pray for it to happen and more power to you.

 

I may not post here but I do pop by quite so often for a peek and this is why I LOVE you Holly. Always honest but with the best intentions. Well said response and I agree with you completely. The help from the system is for a reason...get on, get help, better yourself, and get off...leave something for the next person. Have some pride and be responsible at least for those who do and will look up to you.

While we are being honest, I have to say this -

S, YOU are my hero! You are working so hard as a mommy and a student so that you can both have a better life, I see your posts on FB about all the juggling you do to get stuff done, but you always seem to get it done, and done well!

You are setting an amazing example for your little girl, keep up the good work mama!

Courtney find me on fb. Jessica McDole

Coutrney you almost just made me cry. Thank you so much for those words...it maked my day. I'm am just trying to do whats best for her and so that she can see what true hard work is and can accomplish (one day she will see it). But really, not a hero just a mommy. Its what I needed to do to be able to provide for us both the honest and prideful way and I would think and hope any woman in my situation would do the same. 

and thankfully its all paid off...as of tomorrow I AM a college graduate...woot woot lol. 

Congrats on your graduation tomorrow! It can't be easy being a mommy and a student.  I hope your hard work pays off in spades and helps you get a good job to move to the next rung of the ladder.  You are a good example to your little girl - and to other young women in the same situation.

Me too... Samara Makinsi

Amine...TbarkAllah 3lik! I love you Holly!

i guess she is gone now.  I really liked the girl but honestly she is messing up her body so bad and, from someone who doesn't receive any financial assistance with the exception of WIC having 4 kids, with that low of an income is completely irresponsible. 

I feel bad that she felt the need to leave...that wasn't my intention at all.  I have no problem with someone receiving WIC - or even food stamps or low income housing or whatever - as help to get by and make ends meet while they do as much as possible to help themselves.  I do have a problem with someone sitting there doing nothing but having baby after baby after baby and doing nothing to prevent it...and nothing to support themselves, simply relying on the tax payers to provide everything for them.