I'm so afraid that it will be a....

I'm so afraid that it will be a girl...although that's what I've always wanted.

I'm so anxious for my appt Friday. We find out the sex of the baby. I also can't wait to see if everything else looks okay. I've only had one other US at 7 weeks.

My biggest concern is that my husband will be extremely disappointed if this is a girl. This is my first baby, but he has three daughters from a previous marriage. He has no sons. I know he'd love one more than anything.

I'm so afraid that if it's a girl, I'll be on my own. He'll totally ignore her, or won't try to do anything special with/for her. But, on the other hand, if it's a boy, I'm quite sure he'd spoil him rotten and want to spend all kinds of time with him.

Everyone says with my husbands track record, it will probably be another girl. I'm sincerely praying for a boy, for the baby's sake....

Thanks for listening.
Kina

Wow. That's tough. How is he with his other daughters? If he's good with them and pays attention to them, I would assume he'll do the same for your little one.

Tina

None of them live in the same town as us. The closest one is an hour away. They're all grown with their own families.

I think when they were growing up he worked all the time (as he does now). I think he pretty much let their mother raise them.

I mean, he's nice to them and does things for them and gives them money (whether they appreciate it or not), but that doesn't necessarily make an attentive dad does it?

Kina

I know this is going to sound harsh....but it's sad that you'd have to worry about the sex of your baby just to ensure your husband would treat the baby as he should.  He's the father...he should be happy he even has a baby.  The sex of the baby is secondary to the health of the baby.  I know you know that, I just hope he realizes that.  Yeah...I know...most men want a boy...it's sort of a test of their manhood to be able to go forth and produce sons...but if it means neglecting the girls because he didn't get a boy...that doesn't speak much of him being a real man or very mature.  If it turns out to be a girl and he is totally unhappy about it...be sure and remind him that he's the one shooting the girls out...you're just the lucky recipient.

For your sake...not his...I hope it's a boy just so you can continue enjoying your pregnancy and try to keep the peace in your family...but I also hope you're prepared to put your baby first if your fears come to pass and he doesn't step up to the plate and be a real father if it's a girl.

Good luck.

"shooting the girls out".....at least that made me chuckle. I know, I've reminded him that I have no influence on the sex.

Don't worry, this baby will be everything to me, boy or girl. With or without his help...

Thanks
Kina

Yep, this is quite sad. Your husband should be thrilled if the baby is healthy, regardless of the sex. Do you know how many babies are being born currently with autism, down syndrome, and other developmental disabilities? And how difficult your life would be afterwards, if that were to happen? Sorry, but seeing posts like this are infuriating. Grow up.

I agree. First we I had to worry about my quad screen test because he pretty much said if there were any genetic problems, we would probably abort. Got over that hurdle, no I'm worried that it will be as healthy as can be and still not get all the love and attention he should be giving.

I'm hoping that if it is a girl, I can drill points like you've made hard into his head.

Thanks,
Kina

I have been a lurker for a long time but I just had to post.  I have been trying to get pregnant for almost 3 years and I know that there are other ladies here that have been at it longer than I.  I just want to have a baby no matter what it is.  A baby is a blessing no matter what sex it is.

I'm so sorry...I can't imagine trying so hard for a baby and not getting one. This one wasn't planned for us. I honestly never thought I'd have children and where he has three grown children, I'm sure he didn't want more, so...

I know you're right. I hope to make this point clear to  him.

Thanks,
Kina
best wishes

Kina,

I am sorry if I sound harsh.  I guess I was having a pity party since I got my AF two days ago and yet another cycle went by.

I hope that all goes well and I know that you and your husband will love this child.

Beth