baby shower.. again

how would you feel if your only best friend wasn't coming to your baby shower. Apparently, she's going away with her boyfriend and his family for the weekend. I feel very hurt because I told her about the baby shower LONG time ago. I would tell her everything that was going with it, and she would ask me how it was going. Now last minute she tells me she's going away. Is it wrong for me to feel hurt & betrayed. She's always putting her guy before anyone else, she even does it to her mom. Which by the way is going to the shower with her 2 little sisters & SIL. am i wrong for feeling like this?? 

 If she knew about the shower WAY before this weekend was planned, I'd be very hurt.  
However, my best friend (now ex-bff) decided a week before the shower that she was hosting, that she didn't want any part of it anymore because her boyfriend thought I was a bad influence.  He lives 500 miles away.  She took his side and killed our friendship.  

OMG my bestfriend just told me that she wont be attending my shower yesterday...she has known for about 4 months! She TOO is going out of town with her new boyfriend =/ needless to say that i spent the whole day sad and its even more sad because my fiance and i are springing a surprise wedding on my fam the day of the shower! Its a time that i really would want my bestie there regardless so i feel your pain hun! It is definitely not wrong to feel hurt!

 yeah, she knew when it was since a while back. maybe she forgot and went ahead and planned her vacation anyway. Since the baby shower falls may 29th which is memorial day weekend. i feel very cheated. she is the only friend i really had and she doesn't live very close and i hardly get to see here because shes always preoccupied with her boyfriend. damn Blanca, I guess were in the same boat :/ i've been feeling very sad too!!

Ugh ... SOOOO feel you! The thing is, that once you are pregnant and have the baby, all your relationships change ... I found out I was pregnant four days after I got married, (SUCH a blessing) and I don't even talk to half the girls who were in my wedding. Honestly, I speak from experience when I say your BF might be feeling something close to jealousy ... she probably doesn't even know it! My best advice is to join playgroups near you and try to make "mommy friends" . I find hten more supportive and better able to relate.
Good luck! 

yep, even she herself told me that she feels 'seperated' and i've matured so much and i'm different. i said of course.. i'm going to have a baby! ever since i found out, i've been keeping her at a distance. thanks for the advice and understanding!!

I am sorry you are going through this but honestly, if she were truly your best friend she wouldn't but the man first. I know that isn't easy to hear or consider. Also the whole "love is blind thing" well love also blinds some people from their "Real" lives until the "new-ness" wears off.

I am sorry that she won't be there - but remember that all the people who truly care will be! You will have a great shower either way!

*hugs*
Liz

Liz, your so right!! My mom told me the same thing. I know my mom told me grandma she felt bad for me but she said you know what carol, she's not your friend. I should have known.... i'm 21, and when I found out i was pregnant she told me to abort it as soon as i can because then it gets too big and i couldn't take it out. and i really ignored it and forgave her. but it's too much already. she obviously doesn't care so why should i right?

You got it hun! There are just more important things in life now. This little girl is going to be blessed with the people who surround you who are honestly interested in her life and well being!

People are in our life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. It seems your friendship has run it's course. You already stated you were keeping her at a distance and she wasn't supportive of your pregnancy.


Enjoy your shower with those people that love and support you. Find new friends!! Enjoy your blessing and keep negativity away.

Hang in there.
Traci