Have you ever felt...

 like you feel odd because you are pregnant and do not feel like it ha**** you yet? I have been trying so long to have a baby and for some reason I am not feeling it. Like I know I am pregnant..Oh lord do I know..I get sick and feel aches and all of that. Some ppl talk to their bellies and I was told by my Home Nurse to talk to her and stuff and I just cannot see myself doing that. I have not ever just rubbed my belly and talked to my baby. My husband on the other hand is always rubbing my belly and talking to the baby..plus kissing the belly. 

For some reason Im not feeling the connection yet between me and my baby. I kinda just feel like a huge incubator growing a human being that is just taking over my body. Is that wrong to feel that way? I go shopping for baby clothes and Im picking out cute outfits and saying aawwee I cannot wait to see her in it. At the same time im like omg if I cannot make the connection now with bonding with my baby while she is growing inside me..then how am I going to be when she is born. I have no idea why I have these worries but I do. I just think I should be feeling totally different and talking to my baby and rubbing my belly and all of that  happiness. Im just not feeling it. Im more or less *****ing about being pregnant..cause im sick all the time..and just want to have the baby already cause pregnancy is bothering me big time. 

Idk maybe its just me..I cannot believe how some women enjoy being pregnant...when to me its the worst thing that has ever happened to me in my life is going through this. I have not enjoyed anything about being pregnant besides the fact im having my first child and cannot wait to see her and hold her. This being pregnant for 9 months def is not my cup of tea and I keep telling hubby I have no idea if Id want to do this all over again!! 

Can you get a fetal heart rate monitor? Not the crappy ones from BRU, but the medical grade, with the ultrasound gel. I had one, new for just under $100, but you can probably find them on ebay or amazon, cheaper especially if it is used. Then you can listen to the heartbeat every day, maybe that will help you enjoy your pregnancy more? Just an idea :)

I remember with my 1st, we went thru fertility and it was such a big deal when I finally got pregnant....I HATED it. I maen, I NEVER was sick and felt better than ever, but I felt that it was so odd that something alive was INSIDE my body. This time, I thought it would be different but it isn't. I didn't and won't this time talk to my belly....but I won't not love the baby....I TOTALLY understnad you!!

I feel really weird talking to my belly too! My husband will but in a creepy voice and I always tell him that the baby will be scared of him! I caught myself telling my belly that KFC is not acceptable, and was not understanding why the heck I wanted it so badly, but even then I felt silly after I said that.... I was alone in the car too!

I talk to myself all the time like a crazy person, so talking to my belly is nothing new. LOL!

For me, the pregnancy didn't feel "real" until I had my first 3D ultrasound and I saw her in there. She smiled for us. It was absolutely a moment of "holy crap, this is for real." Now I rub my belly and talk to her (mostly at night when I am alone).

I've been fortunate in that I haven't had too many discomforts, so I've been enjoying being pregnant. If I felt sick all the time like some people do, though... I'm sure I'd reconsider!

I felt like you during my first pregnancy. I was mostly freaked out because of the huge number of things that could potentially go wrong with having multiples, that I never really enjoyed being pregnant. I'm pretty sure it's a common thing, especially with first time moms.
This time around, especially since I know he's my last baby, it's much easier to try and enjoy being pregnant. Savor the kicks and wiggles and days that I don't feel like crap.
Enjoy the quiet of the house without the hassle of a newborn just yet... lol
Lately when my twins "talk" to the baby and he kicks their hands while they giggle with delight, that has really made this pregnancy "real" to me.

You're definately not alone. I'm about ready to have this baby and it still hasn't sunk in!! I just can't wrap my head around it. I don't know if it's because I went 36 years without being pregnant and assumed I'd never have kids, or what.

I'm so afraid I won't be ready when he comes. Sure, I've got "things" ready, but I don't think I'm mentally ready. People keep saying something will "kick in" when he's born. I just hope they're right!! Because ready or not, he'll be here soon. 
  
Best wishes to you!
Kina

I feel the same, I feel so guilty because I hate being pregnant. I feel like crap, can't sleep more than 5 hours a day, and am so freakin moody it isn't funny. Honestly, I don't even like the movements. Maybe because he is ALWAYS moving. He is never quiet.
Actually, the guilt is incredible for feeling this way. Then I tell myself that I am sure I will have way more things to feel guilty about as life goes on.
But, I am excited to meet him and have him home, I just want my body back. Ahh, 8 more weeks...

Same here, tired of being tire and sore all the time and SO ready for him to be born. We tried for almost 4 years and got pregnant the first round of infertility treatments. It still feels like a dream, even though he is kicking and wiggling and hiccuping like crazy...still a dream! I don't think it will fully hit until I hold him in my arms that he is MINE!

 Thanks for all the replies at least I know I am not alone on my feeling this way. Thanks for sharing all of your stories with me.