why r people so hateful?

 So, my main gripe is why do people have to be so hateful? Why cant everyone just be happy for me?

Many people can't be happy for you because they are not happy themselves. You can never make everyone happy!  You focus on you children, your husband, and your self.  You will drive your self crazy if you worry about what others think and trying to make them happy.  Get excited you have a miracle in your belly!  Life is on the inside of you don't let someone take that because of how they are making you feel
During pregnancy our hormones go up and down!  So it is very important to remember to not live by your feelings but by what you know.  If you know you are doing everything you can to make the best life for your family and to be the best person you can be then you have to remind yourself of that.  Even when you don't feel like you are.  Feelings will lie to you!
Take care!
Rebekah

Thanks girlie! I'm going to give it my best shot and leave her be for awhile and hope she comes around. :)

Thank you all so much for your kind words and reassurance that I'm not loosing my mind and people are just made to be this way regardless of the situations!

 Hey Kerri!!! I read this post and thought that I would share with you that you are not alone. As I was reading I thought I was reading about my life story for a moment. I was also involved in an abusive marriage in the past when I was 23 til I was 25. I was always overweight since I was 16 and believe it or not even tho I was young and had a bf and my abusive husband and a previous bf before my current husband..I was trying like heck to get pregnant. No luck! Then I met my wonderful husband Shawn and a beautiful thing happened that he was married twice before me..No kids..and this is my second marriage...NO kids. No kids between neither one of us and believe Me I have tried. When I realized that Shawn and I had this special bond that I have not ever had with anyone else..I had to do my best and try to start a family. I did go on fertility drugs a year before I had my surgery. They did not work at all!! I was getting so frustrated at this point and had been thinking of having the gastric bypass surgery to lose weight and to see if that would help me get healthier and be able to conceive a baby.  I too have a cousin who I have been close with for many years!! Anytime I talked to her about what I was going through in my life she always had to be at competition with me. Drove me nuts. My cousin was always smaller than me but not skinny either..at least 100lbs lighter than me anyways. I had the surgery done..and believe me I had no idea she was jealous of me losing weight until she got drunk once and blurted it out!! I was really upset because I felt Omg..why can't she be happy for me because I have been always overweight and now I am healthier and happier. The more I kept losing she would start not talking to me as much or wanting to do anything with me anymore. So I just figured whatever..if she wants to be that way..her problem not mine. I decided I was not going to let it get the best of me because it was pointless that she has to be acting that way. Then...here a year out of surgery not that I was planning on having a baby at the moment I found out I was pregnant. I waited a bit to tell ppl and when I did..I wanted to share my news with everyone. I told her that I was pregnant and this was her response"CONGRATS! MUST BE NICE" Now she is 2 yrs younger than me and has PCOS and has been trying for 9 years with her husband to have a baby. No luck. Cannot try fertility drugs because she does not have any insurance and plus they told her it would be impossible anyways with PCOS. I thought that was soo rude of her to say..then she texts me days later saying how she cried all day long after she found out I was pregnant. I made her very upset with the news. I just thought Oh wow...well I can understand why that would upset her but at the same time here I have been trying to get pregnant for 12 years myself and she cannot be happy for me? I just let it go and thought i cannot make everyone happy but I am happy with my current status and I am not going to let  her bring me down. So now shes making all this more of an effort to have a baby..so shes all telling me how shes on a diet losing weight and hoping that helps her. I told her good luck and that I will pray for her. But at the same time..I keep thinking I do not get why she is in competition with me. I feel Like I cannot do anything without her trying to ruin my happiness. Just like I got married to my current husband..we went to the Jp..a  month after I got married she started planning her Wedding for the next year and it had to be this awesome wedding!! She had been with this guy for 8 years and said she would not ever get married to him and them bam after i got married she had to out top me!! I was going to have a regular wedding a year after we went to the Jp and she knew that and knew it was going to be in August the month we got married and she went ahead and planned a wedding for August 3 weeks before the one i was going to have to renew my vows!!! I was soo upset cause we have the same family and all I kept thinking of is why is she trying to do this to me?? I  got so ticked off i did not even go through with my own wedding of me getting into a wedding dress. Except I still have it in my mind I am going to go through with having my wedding dress and all that nice stuff cause I have always wanted to be in a wedding dress. I refused when I was 330lbs but now I want to do it. Now I am really excited to say I am going to do my wedding in two years and my baby boy or girl will be able to be apart of the wedding also. I am glad I have not did it yet and I knew there was going to be another reason to be able to enjoy that moment even better!!!