How did you break the news?

I have a doctor's appointment on June 17th just to confirm that all is well.  I've told a couple of very close friends, but I've sworn them to secrecy, and I haven't told my family yet. 

I'm planning on telling my parents on Father's Day.  Hubby and I are taking my folks out to dinner. My parents belong to a country club, and golf is a huuuuge part of their life... so I went online and I found a pair of baby booties that look like golf shoes.  So when he opens up his "Father's Day present", we'll break the news.

How did you break the news to your family?

(Edited to add picture)

For my mom I showed her my pregnancy test, my mom was not thrilled at first so I didn't really make it a big deal.

For my inlaws, they were READY to be grandparent from the moment we got married.  So they took my hubby and I out to dinner for my bday and DH gave me my "birthday present" I opened it at the table and it was a bib that said "I love mommy" on it.  It took them a second then they freaked out and called everyone they knew!

Aww, that's totally cute!    You know, it's funny.  I'm 31, been married for 3 years, and I'm STILL concerned that my mom will disapprove.  LOL.  My whole life, she's been my biggest critic.  I think that at first she might be in shock, and then excited... but then I think she'll become overzealous and demand to see my bank account to make sure I can really afford to support a child.  Haha.

HAHA yea my mom got over it pretty quick, I was married for 8 months, and finishing my bachelors and she was still a little ticked.  She LOVESSS her now though

Well, you won't like my advice much. You might want to consider waiting until the second trimester. You could have everything be perfect or be like several of us on here and have a miscarriage. I hope and pray for you that it is a perfect pregnancy. Some people want family to know for support and some don't. I think the golf booties are ADORABLE!

The first time I got pregnant we waited until we saw the first heartbeat and told our family (7 weeks). We made these special things for each family member (grandparents, Uncle, Aunt, etc). Then, we watched them open it and freak out. We had been married almost 10 years and it was our first. That ended in a miscarriage at 10 weeks. It broke our hearts and it was so hard telling everyone we lost the baby. For a few months I was still telling people because the news kept spreading. 

Then, we got pregnant again and it was an ectopic. We hadn't told anyone. We did tell our parents once I had the chemo to terminate the pregnancy because I got so sick. My hubby was afraid I would be in the hospital. He was the one that told all our parents and siblings. It was very hard on him.

This pregnancy, we waited until we were in the 2nd trimester. We told immediate family the day of the 2nd trimester. Then, mailed out a beautiful announcement with an ultrasound picture of our little one. 

Traci

I'd considered that, too.  I'm a pessimist/skeptic by nature!  I know that anything can happen... and that it doesn't matter if you're super careful or want it more than anything in the world,  because if it's gonna happen, it's gonna happen, and it's out of your hands.

But still, I'm going to risk it and tell my parents and immediate family. I discussed it with my husband.  I can't keep it a secret because I see them often, and I've already started getting some nausea/fatigue... and I don't want them to speculate anything.  Everyone else, I will tell at the end of August when I begin the second trimester.

I'm super happy for your healthy pregnancy after all you have been through!  That baby is gonna have more love than he knows what to do with! :)

I totally understand why Traci would give that advice as I have also had 2 miscarriages. However, we made the decision each time to tell people. Our rule of thumb was, if we would tell them the bad news, we would share the good news. My hubby and I are both very open people so we would share the bad news with our family & friends. So we felt like we could also share the good news early.

BTW, the booties are sooooooo cute and such a good way to give the news.

Tina

Thanks for chiming in, Tina!  That's kind of the way I feel about it, too.  It's impossible for me to keep things from my family... and (god forbid) if something were to happen, I'd want their support.

 I phased it, with the thought that if I told people before the end of the first trimester it would only be people whose support I would like if I miscarried. I told my family (mom, dad, sisters, and husband's mom and dad) when we confirmed the pregnancy. I told some close friends around 8 weeks. After 13 weeks I told friends when I saw them but didn't make any broad announcements. Just this week (19) I "came out" very subtly on Facebook, noting I had gone to Babies R' Us. 

That sounds similar to what I'll do.  I'm not gonna go crazy or anything at first, just in case.  But this will be (God willing) my parents' first grandchild, so I kind of want to make it special for them when I tell them.