I honestly do not get this at all...

I have a friend who I have known for about 10 years.  Sage and her son Leo are only days apart so we always are comparing notes about what they are doing ect...  She lives in Illinois so we talk on facebook.  After her son was born she was having horrible problems with her marriage.  Her husband was very mentally abusive.  She thought he had changed then he got worse.  By all accounts he seems to be like a decent father, just a lousy husband.

Anyway about a month ago she took down every single picture of her baby.  She took out her location off facebook.  I noticed she had posts saying stuff like "I love sleeping in" and "getting a massage."  She's been posting pictures of her in Hawaii, where she lived for 5 years after high school.  Also pics of her with her friends, new boyfriend ect.  I posted "how's your little man doing" on her wall and she deleted my message, then put a status up saying "Do not ask me about my son, I don't know how he is, his father has him"

Wow.  I know she was in an abusive relationship but would you EVER ever leave your 6 month old an start over in Hawaii and not even know how he is doing??  It just makes me SO upset for her son...

Some people honestly are not meant to be parents. My step kids Mom basically did the same thing and have not seem them in 9 years. In her head maybe that was the only way to get out of that relationship. It's awful though. I can't even imagine it!

wow... *blink blink* i personally wouldn't understand it either. But yeah... everyone's life is very different and it sounds like her marriage was beyond horrible.  She has a new start and I just hope that everyone is safe and in a better place.

That is absoloutely awful to hear, but the SAD part is like the other posters said- it does happen. It happened with my husband's daughter's. In fact, my husband has custody of the oldest girl (11), and she isn't even biologically his. Her biological dad and her mom both signed the court paperwork to even state that he had guardianship in order for us to relocate out of state. The night we left Texas, we offered to even pick her up to see the girls before we left. She was at our hotel for 20 minutes and started complaining she was hungry, so her and her husband left to go eat, cam back 2 hours later, spent 10 more minutes with the kids and we dropped them back off. The girls however didn't even shed a tear saying good bye to her. She lost them to CPS two seperate occasions, so yes unfortunately some moms are just not meant to be "moms" per say. She loves the title and anytime we send her pictures of the girls she posts them like she took them all over her Facebook and loves to have people comment on them. It;s frustrating yet sad at the same time, but it does happen. :(

She hasn't seen them in 2 years and now all of a sudden since she found out we're expecting she's threatening to try to get custody of them...a battle were in no way afraid of, but on top of it emails me daily to tell me about how she's going to stress me out so that I either loose the baby (like we mad eher loose her babies) or cause me to go in to pre-term labor and have something bad happens to him...she's beyond sick and twisted!!

WTF?  Your DH's ex sounds like a psycho.  I hope you're saving all the emails from her so that if she's stupid enough to (try to) go to court you have something to show that she's not mentally fit to be a parent to the girls.  I wouldn't reply to her either...and hope you don't let her get to you (too much).

Tell me about it Holly! She is beyond pyscho. Her newest move this week was to email my husband's mother begging for help. LOL it didn't get her far. We have over 400 emails from her saved over the last 3 years. We stopped replying to her months ago and told her to serve us with papers otherwise we wont answer her so that's why she contacted his mom. Not to mention the weirdo she married is psycho- he was told he had to get rid of a cat cus the lady they were living with was allergic and he said he would rather die with the cat then let her go and soaked himself and the cat in lighter fluid!! Not someone who needs to be spending time with the girls! Like I said- some people are just not meant to be "moms" and it makes me sick! Last year, I was really struggling with coming to terms with the fact that I didn't think I could have my own child and becoming a stay at home mommy to 3 girls that weren't biologically mine. To add insult to injury she left me messages offline saying that if we ever did get pregnant she hoped the baby died or was born with a disease like his brother's youngest daughter- who has Pradder Willie Syndrome. It hurt at first, but seeing an email from her now only makes me laugh and giggle...I will continue living my life happily with my husband and the girls and when the sheriff knocks on the door then we can play hard ball LOL   :)

Isn't it funny - in a scary as hell way - how one psychotic freak can find a match to their craziness in the world?  Did someone at least call animal control to take away his cat before he really ended up killing it?   At least you have custody of the girls and know that they're not around these people. 

Having seen some of the court documents a mentally unstable person can actually manage to get  filed in court (through my work), don't be surprised if she does actually get some sort of court documents filed.  If it happens, don't panic, just get an attorney (I know, not an expense you want, but what can you do?) and let him/her handle it.  Just keep your sense of humor for now and be glad that you're a state or two away. 

In my experience, there's always two sides to every story. I have a friend/coworker who went through a divorce... she plays the victim because he cheated on her. However, he offered to get marital counseling, sex therapy, and was willing to do whatever it took, but she just was not interested. And yet, she acts like he's such a bad person and treated her so badly and was verbally abusive. Yeah, you think? You aren't willing to work at your marriage to make your spouse happy and you take and take and take and never give anything in return? Duhhh.

That's really sad for your friend's son... but hopefully everyone is happier and in a better place.

You dont know the whole story about why she doesnt have her son. Apparently something really bad happened that was out of her control. How do you know she doesnt try and contact them?
Like it was said, there are actually 3 sides to every story. His Hers and the truth. How can we judge someone without knowing everything, hell why are we even judging?
As for her taking down the pictures etc, thats probably her way of dealing with it. People act differently than you or I when it comes to something like this. This is probably her way of grieving over the situation.
Could be too that she has PPD. It hits kinda like PTSD, Doesnt have to happen right away.
If she wants to talk about it im sure when she is ready she will. Just dont judge her, and think HOW COULD YOU, mentality. WE dont know exactly went on.
Sorry, but thats the way I feel about it.

i am absolutely not judging her I am wondering if it makes sense to anyone else.  I do not know if she is contacting them but what I do know is she left without him of her own will.  She has stated that before, she left him on purpose.  What I don't get, as a mother I would be trying to get my life together with my child.