Baby Shower ON Sunday!! Super Excited!!

 I am having my baby shower on Sundays that my sisters have planned and I am so super excited and thrilled to have some fun with family members and friends! 

Only thing I am not thrilled about is how my husbands family are not attending because they have other plans which to me seems rude. This baby shower has been planned for 2 months and not one of his family is coming. So to me that is just saying they do not care about their sons first child of his.

So in my eyes I told my husband they can go Kick Rocks..and not ever have to see this baby ever if they are not going to come to the baby shower. Just upsets me. I told my husband they better not even show up at the hospital when baby girl is born. That would just tick me off. Im sick of going around them and making our plans around their lives and when its conventient for them. They have not put forth any effort to call their son ask how I am doing or how the baby is doing. Here my family has been so thrilled about me being pregnant cause we did not ever think that was going to happen. And his family just brushes us off like its nothing.

Well Im not going to make trips to their house or a phone call when she comes along. If they want to see her they best make the effort on their own cause im done trying to please them. What for? LOL>.here im suppose to be excited about a baby shower and I am but ticked off about my inlaws.

Oh girl, I feel your pain. My daughter's father's family did not like me. They did show up at the baby shower, last minute, with a $5.00 toy (and they are well off people). She is now 12 and I have spent years fuming over their behavior, but all it did was aggravate me more. You have to let some of it go, and just concentrate on the arrival of your little one. Things may change when you have the baby. If they do show up at the hospital, just smile and pretend you are glad they came. Same with every other event in her life. If you expect nothing, then you wont be let down. I know it's sad and frustrating. But at least she will have your family and friends. The more people she has in her life, the better and if your in-laws soften up eventually.....great. But don't spend time fuming over it. You can't change people or their attitudes.

Hey girl! Well, I can't say I understand on the in-laws part, but I can completely understand why you're upset and it's a shame that they feel that way. I said it before- I was born a girl and on my dad's side of the family (and the first grandchild but that didn't matter either) and it was like I had to earn any love with his parents. Prime example- my dad had to call and threaten my grandfather on the day I graduated high school. He decided he wasn't feeling well, so he just wasn't going to go. My own father, who I was never really super close with either, called him and told him that if he didn't go my dad would never speak to him again. The baby won't quite understand the backlash right away and as much as you feel burned, try not to show it...especially to them. My mom was so strong when I grew up...she never talked one bit badly about my dad's family and allowed me to form my own opinions. I love my grandparents, but their true colors eventually showed and I will remember the big and little things that happened in my childhood and growing up. But this is "your" child so hold your head up high and don't let them get you down. Be happy that you're going to have your own baby girl to hug and kiss and shower with love. It doesn't take extended family to show a child they're loved- even though it hurts us as the parents and we may never understand how someone could feel this way.

Have a wonderful time at your shower girl! Hope you get lots of nice things! :)

 Yeah thats the thing I understand how it feels not to have the grandparents have anything to do with you or more like favor other grandkids than you. I grew up where my dads parents just did for us cause they felt they had to but they favored my dads sisters kids more than his. Growing up we all caught on..and now some of my aunts kids caught on too. The granddaughters get left out of everything..but yet my grandmothers grandsons get everything they want or need. If they asked grandmom for anything they got it.

If we wanted to ask something even to spend the night we got told no cause of a something going on. Or because of another one that might already be there. I love my grandfather cause hes not like that..and he knows how my grandmother is and sees the same thing we do. We cannot even have get togethers anymore cause the family cannot stand my cousin chad and his wife cause my grandmother does everything for them. And we just get shafted. However I found out that my grandmother is really excited for me and Shawn with having our baby. Which was  a shocker for me to hear. And I am in amazement knowing she is going to come to my baby shower cause I did not think she would. And I always said I did not want to bring kids up where one set of grandparents were favoring others over the others. Cause I grew up that way and know how it feels. Little did I know his parents were going to be this way. Oh well..but like you said I am not going to say anything to my daughter about them. I will let her figure it out on her own and let her decide what she feels about it. Except I am not making the effort to bring her to them for them to her either. I have been with my husband for 3 yrs and they do not ever just want to come visit us at all. They have not ever said what are you doing lets do something or whatever. Ive even invited them for dinner and they cancelled cause of something. Im done just trying to bring them around if they dont want to then they dont. Screw'em.

You got it!!! They miss out and you just get to revel in it that much more!! They will realize when it's too late, but we as the parents know it all along. I was very shocked this year when my grandmother sent me a card and a check for my birthday- I think the first time I've gotten something like that in years- and inside she wrote- "Kerri, I love you just as much as all the boys even if I didn't do the best job of showing it." I was shocked and one of the strangest things about this pregnancy was that when I found out I couldn't wait to tell my grandmother. I still haven't talked to my grandfather about it, but through my mom she has told me that he has said he's happy for us and knows I will be a great mom. I will get to see them all next month for Christmas and I can't wait to see their reactions to me when they see me and it hits them that I really am pregnant and going to be giving them their first great grandson. My dad is beyond thrilled! My mom has said he's already making plans for when we move home next year and that my having a boy has seemed to take him back to his own childhood because he runs around telling everyone how he's going to be a grandfather and it's a boy LOL not to mention all the plans he has for spending time with him. I have to say though that when I married James and we brought the girls to meet him he was like a kid at Christmas last year right along with him. The girls brought a joy to him that I never thought I would see in him, but I guess in weird ways things seem to work out the way they should. :)