What is normal sexual curiosity for an almost 5 year old? I'm upset

There was an incident at my daughter's preschool today with a little boy. What has been your experiences with your kids. Without going into detail, there was more things happening than what I believe would be "normal" childhood curiosity. I am pretty upset by it and feel like it was not right. I also am mad that the school let this happen and were not keeping an eye on my child!!!!

Without knowing details its hard to say. But all you can do is talk to the school about it. They will investigate it. Because if there is something that happened that was too sexual for a 5 year old then something is going on in that other child's house that needs to be looked into.

My daughter's knowledge of sex as far as I am aware of is what we've talked about. That is that married people do naked stuff in bed. I never went into detail about what that stuff is. Well yesterday at school, this is all according to my daughter, she and this boy made a fort where they couldn't be seen, she then asked if he wanted to "do naked stuff". He agreed. She says, he kissed her on the mouth, then pulled down his pants. He asked her to put it in her mouth! She did and said it was gross. She said they sucked on each others boobies. Then he pulled down her pants and panties and put his finger in her, she said it hurt! OMG! Then this is when the teacher came in and saw that my daughter had her panties down. She didn't apparently ask any questions and didn't call me either! Just told my husband when he picked her up from school. To me, this doesn't seem like normal curiosity, but maybe it really is. I never did anything even close to this as a child. I don't want her to feel like sex is bad and wrong, but I also don't want her to feel like this was ok either. I also am concerned about if it will mess with her as she grows up. I'm just really upset by all of this.

wow!! I am sorry that you have to face this. I would have to ask why this little boy would be aware of these things. I would DEFINATELY be talking to the school and filing a complaint.

Good luck Tami.

Even if it was normal to be curious about sexual activities, what happened with the kids was not appropriate and the school should have called both sets of parents in. The fact that he knows about oral sex and put his fingers inside your daughter is NOT normal. She should be checked out by a doctor and you might need to look at a different daycare.

This is definately NOT normal curiosity. I am so sorry she went through this and the little boy too!!! I agree you need to call and make a report. More is going on in that poor boys life.

One thing that we have taught the boys is nobody should ask to touch you anywhere that your bathing suit touches, as that is your private area.

(((HUGS)))

While I am more of a lurker on this board and fully expect to take a lynching for this--
I think it important to note the following quote from the OP:

"she then asked if he wanted to "do naked stuff"

While NONE of this should have been allowed to happen in the child care setting, it is clear
that the little girl and her family bears some responsibility in this situation.

I understand the upset  feelings and anger regarding this, but I don't think one child or set of parents should be the "Bad Guy" when clearly, it is a two sided situation.

Having said that--the Day Care Center should have been paying more attention.

Right but she is a CHILD.  So is the boy but she is the victim of the boys assumed upbringing.  He did violate her, making he the victim in this situation.

Totally inappapropriate. That boy's home needs to be looked into, and I can't believe they had all this "unsupervised time" to do what you mentioned. The teachers did not call you? Sounds like they are undermining it and hoping she wouldn't elaborate on what happened. Is this a pre-school or kindergarten? If it's a private nursery school, then CPS should be called to look into that family, and I don't think he should be allowed back in the classroom. If it's a the "school system" so to speak (elementary school) I think the school should be held more accountable for letting your daughter be put in danger. That does not sound like normal sexual curiousity to me, and I would be livid with the teachers. Gosh, I can't even imagine what else to do in your shoes, but I would definitely want to hold someone accountable.
So sorry your little girl had to go through this.

I am sooo sorry.  This does not sound normal at all..  I think this boy has some problems.  I did  not know anything like that at that age.  I used to just put my naked barbies on top of each other.  Your daughter is the victim and I would be livid with the school.  I also think maybe Ruby should get some counseling.  And I would make the school pay for it