Vent! HATE HER!!!
I know how hard it is to have someone in your life that you have to be very close to even though you don't really like them. There are few people you can vent to about that kind of thing in real life, and that's why the internet is great. Just nod and agree with her, and then do things the way you want, because turst me, there are going to be more people then you care to know giving you advice once that baby is out in the world (even little old ladies who don't know you, in the middle of food shopping with have SOMETHING to say LOL).
As for the shower, just roll with it, it's not worth the aggrivation and the people you want to celebrate the baby with you will find away to do it, even if it's not at the party your MIL is throwing.
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As for the shower, just roll with it, it's not worth the aggrivation and the people you want to celebrate the baby with you will find away to do it, even if it's not at the party your MIL is throwing.
There must be some sort of really awsome coconut telegraph around here, news about posts that aren't liked obviously travels fast.
Courtney - Lap band to VSG revision
Probably not living in your MIL basement would eliminate alot of tension. Most people would feel grateful for a shower though, I know I would, because it is certainly not a given. A shower is a gift truly.
Sorry you are going through so much. I sure hope things will get better for you. I personally would not be able to live under someone else's roof especially with my husband ESPECIALLY when starting a family.
good luck with eveything. I know it must be tough for you. Hang in there!
Sorry you are going through so much. I sure hope things will get better for you. I personally would not be able to live under someone else's roof especially with my husband ESPECIALLY when starting a family.
good luck with eveything. I know it must be tough for you. Hang in there!
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Everyone else already said most of what I wanted to say.. So I'll just sum up my thoughts..
1) Just be grateful she wants part in your life
2) Be super grateful and appreciative that she is going out of her way to throw you a shower
3) YES, you want long-sleeved onesies. Especially when the cool weather hits or in the spring when all the t-shirts are coming out and yet its still cool. They are great for layering under a short-sleeved t-shirt.
1) Just be grateful she wants part in your life
2) Be super grateful and appreciative that she is going out of her way to throw you a shower
3) YES, you want long-sleeved onesies. Especially when the cool weather hits or in the spring when all the t-shirts are coming out and yet its still cool. They are great for layering under a short-sleeved t-shirt.
yes yes yes you do want long sleeve onesies. And just about the only ones you can find in color are at Old Navy. Of course you want white ones to. lol lol
As far as the shower thing I think you are being a little over sensitive. Maybe all those preggo hormones rolling around in ya. lol I had a shower at 37 weeks I do understand it is suppose to be a surprise shower for you which not much of a surprise there since you do seem to know about it but unless you are going to be a scheduled section before or on 37 weeks there should not be a problem there. Also almost all my showers except 2 were on Sunday afternoon. I was so very lucky in the fact that I had 5 showers. I was 39 when we found out we were pg and we had tried for over 10 years to become pg so everyone we knew wanted to give us a shower. Some people as you have prob read are not so lucky so please please try to be grateful that she is even trying to do this gesture for you. Don't try and read her intentions (if there are any) into it. She has to answer for her intetions herself. You have waited a LONG time for the pg you just sit back and enjoy the gift you have been given! Don't spend this time lingering on ugly thoughts and such.
Denise
As far as the shower thing I think you are being a little over sensitive. Maybe all those preggo hormones rolling around in ya. lol I had a shower at 37 weeks I do understand it is suppose to be a surprise shower for you which not much of a surprise there since you do seem to know about it but unless you are going to be a scheduled section before or on 37 weeks there should not be a problem there. Also almost all my showers except 2 were on Sunday afternoon. I was so very lucky in the fact that I had 5 showers. I was 39 when we found out we were pg and we had tried for over 10 years to become pg so everyone we knew wanted to give us a shower. Some people as you have prob read are not so lucky so please please try to be grateful that she is even trying to do this gesture for you. Don't try and read her intentions (if there are any) into it. She has to answer for her intetions herself. You have waited a LONG time for the pg you just sit back and enjoy the gift you have been given! Don't spend this time lingering on ugly thoughts and such.
Denise
I wish my MIL lived closer to me (she is in another state). My baby won't get to see her all the time and I grew up not knowing one of my grandma's because she died when I was a baby and not knowing both of my grandma's always made me sad. I don't want that for my daughter so we are going to make a huge effort to have her a big part of her life. Be thankful you don't have to worry about that.
Also, she is obviously not that bad if she allows you to live with her. She cares about you and you may not agree with what she says but think about it... I am assuming the reason you are living with her is because of finances and this shower is going to save you alot of money so maybe try to be grateful for it? Even if its not "perfect".
Finally you are bringing her grandchild into the world. If you don't show respect towards her, your child won't either.
Sorry to sound so blunt but I watch my older sister struggle so much with a leukemic baby and a 7 yr old and her MIL doesn't give a crap or try and help her out even a little. My mom has to provide all kinds of support because my sister's MIL just doesn't care. It is really sad.
Also, she is obviously not that bad if she allows you to live with her. She cares about you and you may not agree with what she says but think about it... I am assuming the reason you are living with her is because of finances and this shower is going to save you alot of money so maybe try to be grateful for it? Even if its not "perfect".
Finally you are bringing her grandchild into the world. If you don't show respect towards her, your child won't either.
Sorry to sound so blunt but I watch my older sister struggle so much with a leukemic baby and a 7 yr old and her MIL doesn't give a crap or try and help her out even a little. My mom has to provide all kinds of support because my sister's MIL just doesn't care. It is really sad.
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