Just testing the waters...Baby No. 2 ...what do you think?

Hubby has been asking if I feel like I could do it again. If you have been reading me over the last year it was quite a task to get pregnant (11 years) and the pregnancy was a little rough. I would love to have another one, but I feel like I get little sleep now (would I ever with another?) Also, would I be cheating Jakob after I worked so hard to get him here to have another real soon. Only timing issue is that I am 40 years old now and I think I will feel worse about waiting and doing it years from now...HELP. I know I'm only asking your opinions but what do you guys think enough time to wait between kids is? Am I being greedy???

Hubby suggested - since we didn't get pregnant for 11 years w/o protection we should go that route, and if it happens its meant to. (meanwhile, back at the lab, we have perfectly good embryos waiting to be used...decisions...decisions) Much to decide...HELP!! Oh, I said that already...

Hey Chavon!

So do YOU want another baby?? If you do and it was me... I would start trying now the old fashion way... it could take awhile for you to get pregnant... or it might happen right away. I know that you've waited so long for your little mircle but I don't think you'd be cheating Jakob... you'd be giving him a sibling that he'll have for life.

Are you breastfeeding? A lot of woman can not get pregnant while breastfeeding (others can chime in if it's an issue).

Baby No. 2 is a lot of work and changes up the game big time...but they are well worth it!

I would go for it... I am 41 (will be 42 in December) and hoping that we get pregnant soon.  Currently I am under treatment..and round 2 of treatment.. Dr only does it for 4 cycles...

Of course, if I were you.. I would go for it...

I would go for it if you want to!!

oh my exactly my dilema...everybody pushing for another baby...and sometimes i think i should 4 pregnancies and 15 yrs ...but i feel like it would be greaty, i feel like God gave me this beutiful miracle and i should be grateful and not push for more. also i feel like i would not enjoy and take away from sam i want to give her the world and love her for ever. sometimes still feels sureal. also am so scared to have issues with pregnacy it was hard, beutiful but hard and lasted so little and was so long at same time. also am not married or live with sams daddy. we are together but do not live together i know everybody thinks weird. but its a choice so its a litte hard financially and goes back to same i dont want to take away and i dont want to be greedy. decicions.

Girl, do what you want! Personally, I would try naturally for a while so there will be some space between the kids. Then go for the embryos if you have to.

Here is my feelings. I loved Emma to death and we never thought we would have another....Micah just happened. When I got pg I thought there was no way I could ever love another baby as much as Emma....and I totally felt like I was going to cheat her in some way. I found that these are totally normal emotions. I fell in love with the idea of having a second, but it took awhile. Then he was born and all my reservations went out the window. I am so glad I have my 2 beautiful babies.

Emma was 21 months old when Micah was born. I am not going to lie....it is super duper hard and I have been sleep deprived since he was born. Right now I have Emma teething 2 year molars and Micah teething his 3rd and 4th tooth on top. Emma was sleeping through the night by 4 months...but Micah is almost 10 months and still wakes 1-2 times most nights. They both go to sleep around 8ish and Micah wakes at 5-6 am...and is ready for his first nap at 8:30 and it never fails that the moment I lay him down and think I might get a little tiny cat nap...she wakes up. Its like she has a sense that mommy is laying down. lol

And then there is the terrible 2's. Won't even go there....but try them with the infant. Getting ready to go anywhere takes hours it seems. Bathing and clothing 3 is somewhat of a juggle. Then just when you think you are ready the baby needs to eat...and then the other one poops...and the one potty training has an accident....then the baby falls asleep and the toddler is screaming that she wants to leave. Every day is a challenge. AND I only work 16 hours a week in the evening. I honestly give props to the working moms and the moms with lots of kids....don't know how they do it.

Anyway...totally not trying to scare you off. I thank God everyday for my blessings. Had I been younger and not had so many fertility issues I think I would have waited until Emma would have been in the threes. Emma is just now getting a little more independent and so is Micah...and they are starting to play together. I would like to think this first year will be the hardest and it will get easier from here... I hope.

I also have great spousal support and he is awesome with the kids...which would make a difference in your decision. Will he wake for night feedings or take care of one while you take care of the other...or will you be on your own? Some daddies are just not 'baby' daddies...if you know what I mean.

I say try on your own for 6 months to a year...then go for the embryo's. I also say to get prepared for the fact that fertility treatments with an infant are going to be tough. Also prepare yourself for the fact that you may only have one...and for the one you are truly blessed. I had to have that mindset.

Good luck to you Chavon!! I will watch for you in the TTC post...let me know when you are ready! Prayers going up for you and the decisions ahead. Shari

Oh my goodness, look at the face on Micah! I so want to pinch, okay, kiss those cheeks! He and Emma are both adorable...I guess how could you not fall in love twice? That's good to know.

Wow, guys, thanks so much for your input! Let's see if I can put all the answers to the questions in one post. First, yes, I DO want to have another, I guess I just wasn't sure I wanted to do it right away. But still I'm worried about the ticking clock. Next, I feel the same way about how can I love another the way I love this one??? He basically is my heart set outside my body. But, my mom had six and as a single parent so I loved being in the large family. NO WAY am I thinking 6 but 2 would be nice. Next, my husband is great w/Jakob, just not at night. He leaves for work at 4:30 am so waking him for a 3:30 feeding seems kind of cruel. He will do his feeding if he wakes now before he leaves for work or like this morning I had an early meeting so he came back home to dress and watch Jakob until the sitter arrived. So yes, I get good support from him just not so much at night.

I appreciate the personal experiences. Thats what I wanted to hear. I know it will be a lot of work which I'm used to working hard, I guess I just worry about having enough of me to go around times two (well 3 if you count hubby)

I will be thinking and praying on it and I'll let you guys know what I decide. THANKS AGAIN

i think you should go for it.  here is my story

i also had fertility issues and we used clomid to concieve, i got pregnant and had a miscarriage at 7w, once m/c was complete i asked my ob/gyn when can i take the clomid to start trying again and he said asap, so i did and that next month i got pregnant with my daughter, after she was born the same day in the hospital i said to him when can i try for another he said wait 3 months, and i did when my daughter was 7 months old i found out i was pregnant with twins.

my twins were born when my daughter was 15 months old.  I barely had any help from family, my hubby  works and goes to school.. i was like a walking zombie, my boys slept all day and were up all night and my daughter was reverse. it was hard in the begining only until the twins started sleeping thru the night at 3 months old.

its been a breeze really my boys are now 9 months old,they are starting to crawl now,  they go to sleep around 8:30pm and get up at 7:30 am then after i change there diaper and give them a bottle they fall back asleep for a hour or 2

my daughter goes to sleep around 10pm and gets up around 9 am

so i can get a full nights sleep if i choose too but i dont because i clean up my apartment while my kids sleep.

my boys have no teeth yet, my daughtet has all her teeth, and never had crying or screaming episodes with her on that.  potty training is another story, lol

i wanted to have my children close together so they always have someone to play with and keep each other company, plus i didnt want to come out of the diaper stage only to go back into it in a few years.

its only up to you and your husband in the end and make a choice that you will be happy with in the long run.  i love my children all the same, no matter how many i could have had.

however no more for us, had my tubes tied during c section.

good luck
stephanie