Hubby for sale!!!

Ok, I am an emotional wreck this week. Last year at this time I was starting my miscarriage. I loss that baby on the 8th. I have an OB appt that day and I am scared to death that I am going to go in and not have a heartbeat. Stupid but I am still worried. I tried to talk to the hubby about that and he just blew me off.

AND... as always he is complaining about lack of sex. TMI ALERT!!! My nips are sooooooooooooo sore and he is always trying to play with the girls. He had me in tears tonight cause he hurt me by saying that I never want him to touch me no how gentle he is. I was like WHAT?!?! He thinks he is gental but he isn't always as gentle as he thinks.

When things are a little calmer...sit him down and explain that at least as far as your nipples - or your boobs in general - are concerned...right now...they're a no-go zone...or if you don't mind truly gentle touching (no squeezing/pinching)...show him what you mean...tell him that under normal cir****tances (ie not pregnant), the touching he's been doing is fine...but for now...he has to be even more gentle.

All he's seeing is bigger boobs...and he wants to grab 'em.  Encourage him to touch you - even non-sexually - in other ways.  Get him to snuggle up to you - or you to him - at night.  Give him hugs during the day...and  make sure you let him know that it's not him...that it's just your hormones on overdrive that's making everything uncomfortable right now. 

Re the 8th...I'm sure things will be fine.  I know your fears are founded on what happened in the past...but things have gone terrific so far with this pregnancy, and you're out of the major danger zone, so I'm sure you will be fine. 

Thanks Holly. I have tried talking but I will try to show him and let him know I love him.

yeah, I know the fears are unfounded but I am still nervous.

(((Big hugs))) to you... last night hubby was teary in bed while rubbing my belly and when I asked him why, he said he couldn't help but think that soon we're going to get to bring this baby home but we'll never get to with the first one we lost in 2008... He's so afraid something will happen to this one, even though we're in the home stretch... Best of luck on Thursday - I'm sure your appointment will go just fine - I'll think of you while I'm at mine too, asking for my membrane sweep!

Veronique

I have thoughts like that but then I realize I wouldn't have this one.

I am sure everything is going to go perfectly on the 8th!!

Oh and I STILL don't want hubby to touch me and Amelia is 6 weeks old. lol There is just no desire there, he has been great about it so far but I can tell he is getting antsy.

LOL Mine thinks he gonna die from the desease lackanookie. I am sure it's gonna be fin Thursday but it still makes me nervous.

I am so sorry for his insensitivity about the m/c. I totally understand why you are scared. I have had 11 ultrasounds with this pregnancy and with every one I have felt nervous until I see her move (because we found out about both of our m/c's during u/s). Even now when I am 2 days away from being full term, I am nervous something might go wron with my little girl. My hubby totally understands, so I am sure it is really hard when yours doesn't seem to care.

So, I am going to be the person about the whole sex thing that everyone probably gets mad at. You need to do something for your hubby. While it is crazy that he won't leave your boobs alone, it's also not really feasible to expect him to go the entire rest of your pregnancy without any sex and without getting upset about it. He's a man. I think so many times we, as pregnant women, think so much about ourselves during pregnancy, that we forget the needs of our men. They need this intamacy to feel love and respected. When they don't feel that love & respect, they start becoming more insensitive because they don't know how else to display their emotions. I am not saying you should go give him whatever he wants when he wants it. He does need to learn to be more sensitive. Believe me I have had NO interrest in sex during my pregnancy, it's very uncomfortable to me (BTW, I too have TMJ and carple tunnel issues but I pick the thing that will be the least painful and go with it) and I don't feel sexy. But I understand that doesn't mean my hubby should go without. I want him to feel loved and secure too and that means he needs this type of intamacy. He is very gentle with me and if something hurts, he stops and we do something else. Please understand that I know where you're coming from, but I can also see his point of view. I am totally not attacking you, just trying to maybe let you see a different side.

Good Luck, I hope you guys can figure this out.

Tina

I found out during an u/s too. Those are had and I have one on Friday.

I give it to him about once a week. He just wants it all the time. Actually told me that the swelling I have makes it better so he wants it more. I never took this as an attack and I have seen his side but we can't come to a happy medium.

Well that's an entirely different story. You ARE giving him some so he shouldn't have anything to complain about. I thought you weren't giving him any. Does he actually understand that it hurts you and he still wants you to put out all the time?