Question about Sex?

Hey ladies! Hope everyone is doing wonderfully! Well, I was just wondering about something and I knew this was the place I could share and hopefully get some feedback. So, anywho, since I found out I was pregnant there have been 2 major changes when it comes to sex for me- 1. I have NO desire to have any and 2. I constantly have this raw down there irritated feeling and I can't understand why, but my body is no longer self lubricating in any way. Has anyone else experienced this? DH and I were VERY active before the pregnancy, but everything has changed BIG time and it's all because of me. He's been very understanding throughtout, but I get frustrated because I have the urge and the desire to be intimate with him, but I am so afraid it's going to hurt. We never were big lube people and now we can't even think of the word sex without having to get it out. I found this really awesome stuff that is supposed to be like a tingling type lube, but once it's applied it kind of makes me numb down there during sex and for a little while after, however, the next day it's very painful and sore and irritated. I've discussed it with some friends and they have mostly told me that the opposite has applied to them and that they never had to use any type of lube during pregnancy. I was just wondering if anyone else is experiencing anything like this? It's so frustrating and I'm trying not to put too much emphasis on it, but I don't want my husband to think it's his fault or anything. I have talked to him, but I still feel bad :(

I was this way last pregnancy and we just used reg. lube. Nothing tingly or anything for fear it would be worse. I would just get a regular lube and try it.

My husband and I are waiting til the 1st trimester is over to have sex again :-(  My sister just went through a miscarriage and I am so scared, so I am taking every precaution. I can't wait till the 2nd trimester gets here. Not sure who is more excited- him or me. lol

Ok, you do not need the fancy smancy lube that makes you tingle, or the his mine or ours stuff from KY. I use to sell Pure Romance. =)
It sounds like you need a basic lube. Just goto Walmart, goto the "forbidden" aisle and get a WATERbased kind. You are very sensitive "down there" while you are pregnancy, smells heighten, sensitivities do too. As for the "desire" it is natural for that to happen during pregnancy. Our bodies are very weird in some area when it comes to sex and pregnancy, its like OK we did the deed NOW we can rest and grow the baby.
Now I am not going to ask "what you do" before hand or whatever, but just have to take your time a little longer before. You might feel that your pressured because of your prior sex life prebaby. After you are pregnant, and this goes for menopause and cancer treatment patients etc, your body chemistry changes.
If you are IRRITATED, you need a nonscented, nonflavored, nonextrasupposetobethenextbestthingtobreathing, lube. Just a basic, water based kind. IF you are extra "dry", then you need to use a silicon based kind. That will give the extra "slip" for non "rubbing raw" feeling afterwards.
Water based lubes are the ones that are the closest things to your own body "wetness"
Silicone based lubes are good for a couple of things, water play and "extra long time play" and "another area play I wont mention cuz i think we are all adults can figure out where this statement applies too"

Hope this helps.

If anyone has any questions about anything Sex, feel free to get ahold of me privately. I stopped selling Pure Romance ONLY because of my divorce and the EX and his lawyer seem to think that my profession was not appropriate for my family....
SO, dont be afraid to ask. No question is to big or to small or not important. Dont be embarassed for asking questions.

Kerri,

If you are having the "raw down there irritated" feeling all the time (not just after sex), I would have your OB check you for candidiasis (yeast) or vaginits. You may have an infection that's making it raw and irritated and causing pain. If that's the case, a quick round of Nystatin or Lotrimin cream or antibiotic could clear that up for you...

Just what I thought of, the yeast issue. Sometimes you can have a yeast infection with no discharge, but it can make your skin feel quite raw. I would avoid any tingly lubes as, if the problem isn't yeast but hormones just making your skin sensitive, they may irritate things more. There is a neat product from KY that is an ovule you insert and it provides lubrication for a couple of days at a time.

I just went to the doctor's on Tuesday and she in fact made sure it wasn't a yeast infection because of the way I described it to her. I have had 2 major yeast infections since I found out, but it's been about 3 months now...it was in the beginning and both times it happened after we used a cheaper lubricant like KY. The lube we've been using was a more expensive type we had purchased last year and it seems to be the only type of lubricant I can use that doesn't give me a yeast infection.  I'm going to take a look into the ovules you are talking about though for sure. It never hurts to try. No matter what we try to do- all foreplay just seems to hurt or burn and irritate me so I won't even let him come within inches of me without applying the lube first.

Astroglide is a permanent fixture on my nighttable. I don't even bother trying to hide it anymore.
(wow, can;t believe I just typed that online LOL)

 Aawwww dang girl that stinks! I have no problems with my sexual drive! I actually want sex more than ever before! And have no problems lubing up LOL> Hope you can find a way to get better ; )

if you are having repeated yeast infections, make sure to cleanse things that are entering that area. (hands, fingers, his.. little man, etc) and a BIG culprit is a man's mouth. Certain men produce more yeast in their mouths than others. Just an FYI.





also, LOVE pure romance stuff. Never have had a problem with their lubes.. not sticky or greasy! I love the "whipped" and use it all the time, and also have the "just like me" which is lighter and good for sensitve days. Im not a huge KY fan myself. You can get many different products online that are shipped to you in a descrete package. I was very sexually aroused my first trimester.. now not so much in my 2nd. We shall see what happens in the 3rd! (my first child made me like a caat in heat the whole pregnancy!)





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best of luck! LUBE, LUBE LUBE!