Talk me down off this cliff....

so I had my tubes tied when I had Matty, I physcially can not have another baby because it's too dangerous for both of us, BUT I really, really want another baby. I mentioned surrogacy to DH and he didn't immediatly tell me to shut up, but I think of everything involved in the process and I don't really think I want to do it.

If we where going to do it, I would want to do it in the next year b/c I would want my milk supply to still be in so that I could breastfeed the next baby, but I just don't know, I think my family would disown me LOL

Tell me I am crazy, tell me it's insane LOL Talk me off this insane cliff. Anyone have any surrogacy stories they want to share? 

i cant do it.... id prob be on the cliff with you.. what about adoption?

We actually tried to adopt before I got pregnant with Matty, but our age difference and the fact that DH is almost 50 weighed big against us. Even in private adoptions we had trouble finding women who where willing to work with us b/c of DH's age. We had one young girl string us along for a few months before she decided to keep the baby. It was just so hard, the up and down.

I just keep telling myself that this will be like when the triplets where little, and that as soon as he is bigger I will be happy the baby stage is over, but I know I won't believe it until I am there. DH told me tonight to just wait on it a bit and see how I feel in a month or two. I have a feeling I might change my mind a few times before then LOL

If you can afford surrogacy what about adoption or even fostering. It's an excellent option for all this overwhelming love you have to give. Trust me, go look at some pictures of children waiting to be adopted on adoption websites... it will break your heart!

Physically I am done with pregnany and this is #2, if we can ever afford it, we'll adopt or foster or both. Every child deserves to be loved.

I would love to adopt or foster, but most places won't work with us b/c of our age difference, as I stated above even private adoptions are almost out b/c most girls want young, first time parents as the adoptee's of their babies. We considered a speical needs baby or HIV positive, but again they look at my DH's age and give us a hard time about it.

I just keep telling myself that my family is perfect the way it is, but I almost feel like someone is missing at the dinner table, I just can't really explain it. DH said to sit on it for a month or two and really look at it from ever angle and then we will make a decision.

Thanks for the post and your input!

how about harvesting your eggs and doing  IVF?

My problem is that I can't physically carry another baby, I had what is called a classical c-section when I had the triplets, and then with Matty my scar tissue was so thin that we both almost died from a uterin rupture, carrying another baby to term would be next to impossible and very dangerous for us both.

do u have a relative that would carry a child for u?