So scared!

 I'm almost 10 months out from VSG and 9 weeks pregnant...I was on the pill and it failed...

My boyfriend is not taking the news very well and I am scared he's going to leave. We've only been together a few months.  I have been considering termination but I am 36 years old with no kids and I am really afraid that this will be my only chance and that I'll regret it for the rest of my life.  I have so many friends who have had such a hard time conceiving at our age.

I have a ton of family and friend support but I am really in love with this guy and hate that I might lose him because of this.  On the other hand, if he was as amazing as I thought he was, he would be more supportive about this, right?

I am also scared because I was not exactly getting a ton of fruits and vegetables before I got pregnant -- I was still eating 600-800 calories a day -- and I am worried that the baby will have a lot of deficiencies.

Anyway, I am feeling very scared and alone right now and could use some advice!  Thanks for listening.

First of all, I'm sorry.  It sounds like a hard situation with no easy, perfect answers.

He might leave you even if you do terminate, and then what are you left with?  The fact that he's freaked out doesn't necessarily mean he's a terrible guy or anything, but what if he ISN'T the guy you think he is?

As for the baby, plenty of ladies here got pregnant when they were still on very limited diets.  If you decide you are going through with this pregnancy, reevaluate your vitamin regimen and take extra folic acid, watch your iron and vitamin levels.  But don't think your baby will be messed up because of your VSG.  Even women who get pregnant weeks after surgery usually have healthy babies.

I got pregnant 10 months out of VSG, my daughter was born at 39w3d and she was 5lb 12oz and 18 1/2 inches long. You need to eat enough protein and Carbs, They thought she had 'Intra Uterine Growth Restriction. "IUGR". Turns out she didn't, but she was just small. Umm.... eat many small meals a day, it will keep your blood sugar stable. I had severe reactive hypoglycemia, my sugars would drop to 30!! 1/2 hour after a meal. It was horrible!

I am able to eat more this time around I think, and a bigger baby would be nice, she didn't even fit on the boppy pillow untill she was 2.5mo =( Everything was harder, and she's STILL tiny!

As far as your boyfriend, I don't know what to say, BUT I do know, it takes guys a while to get used to the whole pregnancy idea. My husband was really weird after I got pregnant this time!! after about a month he was better lol. If you ever need to chat or ask me any questions, feel free!

Sorry to hear you are having a rough time. Although this should be a happy time for you there are issues right now. I think you would resent your boyfriend if you made the decision to terminate the pregnancy based on his reaction. Like the others have said, you guys may not work out, but the baby can't be to blame, it would be something between you two because the child isn't even here yet. Maybe the idea will grow on him, or maybe not, but you have to think about the right decision regardless of him being there or not...hope I've been even a little helpful.

Hi there...sounds sooooooo similar to  my situation as far as the BF goes...I'm 30, he's 23, we've been together almost 6 months and I found out a short while back that I was pregnant. I'm 11 weeks and 5 days now and very excited.....on one hand....but on the other I am very worried and sad...my BF goes from being "not ready" to excited and now just a couple of days ago again "not ready"....

I guess it wouldn't worry me so much if my father had been in my life but since he wasn't I want better for my baby...anyway IMHO a baby is a blessing and termination (for me) isn't an option...I worry about my BF leaving as well...I  too am very much in love with him as well.  But even if  "we" don't make it and stay together then he swears he'll be there for our baby though he's "not ready".....but realistically baby is the MOST important...so regardless of how the two of you end up...hopefully your BF will be man enough to WANT to be there for your baby and if not...do the best you can...it's wonderful to have a strong support system of friends and family (i know if i didn't i woulda sunk into a heck of a dark place by now)...anyway good luck and hopefully all will work out for you...sorry this is soooooo long!