Can I just say I HATE my MIL???
Thanks. We are trying to get her to combine it with the church friends but she wont cause it wouldn't be as "fancy" as what they do in the family. Don't worry that I would rather have it more laid back and at church.
I shall now be know as Hagatha: Queen of the queens. 
Baby 
7-09
Xavier Elliott born 10-5-10
Well, let me give you another perspective. Be glad that you have family that cares that actually ARE having a shower for you. My MIL and inlaws are all GREAT and would totally have a HUGE shabang if they lived here in TX (they live in TN). My mother, GREAT, WONDERFUL (exuding extreme sarcasm here) woman that she is........
lives an hour and a half away and has NEVER been to our home the whole almost 10 years hubby and I have been married. She's NEVER had her grandchildren over for a visit and came to one of the kids' birthday parties at Chuck E. Cheese when my daughter and middle son turned 1 & 2 (their birthdays are 10 days apart so we had them together). Those two are now 6 & 7.
That being said, she would never even COME to a baby shower if I had one let alone try to thrown me one. My sister has always been too young to do anything for any of my other kids or I know she'd throw me one if she lived closer and since she's now 23. She was only 19 when I had my last one.
After all that, I probably wouldn't care if my MIL wanted to throw me a baby shower on a Saturday and I was an Orthodox Jewish rabbi and she wanted to serve nothing but pork at the shower. LOL I think I'd fall over backwards from the shock of someone doing something for me. (I'm usually the one doing for everyone else)
But, that's just my perspective. I'd be so giddy with excitement of having someone throw a get together for just ME that I don't know that I'd care what day it was, who was there or what they served. I'd just be thrilled with the festivities.
And don't let her pressure you into finding out the sex if that's not what you want. That is a little bit of crossing the line for me, but it's understandable why she wants to know. She's probably a planner and just wants to get the right stuff. But if you've registered for unisex stuff, that will make it easier for her to get YOU exactly what YOU want and she can feel that in that regard, getting what her grandchild will need because face it......they don't care if their clothes are pink, blue or green. lol But, I hope your shower turns out wonderful anyway!
lives an hour and a half away and has NEVER been to our home the whole almost 10 years hubby and I have been married. She's NEVER had her grandchildren over for a visit and came to one of the kids' birthday parties at Chuck E. Cheese when my daughter and middle son turned 1 & 2 (their birthdays are 10 days apart so we had them together). Those two are now 6 & 7.That being said, she would never even COME to a baby shower if I had one let alone try to thrown me one. My sister has always been too young to do anything for any of my other kids or I know she'd throw me one if she lived closer and since she's now 23. She was only 19 when I had my last one.
After all that, I probably wouldn't care if my MIL wanted to throw me a baby shower on a Saturday and I was an Orthodox Jewish rabbi and she wanted to serve nothing but pork at the shower. LOL I think I'd fall over backwards from the shock of someone doing something for me. (I'm usually the one doing for everyone else)
But, that's just my perspective. I'd be so giddy with excitement of having someone throw a get together for just ME that I don't know that I'd care what day it was, who was there or what they served. I'd just be thrilled with the festivities.
And don't let her pressure you into finding out the sex if that's not what you want. That is a little bit of crossing the line for me, but it's understandable why she wants to know. She's probably a planner and just wants to get the right stuff. But if you've registered for unisex stuff, that will make it easier for her to get YOU exactly what YOU want and she can feel that in that regard, getting what her grandchild will need because face it......they don't care if their clothes are pink, blue or green. lol But, I hope your shower turns out wonderful anyway!
Allie
Mom to 5 cuties!! 
Ages 15, 7, 6, 4 & a 3 month old sweety!
-250 Pounds since GBS!
Only problem is that she does stuff for looks. I will never know if she is doing it for me or cause it would look bad if she didn't. I swear that's the first thing out of her mouth when we told her we understood if her and my FIL didn't make it to our wedding since we gave 3 1/2 weeks notice. What would people say?
I shall now be know as Hagatha: Queen of the queens.
Baby 7-09
Xavier Elliott born 10-5-10
Gosh that sounds familiar....my mother "does things for looks" *eye roll*. It's ALL about her.......yeah, SO familiar!
I'd get your hubby to talk to her. Maybe he can make her see your side. It's ya'lls celebration....not hers.
I'd get your hubby to talk to her. Maybe he can make her see your side. It's ya'lls celebration....not hers.
Allie
Mom to 5 cuties!! Ages 15, 7, 6, 4 & a 3 month old sweety!
-250 Pounds since GBS!
I totally understand what Allie is saying, but it sounds like your MIL is throwing this shower more for herself than for you. That really sucks!!! I'm assuming she lives nearby so if you want me to go have a little "chat" with her, let me know. I hate when people take something that is supposed to be about you and make it about themselves. I would tell her you simply won't do a Sunday. You're willing to go on a different day, but not a Sunday.
Good luck!
Tina
Good luck!
Tina
Mommy to 2 of the most beauiful little girls in the whole universe and still in love with my hubby of 8 years. LIFE IS GOOD!
More or less. *giggle* We live with her (it really sucks but our bills are killing us and the rent is cheaper here.) so yeah, she is close. I would LOVE to tell her that but she wouldn't listen since all of her family does stuff on Sundays.
I shall now be know as Hagatha: Queen of the queens.
Baby 7-09
Xavier Elliott born 10-5-10
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