Off topic...and updates on me!

Brennan is 10 months old now, where does the time go?? He is the sweetest, most happiest baby and I am so blessed to have him. He's crawling, smiling, cruising around the furniture & seeing what he can get into next, climbing to get there !  I definitely have my hands full with this little guy. Older brother, who is now 10 is great with the baby, he is doing so well & I am so proud of him for all the adjustments he has had.
I have mostly just lurked here & haven't posted much & I apologize, we have just had a LOT going on & some days I just really don't know what to say. I want to be able to function & enjoy these boys but my life has been one very long rollercoaster ride, and I want off. I don't want to ride this emotional coaster any longer. For many of you *****membered, DH has a DD from previous relationship that came back in our lives & it has been, not sure how to put it any other way, a living hell. She is the most manipulative person & he just cannot see. He is blinded by his  complete & emotional guilt for giving up this child who did not have this perfect life he envisioned for herself. He drained his bank account to keep her in school (only to have her flunk out 3 months before graduation) then she finally was able to get a job...which she now managed to get FIRED from after 3 weeks. She just doesn't get it. She is in her own little world, her planet, that nothing is EVER her fault, etc. I think it is way past time for some tough love & she will just have to fall on her butt & figure this out because I am done. I am willing to help in ways that do NOT include her living in my house any longer. She made the choice to pack her stuff & leave in a huff &  I point blank told her the door didn't swing both ways, if she left, that was it. So she is now welcome to come visit, have dinner, whatever, but then she needs to go. She no longer lives here. It has been the biggest rift in my marriage that to be honest, was already struggling & I fear this will be the thing that pushes us over the edge. DH is not only not on the same page with me, when it comes to her, he apparently doesn't want to even read the same book! And my worry is, if he acts like this now, with her...what will stop this man from being like this with our boys as well...will I just be better off to make that leap & be the single parent now than to have this heartache over, all over again with the boys. I am just so tired. Tired of the fights. The arguments. Everything. Now that she lost her job, all she could talk about last night was how it was just so "unfair" bla bla...all I can think is what did you do to screw up so badly that they fired your butt?  Ughghhhh! So thanks for reading this far & letting me vent...

Sorry to hear that you are still having problems.  I really hope that since she's out of the house things will get better for you all.  Are you and DH in counceling at all?  are either of you willing to go?   I think a 3rd party would totally help your DH see what kind of a person your step daughter really is. 
Blended families aren't easy and I wish you all the best.  I am in one and while my Step DD is 13 she is very well behaved.  Then I have 2 children of my own and we are getting ready to have one together.  We have had our ups and downs as well, we are usually on the same page but I sometimes think my DH is a bit hard on the kids.  He says he is firm but fare...sometimes I don't see that...unless it's just the Mama bear coming out in me. 
I know darn well that he loves my kids like they are his own and I am so grateful for that.  I couldn't have found a better person to help raise my kids.  But it's not all roses all the time!

Good luck!!!

I am so sorry things are still not going well. I saw your name and was hoping things would have gotten better. I know how hard families can be. Right now my husband and I are in couseling with his mother trying to see if we will ever be a part of each others lives from now on. Poblem is my husband is the one who wants his family gone and I have been fighting it for years. It has helped with the couseling but I do not know how much its making the relationship better for hubby and his mother. From this my husband and I are better off though. It makes me feel like even if we decide not to have them in our lives we made the most of an attempt at trying to fix it. Having someone else there has helped. She of course is kind of in denial about anything being her fault also. Couseling is worth a try at least if you are willing. At least its something to do. Keep us updated please. Hope things get better no matter what happens in this for you!