I need to whine about mother's day a bit

*hugs*   you should tell them how you feel or they will keep doing it men are dense!  my hubby did great but i did have to kinda point the direction! I told him when i was preggers how much mothers day meant to me after all we have been through to get our miracle. so he knows!

That is a big bummer. But I do agee you should tell him how you feel. If he doesn't know, then he won't know to do something different in the future.

Tina

I joked to him that I got a nice side of side tables for our bedroom for mother's day. Of course, I did have to find them myself, and pay for them, and go get them, and set them up...but at least I like them!

i feel your pain! I didn't even get a card! When I mentioned how upset it made me I was told that I was being to sensitive and shouldn't feel forgotten since she made me stuff at Preschool that I got on Friday!!! WTF??? I was so mad and hurt....I wanted to feel important. So on father's day we will not be doing anything for him this year!

Whoa! So now that your child is old enough to make something, he is totally absolving himself of any mother's day responsibilities? I would be mad and hurt, too!

yep he didn't feel like there was any need to celebrate this "pointless and made up holiday" I am still so hurt by it esp since I figured he had forgotten or something but when I mentioned it and he acted like a total A** I was devastated. I am taking a good look at where we are at right now because I don't want to live the rest of my life feeling like it's pointless for him to make me feel special.

ALL holidays are essentially made up - we have to give them meaning ourselves! Remind him of that on, say, his birthday.

I'm sorry your DH didn't come through for your first mother's day.  Nothing can make up for it, but I'd say maybe later - when you're not so raw from it -  talk to him and let him know how you feel so you don't get a repeat in upcoming years.  Otherwise, it'll just continue on.

I had to laugh yesterday - we don't live in the States, so we don't get all the commercials, etc reminding that it's mother's day (or any other American holiday).  I didn't say anything re MD just because that's the way I am about anything...if you remember my b-day/mother's day, valentines day, fine, if you don't, fine.  I don't want something because I have to remind them.

My son (who's 15) found out online yesterday evening around 7 p.m. that it was MD and went and picked me some fuzzy dandelions and little blue flowers that I think are 'forget-me-nots.' He put the blue flowers in my hair and gave me a kiss and told me happy MD and he was sorry he forgot.  In past years, when we lived in Indonesia, there was a flower stall right outside our compound and he'd go buy me flowers for MD or my b-day or just because, so it was sweet...there's no place walking distance for anything near our house, so I know he couldn't get anything.  Somewhere around 11 p.m. or so, my husband remembered...then just yelled over his shoulder...'Today's Mother's Day? Happy Mother's Day!  I love you!'

My point, I guess - even though this one was more special because it was your first - is to get your husband in line with what you want to be your family's traditions for mother's day (and father's day) now - and eventually, you'll just appreciate the small gestures.  Don't take it personal when he forgets or doesn't do what you wanted...just chalk it up the broken chromosome.  It's something my sister and I came up with - men are afflicted with the Broken Chromosome Syndrom.  They used to have two healthy XX chromosomes like women, then one of the legs broke off of one of their X's, making them XY.  Pity them...don't kill them.

[[HUGS]]

Fantastic Holly! I want to print that and hang it on the fridge!

MEN!   Honestly , I think the majority of men just don't get it.  It has taken my husband 3 years to finally understand that all I want for mother's day is to get something "sweet" , maybe homemade, but very thoughtful from my children and family.    I'm sorry it wasn't what you wanted.    He'll do better next year! :)  Hugs, Suzanne