Vent! HATE HER!!!

Yeah, it's about the MIL again. We went to Babies R Us and it is a miracle she lived. She had to go look at everything we registered for and was complaining that it didn't match. Plus she was telling us we need long sleeve onsies. What?!?! They go under sleepers and stuff. As long as the outer layer is long sleeved who cares? UGH!!! Plus she tells us we HAVE to get a comforter to put over the crib. Neither the hubby or I wanted it so we put our foot down over it. I will have 4 homemade blankets we can display on the crib.

Then... last night I did some sneaking (we live in their basement) and found out when my shower is. Who in their right mind throws a surprise shower for a 37 week preggo? I also heard it was going to be late enough for friends from work to come if they work. Yeah, not really. It's also on a Sunday. Oh, and she has like 5-10 of HER friends coming that I have no clue who they are!!! More gifts but it's the point that I have no clue who they are and she has invited them.

Take a deep breathe and relax! Opinions are like cell phones, everyone has them. You don't have to do everything she suggests. Just become the queen of. Oh really, I hadn't thought of that and keep it moving. Do it exactly the way you and your husband want to. My sister is like that. She tells me the baby's clothes should be name brand. He should have things from this store, I could care less about labels if I like it, I buy it. She was mad at me because all his gear doesn't match (stroller/high chair/play pen, etc.) Some things were given to me as recycled, and others were given to me brand new. I love everything we're using for him even if they are all different themes. He doesn't know about that...Neither will your baby...Hope it gets better. Way late with the shower, she's trying to guarantee you won't be there? That's a bit late.

LOL we just ignored her and told her we didn't want that. None of our stuff matches why should the baby's? Also, she is the type that everything matches upstairs and she changes decorations with the seasons.

Not sure why she is doing it so late. She aint right.

I'm about to get moderated. IF you HATE your MIL move out of HER house. Seriously you have put yourself in the situation you are in and you can either deal with it or get out. Do you really think she is thrilled at having her grown son in her basement with a wife that clearly hates her and soon a new baby?

You complain constantly that you want to kill your husband and MIL. Are they really that bad? Are you a saint? She is GIVING you a shower be grateful. There are women on this board who won't recieve even one gift for their babies let alone a shower. Find something REAL to complain about. I had 2 people from my past DIE in the last 48 hours. One was 22 years old and one was in her 30's and just quit breathing last night. My MIL has dementia and I would give 10 years off my life for her to be normal again. JUST STOP with your constant complaining about NOTHING!!!!

TRY TRY TRY to enjoy your life. You won't know when it will be over or when you MIL goes and you WILL regret all the mean things you have said about her.

Jen- thank you for saying what I was thinking!

I like my MIL and someday hope that she can plan a shower for me.  But, I guess that means I would actually have to get and stay pregnant first.

Instead of worrying about the small things, take that time to be grateful for what it is that you do have.

All I have to say is AMEN. Just for some perspective- Be grateful that you have someone planning a shower for you. I have planned my entire shower and am footing the whole bill. I am not complaining, but it would be nice to have some kind of help. Were having it for more of a celebration of our baby with the people we love than for the presents involved. We would actually be better off financially if we just bought what we have left to get and forgot about the shower. DO you know how much invitations alone cost, and I'm a bargain hunter. Sounds to me like maybe you should bite your tongue and be happy for what she's doing for you, living in her house has to be cheaper than doing it on your own or you would have your own house. You just can't expect people to do things for you. Be appreciative of what you have. Trust me, planning a baby shower isn't easy or cheap for that matter. And try doing it in FL in the middle of the summer almost 8 months pregnant. I would love for someone to offer even a little helping hand. Just try to be thankful for what you are given.

Who in their right mind *****es about a party being thrown in their honor?  

These are not real problems.   You need to learn to pick and choose your battles, especially since you live under her roof.   If she's so irritating to you, get out of her house.   My guess is that you cannot do that, so buck up. 

And by the way, you WILL want long sleeve onesies.  One day you are going to be frantically trying to find such a onesie and realize, crap, we didn't buy that.   She may be irritating, she may be in the wrong in the way she's going about stating her opinion, but give her some credit.   This is your first child and since she has already raised her children, she probably knows a thing or two more than you do.  

My MIL never got a chance to meet my children because she died 7 years ago.  She never got to see her baby son get married and my husband was robbed of getting to ask his mother anything baby related.    You have no idea how it breaks my heart to see him longing for one last conversation with his mother and knowing he will never get it.  

I can understand this problem all too well. My MIL is very concerned about "status" and how much money other people thinks she has. She threw us our engagement party at her condo (but do you understand its a 700k condo?). We made it clear that we only wanted family because ettiquette dictates these people should have been invited to our wedding. Totally disregarded any concerns we had...time, food, plates, ect. I had relatives who were traveling like 3 hrs to get there. Anyway, she invited 15 of her friends and would not serve the cake until after dinnertime. The party was at noon and most people had to leave early. Insisted on leaving an expensive edible fruit arrangement outside on the patio that my mom sent over, because "there was no room inside". Would not let us open any cards or gifts. Seriously if I had known then what I know now about that woman, I would have refused her offer of a party. This party was clearly all about herself and to give herself a chance to show off her home and belongings, instead of celebrating our upcoming marriage. So yes, this kind of MIL is a real problem, and her behavior shouts out "me first, always" which will probably cause fights with your husband down the road. Now is the time for HIM to nip this behavior of hers in the bud. Try and save to move out. Babies don't care if all their gear matches, tell her you'd rather spend the money on a nice bedroom set when the child turns 5 (or say nothing). Good luck with her :)

You may want to rethink the long sleeve onesies....especially for winter! We used them under EVERYTHING! At times when I went to get more...I had a hard time finding them.
Get them before winter when everyone wants them!
I know Wisconsin winters can get pretty cold...just something to think about if you're living in Connecticut!