I keep getting knocked back down.

I was just online with one of my best friends talking to me. She said "do you promise you'll love me?" I was like "umm it depends, what is it?" She goes, "I'm Pregnant".

I didn't know how to react. She wasn't trying at all. She slept with the guy maybe twice and she has no intentions of seeing him again. She knows we've been having trouble and that I've been going through depression about it. I found out 2 friends and 1 coworker were all pregnant within 2 days of eachother. None of them were trying. Now this. One of my closest friends. It's like how much more am I expected to take?

I go to the Specialist on Friday. I thought I was doing so well with letting things roll off my back and taking it in stride, saying things will get better for my husband and I, and of course, something else had to slam me back down.

Sorry to complain, I'm just feeling really depressed and I don't know how much more I can really take.

That happened to me when I was trying thru fertiltiy to ahve my 1st...it sucked so bad. My coworker got pregnant and she wasn't even trying but SO rubbed it in my face....I'll think of you!

I get insanely jealous just THINKING about people having kids before me! My brother in law and his fiance are getting married in July and plan to TTC right after the wedding. They are in no position to have kids. They don't have stable jobs or anything. It infuriates me because my DH and I did things in a responsible order. We have stable careers, a house, etc. We are prepared to support our child. Their child would be supported by welfare and family members helping out. They will probably get preggo easy because she is thin. I have PCOS because of my weight and was infertile. I have to wait a a year to start TTC again because I just had a revision. I chose to have a revision for the most part to hopefuly help me get pregnant in the future. 
So yes, I totally understand and feel your pain. If you figure out how to make it better, let me know!
Hugs,
Nikki

Being patient sucks ass. My husband and I had a plethora of things keeping us from having kids. It wasn't that we COULDN'T have (well actually, I don't know that) but we chose to wait because we just couldn't bring ourselves to try to have kids when our lives were going so ****ty.

When we got married, we were both unemployed. I had been unemployed for 2 years, and he was laid off 2 weeks before our wedding. Our financial situation was horrible... there were a couple of times when we couldn't eat, had to borrow money from relatives, and had our electricity shut off. I had friends getting pregnant left and right. I desperately wanted a baby but knew it would be irresponsible of us when we couldn't even support ourselves.

I finally got a great job, got insurance, and had my surgery. Hubby was still unemployed, but he's a mechanic so he was able to get odd jobs here and there.

My best friend of 16 years got pregnant. When her son was born, she wrote me off and said that she felt she couldn't relate to me anymore because "I'm not a mother." I mean, OUCH. I thought that was the most shallow, callous thing I had ever heard.

Then, my husband was diagnosed with kidney disease. He was told he needed chemo and that it would make him sterile and that we would never be able to have children unless we had IVF. So, we sent his sperm off to be frozen, which was yet another bill to add to the stack.

Things eventually started looking up. His kidney disease went into remission (without chemo), I got a promotion, hubby got a job, we paid down our debt, we worked on our relationship, and started planning for the light at the end of the tunnel.

The reason I'm telling you all this is because we haven't all had it easy. I know that sometimes it can feel like it's never going to happen. I know what it's like to sit and listen to advice from people and scoff and think, "oh sure, easy for YOU to say"... but I seriously believe that we're only given what we can handle, and that our challenges in life make us stronger, more compassionate people. Keep the faith and try to stay positive. You never know what tomorrow will bring.

I am totally feeling ya...
A week before my m/c, I bought a swing from Babies R Us (kinda crazy, I know). Well, the stupid thing has been sitting in my hall mocking me and I figured I could use the $130.00, back, so I returned it yesterday. Damn store. They assume everyone in there is happy and giddy. I had to wait on line for 20 minutes behind 2 teenagers, who had a newborn, and about $1000 worth of crap in their cart. Only one register open, but employees were walking around stocking shelves and whatnot. Then, they had add a crib mattress at the last minute. It was pure torture standing in that store. I was totally shot down by time I got back to my car. Didn't even do the rest of my errands. I kknow exactly how you feel!
(((hugs)))