baby shower.. again

what a great way to look at it! Thank you so much for that Traci

My bf did the same thing! I told her way in advance and she was on break from school and her husbband and her went on vaca now mind you they could have left a day late they drive to AL her hubbys parents have a condo there...we went to terre haute to visit her and go to my graduation well she was having dinner with her mom who lives in the same town then we went down for colts camp and i told her i was coming she scheduled her vaca again! i no longer talk to the *****! she did it over and over and i realized no more!


I hope she would reconsider, people dont realize how important it is! :)

Yeah I wish she would reconsider too but she's not! She called me today saying she felt bad and what gift did I want and from which of my 2 registries I liked the most. I told her she didn't need to get anything. She then texted me that she feels bad she can't go and wants to get me a special gift since she's not going. But the truth of the matter is she is able to go she just doesn't want to. I have felt really bad all day. Everytime I think about it I cry. I just can't help it, I know eventually ill get over it. But I still find it hard. It was important to me for her to be there. I went to her SIL baby shower because she didn't want to be alone there. I don't even want a gift from her to be honest. F that!!

I feel for you!  I don't have kids and I'm not expecting... but I went through something similar with my "best friend."  We were friends for 15 years and she was like my sister.  She was my maid of honor, and I was hers. We were inseperable.

Then I had my WLS after she had her first baby, and she stopped speaking to me.  When we DID talk, she'd say hurtful things like, "You can't understand, because YOU'RE not a mom" and "Someday when YOU have a baby, you might GET IT."  Then, after a while, she wouldn't even respond to my EMails.  I chalked it up to postpartum depression, but I tried for months to reconcile, and she would have nothing to do with me.  I stayed awake many, many nights trying to think of what I could have possibly done to make her mad at me.

Then, I had an epiphany.  This girl had always been a TAKER.  She always made me come to her, always picked what we did, always chose where we ate, always did what she wanted to do.  Our meetings revolved around her schedule.  I never saw it, because I was "blinded by love," so to speak.

I'm grateful for the years of friendship we had together... but it wasn't meant to be.  We grew apart.  It sucked at first, but you know... I'm much happier now.

Knowing that she knew ahead of time then scheduled her weekend away anyways...yeah, you're right to be upset.  As Traci said, it seems to be time to move on to new friendships...hopefully ones that will be true friends and there for you through thick and thin.  The fact that she'd put her boyfriend - and a weekend with him, which she could do any time - in front of such an important thing for you shows that she is immature and not ready for a two-way friendship.

Try to get  out and meet new people and make a few more friends....whether it's through play groups for babies, even Lamaze classes, groups for single mothers, your church, whatever.  Reach out to someone else who is lonely and you will find that you have a lot to offer someone else, and will reap a lot in return.