i dont think shes judging.. shes expressing her concern and disbelief... quite frankly i dont understand it either... and nothing is out of someones control... even death can be controlled by the person to an extent...

This is so sad.  But I hate to say it, it is all over.  I have read so much about child abuse and bad parents.  Today I read about a lady's son came in and told her he colored her sheets.  She was so angry she beat him to death.  After she calmed down she tried to wake him but it was to late.  She went in the room and he had written, Mummy, I love you.  I cried when I read this.  What about the lady who is accused for putting her 3 month old baby in the microwave and killing her because she was drunk and her boyfriend was fighting over if he was the daddy.  People are so sad.  I feel so sad for them.  I have three very small babies and a teenage girl, I get very angry and mad but I would never hurt one.  They are God's gifts.  I would NEVER leave my child with anyone abusive, well, I actually don't leave them at all.

Like I had said, plussizebarbie. YOUR not sure or havent told us all the information about the situation. SOMETIMES as moms, we have to make big girl decisions, including on if we are going to leave our childrent with someone who CAN take care of them, If his dad doesnt hurt him or take care of him, then yes, it was a bad choice on her part. I know lots of people that have been in the situation and it worked out for the best of them.
Why would she take down pictures of her son? PROBABLY because it hurt her to see him all the time, OR she was "court ordered" to do so. Yes it is sad for her son,
As a mom, I DO understand why she did what she did. Maybe because I am older and I have experienced things and witnessed a few more things. There is more to the story than meets the eye.
Like me and the soon to be ex DH, what happened behind closed doors is what happens. When in an abusive relationship things are TOTALLY different. You put on a front in front of loved ones and friends. When actually you want to scream on the top of your lungs as to what is really happening.
You said he was a lousy husband, well, he probably mentally and emotionally abused her to a breaking point and she couldnt handle it anymore. Instead of fighting him, yes she gave up. Believe me, do you know how many times I have just wanted to sign the kids over to the ex-dh? Just because of the drama? TONS!! hell i thought about it a few days ago.
Is she selfish because she wants to make a new life for herself without her son? HOW do we know that this is what is happening? MAYBE she is getting her life together so she can come and get her son or whatever. Like I have said, 3sides to every story. SOrry if im sounding like im griping at you. MAYBE when she does call to see how her son is, WHOEVER has him isnt giving her the information etc...
Just see it from outside the box.

To me, it sounds like the right parent has custody of that baby.

I never question anything anybody does anymore. After watching stories of children getting abused and killed by their parents all across the world. I much rather see someone give up their child if they don't feel they can handle it instead of keeping their child and possibly putting that child in danger or not taking care of the child correctly.

I will also say this I was in an emotionally abusive relationship for several years. I had no kids at the time thank goodness. It was the hardest thing I ever went through and the hardest thing I had to get over in my whole life. There are times now that it still affects me and this was 8 years ago. When I was coming out of the situation I was out of my head. I was doing things that were wayyy out of character, some very risky behavior. I snapped back to my senses and reality after getting pregnant because I had someone else I had to take care of.

So I would just be her friend. I would tell her if she needed to talk no judgement then you were there if not you respect her privacy. Don't be surprised though if she pulls away from you completely.

I don't know why things like this happen. I had a friend in High School who seemed perfectly happy, had a great relationship and had just had a baby then out of nowhere leaves him and the baby for another guy in England. IT is sad for her Son!