I'm so afraid that it will be a....

Sorry, but I just don't know about this husband of yours Kina .  Like if he doesn't want anymore children, why wouldn't he get a vasectomy?  Like he wasn't accepting first of the pregnancy?  Like he wanted you to terminate if the baby had any birth defects - WTF!!!  Now that you know the baby is healthy . . .  it has to be a boy just because he has 3 girls.  Why does this all make me pi$$ed.  It all reminds me of someone I know and he was a very abusive man. - this is one reason why I remember your posts.

Sweet Kina, please don't take this as an attack on you.  I just feel bad for you.  You should have a joyful pregnancy especially since this will be your one and only.

Blessings,
L

I also agree she shouldnt be attacked - after all the only thing anyone knows on this board is what she told us and these can very well be her fears not his - so her post doesnt make him a jerk and she shouldnt have to "grow up" either.  I also dont feel sorry for her - she is a grown woman. 

This is pretty much why i stay silent on this board as well - and just lurk - people just are too emotional and ready to just pounce on someone who says something they THINK you mean or something that doesnt go along with their opinion.  I thought it was a board for support and understanding.

Your situation is hard - and i wish the best for you guys.  For both your wishes and the baby growing inside of you - i hope hes a healthy happy boy :)

I know....you're not too far off base.

When I had my Mirena removed, I told him well in advance and said "if you don't want any more kids, you need to have something done." And left it at that. I'm tired of putting hormones and foreign objects into my body when he could have a routine procedure done and that's that. But being the way  he is, he couldn't be troubled I'm sure....anyway, here we are...

Believe me, after this, someone is getting "fixed".

Thanks,
Kina

Kina - I am sure that he will be happy either way! Men are good at putting the fear out there in weird ways. My hubby wanted a boy in the worst way and when a girl popped out he was the happiest man alive. He told me later that he was actually estatic that she was a girl. I work with a guy too (who is an ass in about 99 thousand different ways, not that that matters lol) who has 2 girls, well his wife found out that she was pregnant again and he actually admitted that he hoped it was a girl because he knows how to handle girls.

I am sure your hubby would be over the moon if it were a boy but he will learn to love another daughter too.

*hugs*

Liz

Thanks Liz, I hope you're right.

I'll be sure to let everyone know how this comes out.

Kina

Yeah, I am not infuriated per se, just sad at this.  Man up is right.  I really hope he does come around if it is a girl.  If he doesn't, he is a very small, small person and one I wouldn't stay with personally.  But, these are your choices.

And yep -- I am one of those that would gift my left tit just to get and stay pregnant.

 Kina,

Just because DH has 3 daughters from a previous relationship does not mean this will be a girl. My ex the sperm donor of my oldest son has 2 daughters and my son is his only son. Now just keep in mind everything will work out!! I do agree that once the baby is here that your husband will get on board with it boy or girl. Just stay strong, and relaxed, you guys are getting to have a pretty amazing journey a head of you. A baby will change your whole life. I will keep you in my thoughts.

Laurie

Ann-

I will be praying that you get you BFP soon and have a wonderful and healthy pregnancy!!!

Kina, I don't know you and I don't want to sound like I am attacking you in any way.  But your husband sounds like he is either the most insensitive guy on earth or even emotionally abusive.  The day you find out the sex of your child should be joyful, and you had enough to worry about with the quad screen without him saying you should abort if there was something wrong.

Please keep yourself safe emotionally.  If he is disappointed in your baby's sex, tell him you don't want to hear an effing word about it and if he continues to complain, get far away from him.

Hang in there, girl, this doesn't sound like fun.  I hope your baby is healthy, no matter what the sex.

HI Kina, just wondering, did he tell you he did not want a girl? Does he know you want one? I would tell him (soon) that you personally are hoping for a girl and if you get one, you expect him to be as thrilled as you are when she arrives. Also, tell hime the genetic tests you had are not foolproof, they do not pick up on autism or learning disabilities that can be developed down the road. I had all those tests and my daughter still developed autism after her 1st birthday. So he can't take it for granted. Since you said his other daughters are grown with families, it has been a long time since he has had a little baby girl of his own, and may be different than you think if that is the case. I hope everything works out for you.

Just beat him and get it over with. LOL I know my hubby wants a girl but will be thrilled with whatever comes out. Good luck with this. We are all here for you.