To Tie or NOT TO Tie... that is the question

Well my husband and I have been tossing around the concept of getting my tubes tied while they are in there for the C Section.  This is our first baby, but we are older now... I am 36 he is 41, and we wanted one... and it looks like we are a few weeks away from our one... 

I think this one pregnancy although relatively easy compared to some I have heard about, came with the concerns of Downs and some strong family tendancys toward Autism... so needless to say if we get one nice healthy baby I think we will be happy and complete... we likely wont change our minds and want to have another at this point.  

How do you ladies feel about getting tubes tied.  I dont know much about it... I have always been a pill and condom girl and the pills as I got older, were less kind to me... 

I always knew in the future Id want a baby, well the future is almost here... so I am thinking maybe... we seal the system closed for biz on a more perminant level...

if you have any doubt in your mind that you may ever want one more then dont... if you 100% sure then its up to you... the iud ive heard wonderful things about and can last up to 5 years.... personally i could never do it... its just to.. perminant...

I had no idea how much I would LOVE being pregnant, giving birth, and now raising a baby. Now I cannot wait until I can have another and another!! IMO I would wait until later and if you still feel confident that you do not want more children then have your husband get snipped! It is way less invasive. Good luck with your decision though!

-Ashlie

I have been thinking about this too. Then I thought... why make a decision like this why I am under the influence of hormones. If I decide to do this it will be after I deliver.

I have also been thinking about this.  Since I'm also a c-section, my doctor does it for free if he does it at the time the baby is delivered (and it's no more invasive than the c-section).  I've always wanted 2 kids, and this is #2.  It is very permanent, and I wonder if I'll regret it someday.  But since I'm also getting a little older, I'm really leaning strongly toward it, but want to be sure, so I'm taking my time to think about it.  I don't want to feel in the end like I made a rash decision.  Also, my hubby has told me since we got married he isn't willing to be snipped, so it's either bc forever or this.  I think I have my answer, but I'm going to take a little more time before I make it official.

Good luck with whatever you decide.  It is a HUGE decision, and only you know if it's right for you.

I personally wouldn't do it.  One reason is that I have had too many friend have problems with their bodies after having their tubes tied.  And as for you with just having your first baby even though you are 36, I wouldn't.  I had my second at 36 and now my third at 39.  This will be my last baby though. 
But you might change your mind.  My story is this...I had 2 children with my first DH and while we decided we didn't want anymore I still wasn't willing to have my tubes tied.  After our daughter was born and a week before her first birthday my DH passed away. 
Fast forward a couple of years and I meet and marry a man I had graduated high school with.  We decided to try and have a baby, so here I am 8 weeks from having my 3rd. 

My DH is planning on getting snipped after our baby is born.

Good luck in your decision.

My husband doesn't want any more children, I am not 100% sure so I will not be getting my tubes tied. He refuses to get a vasectomy so we will see what happens in the future. I do not like hormonal birth control as it messes with me so we have some definate issues to work out figuring all this out, but getting my tubes tied is just too permanent for me.

I just had a tubal reversal 3 weeks ago...getting ready to start my first cycle of TTC.

My husband and I both had kids from previous marriages.  We've been married for a year now and want to have one together.  I feel so blessed that a reversal was possible and we can now try again.

Me - 38
DH - 43
DS - 17
DS - 15

JMHO here but I'd wait until you are totally sure...

I was 35 when I had my 1st and only baby... I was to have the tubal done while in for my son but my doctor seemed hesitant... He told me that since this was my 1st baby I should wait for a while and consider it further... I had my son in Dec 2008 and then went in June 2009 and had my tubal done...

I will be honest with you in saying that I do kind of regret having my tubal done now in ways... The usual ones about him being an only child, etc... But economically speaking, I know I did the right thing because I am having troubles keeping up on things for my son... He never goes without but it gets very hard financially at times...

It's a lot to think about but if I were you I would wait... Or be sure you and your hubby are very ready for that decision...

Hello,

I'm so glad to posted this thread! I know it's a subject we all think about sometimes, but not too often do we open-up and talk about it; much less subject ourselves to the opinion of others.  So I hope you feel you get the support you need here, however I agree with those of us who say only you can make the right decision for yourself. 

I do know this though, when you have a baby everything changes! No matter how set your plans are, you just never know where having a child is going to take you! And more often than not, it's in a very good direction.  So that being said, imagine being open to the possibility of more than one child?  I guarentee whatever you decide it's something you will definitely think about it as soon as your baby is born! You just never know, and if you rush to shut down shop, you won't even have the opportunity to contiplate the notion at all.

And lastly, I know we all know somebody who has regretted the decision to tie their tubes, but I don't think I've ever met somebody *****gretted NOT doing it; if blessed with a baby, how could they ever regret that blessing from God? Just my opinion and something to think about, good luck to you and your family!