My MIL is driving me f'ing nuts.. or is it me????

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I totally read your post on baby center yesterday!!!  I didn't know it was you.  I will have to add you as a friend.  I didn't reply but was thinking your MIL is crazy and I would have to tell her to EFF off. 

You are NOT the crazy one here!  She is way over stepping! 

Yeah wow some of the ladies on baby center really had some tough words for me, but for the most part I did get some good advice. It was my first time asking for help on there, and was surprised that so many people were upset with ME. I can understand their points of view, but I honestly thought the whole idea of joining that particular group was to vent and we were all in the same boat lol. I deffinatly dont want to leave my husband, I think I just need to get him to get on the same page as I am.

I know what you mean, some of those ladies are always quite brutal.  It's amazing to me that they can say what they do sometimes.  It's alot easier "said" then done with having to speak up like they all tell you to!

I would talk to the nurses and tell them who's allowed in and who's not.  The nurses are great and love to "kick" people out of the room if they have too. 

As for your MIL, is this her first grandchild?  I would explain nicely as possible...actually have your DH tell her that this is your baby and you both want to do these things together to "bond" as a family. 

I don't know what to tell you re once you're home - you may just have to put your foot down yourself re the daily visits and DH will have to suck it up...but as for the time in the hospital & who's in the delivery room with you...and who comes up to see you and the baby and who gets to hold the baby...that's all up to YOU.  You set down the rules w/the nurses and the hospital when you get there...or even before if you can.  No one can be in your room - to visit or during the delivery - w/o your permission.  Start things off on the right foot...and stamp it down right there.

I hope you can work things out peacefully...but remember...however they start now...they'll expect them to continue that way for life.

Thank you all so much for the advice! I appreciate it all so much. I am going to try altot of the suggestions out, and we DID put the bassinette together today lol. Will keep u all updated :)

LOL I read this and felt a lot of the same things. However my husband spent 13 years letting his mother make me feel like poo and our kids feel like they dont matter one bit to her. Now he wanted to kick her out of our lives 13 years ago and I would not let that happen. STUPID ME I am learning. I have had arguements with my hubby and all trying to keep his mother around cause what he did was make everything appear to be my fault cause he would not stand up to her. So finally in January I told her I was sick of her and her families gossip and accuasations. That caused a war. All hubbys sisters had to take her side and start sending me awful messages and the rumor was that I would divorce him if he talked to any of them. OMG!!! So I asked our pastor for help which in turn got us all in to going to see a chaplain. My husband is in the army. So needless to say its not working out well cause she does not care to change. The whole point of this long drawn out thing was that you have to stand up to her if you do not agree. I wish I had done that YEARS ago and it would have stopped my kids from being hurt by her. So say what you feel and dont hold it in. You might sensor a little to be kind but do not let your feelings be ignored! Good luck girl!!