Can I just say I HATE my MIL???

So last night I went into L&D. I wasn't feeling much movement and was a little paranoid. On the way there the hubby tells me that his mom has picked a date for my shower. It's on a Sunday and wants to combine it with another one I am having and wont listen to my friend when she tells her no one from church will go to one on a Sunday. I don't even want to go to my own shower if it's on a Sunday because it is not convenient for me. If I am off on a Sunday I have friends that I want to invite to the shower that is working. Plus, I don't want to go to my shower after I have been working. I am too tired. Hubs told me that it is a Sunday I am off. I don't want this. I want a simple shower like the one that is being planned by my church friends. All the family showers just stress me too much since I HATE the way they are done. Stress is not good for me since I have the bp issues. Plus she is doing a surprise one. Other than Liz, how many people have a surprise baby shower? And the biggest thing that pissed me off is she is doing her best to get me to find out what I am having so she can go shoping for the shower. I am like WHAT?!?! If I don't want to know and I walk into my shower and have all boy stuff or all girl stuff I will try to beat her. She really makes me not want to find out even more. Can ya tell I really don't like this woman?

((hugs))

Have your DH talk you her. (Hell it's his mom, lol) Make sure she knows this is YOUR party and to back off. Besides it's non-traditional for family members to throw your shower.. tell her you want to leave it up to your friends and that they'll be really hurt if she takes over (even if that's a lie).

Pushy MILs can be a pain..

It's the mother's the throw them out here. Mine is in Ohio so that's not gonna happen. She is pushy as all get out. It has to be here way or the highway. She also does everything for show. I want something simple (at my church and just get pizza from the place around the corner) but that will never happen since she would say what would everyone think. She pulled that one on me when we told her we understood if she didn't make it to our wedding since we got married 3 1/2 weeks after we announced it. Oh, and she is still pissy about that after 6 years.

Humm my evil side is surfacing... let her plan it then "not feel well" enough to attend. lol

I agree with the PP - have hubby talk to her. If she gets pissy too effin bad! This is your body your baby! You could also tell a little white lie and tell her you have to work that sunday but pick a date that works for you and offer that up to her as a compromise.

Good luck!

That's so funny, Liz.  I was going to suggest the same thing - too sick to attend!

Like I told Liz, hubby would know.

LOL Only problem with "playing sick" means that hubby would know and still make me go. He is trying to talk to her and she is getting worse. Now he tells me that she went to Babies R Us and doesn't like what we have cause someone there told her it wasn't good. Now he wants to go back and fix it with her! UGH!!! I told him he needs to man up to her or I will and that will get really ugly.

just curious, but do we have the same MIL? Lol. Sounds so familiar!!! Just say no, that it interferes with church and work, and leave it at that. She may be mad, but she'll have to get over it. (Easier said than done I know!!)

Only problem is that I am not supposed to know about it.

Just tell her thanks but no thanks.  You'll have the one with your church friends and call it good.  If she freaks about that, invite her to compromise, but stand your ground. 

Or you could move clear across the country from where she lives.  That works too.

And, as Liz suggested, you could let her plan it, and then not attend because you don't feel well, the bp is too high, etc.....

Good luck.  It's a crappy situation.