anyone else have to share their room with baby....and feel guilty?

We live in a 2 bedroom condo. It's only about 1100 square feet, and I am having anxiety attacks, now that I am envisioning it full of baby gear. Our BR is a decent size, and there is a little alcove area that we are going to designate as the "baby area", but I am starting to feel so guilty. I see all these gorgeous nurseries everwhere. Unfortunately, in order to sell our place, we would have to take about a $70k loss. We are hoping to do some work and try to rent it out before the baby starts crawling but that is never a sure thing. Anyway, I just feel so horrible and guilty. I know the baby won't care, but still. Damn this economy!
To make it worse, everyone we tell's first question is "where are you going to put it?" or "so, when are you moving?".

Don't feel bad.

We have a 3 bedroom house and people STILL ask us when we're moving because "you need more space!". I try to ignore comments like that.

Newborns really don't need that much stuff. A carseat, a safe place  to sleep (either cosleep, crib, packnplay), a place for clothes and maybe a swing/boucer/activity center for when they get older. Besides, you'll probably want the baby in your room to begin with anyway... it makes stumbling around for middle of the night feedings a lot easier.

Sometimes I am dense (or read to fast)- what is the other BR being used for?  I know i had / have guilt because we live in 1800 + home with 4 BR and my girls still have to share a room.  They are actually in the master room, and we live in one of the other BR.  My two teenagers have their own space.  The room they live in could house 4 kids (we were told that when we did foster care) but its the fact that for some reasons society has come to expect each child have their own space.  I know my girls are perfectly happy with each other right now- they chit chat when the get up..(we stagger bedtimes so they don't chat then).  However- living in ur room and having their own space there is okay.   What do they care until they are older? I know in my heart my girls wouldn't care where they were as long as they were safe and cared for.  Its the rest of us that have to get past our notions of what is normal.  God luck!

The 2nd BR is my 12 yr old daughter's room, and it's only 8X11, no way to share that room...

My husband and I lived in an 800sqft apartment when we had our son. We turned the dining room into the nursery...so the crib, dresser, changing table, and rocking chair all fit in there with the dining table. Kind of funny to look back on...diapers behind you while trying to eat dinner....

You make the most of the space you have.

On a positive note, at least the nursery will be out where everyone can admire it rather than behind closed doors....and your baby will get used to the noises of the house and that can be a good thing rather than a vaccuum cleaner being too loud because they aren't used to hearing it....

We live in a small 2 bedroom apt. Right now both kids sleep in my room. Max sleeps in my bed but slowly transitioning him to a toddler bed and Sydnee sleeps in her cradle. When they both are ready to be out of my room they will have to share a bedroom. At this young they do not care where they sleep aslong as it is warm and comfy. I get what your saying about the nursery thing, I would love to have one but I have to figuere how to do a boy/girl bedroom.

I don't feel bad, I always had my babies in the room. I just felt safer that way, I could have them right beside me. Don't feel guilty, you'll have your baby right with you.

I know exactly how you feel.  Sage has her own room, but i feel terrible for bringing her up in a rental.  I know it's stupid, we are providing her basic needs but I feel so bad we rent our home.  We did live with my mom, she had a huge house but I felt like I wasn't the mom when I was living home, that my mom was the mother and I was still a child.  Even though she never treated me that way.  So we live in a condo community but our condo is broken up into a duplex.  I feel like you never have all the money you need to have a child, but we are planning for another soon.

on the other hand, Sage's room is very small, but we managed to have the crib and an extra bed in there for guests.  i figure if we are still here when the next one comes along they can both be in the room together. 

You have your own place and that is fantastic.  Forget about everyone else - infact, politely tell them to mind their business !  In due time, you will get where you need to be right now you space is fine - the baby only cares about you anyway, things have no meaning.

OMG, try living in the city - it's ridiculous.

Best,
Leila

My condo is only 1,2500 sqft and my baby will have her own room, but I'm STILL freaking out about how we'll have room for anything. The closet in the nursery is my husband's, and it is jammed full of stuff. The large downstairs closet is packed... no way anything can fit in there! And we've already donated a lot of stuff and cleaned everything out that we can!

I am a minimalist and I HATE looking at a bunch of clutter. I can't imagine what it's going to be like once the baby is here and I have to look at these uber-bright obnoxious seizure-inducing patterns on furniture and toys. LOL!

Still, I know we're lucky to have a roof over our heads. There are babies in other parts of the world who literally have nothing... not even a diaper or a toy. All they really need is love, and as long as they have that, they'll never feel deprived.