Scared s***less about a c- sec.

Well today is the 4th... that means in 2 days I am having a section, cuz neither boy will stay head down... I had my daughter vaginally, So I am scared about getting a section...my doctors are cutting me above my belly button cuz my skin fold is so large they don't want me to get an infection under it... I am freaking out cuz I don't want to be cut open again and have to heal... PLus I have like no help when I get home from the hospital, the hubby can't miss much work and I have my 2 year old plus twins to take care of... Someone please tell me I am worrying too much about this... I'm gonna be fine right? lol

Side note I had a larger bloody show this morning then I did a few weeks ago... Maybe I will go before the 6th...

Thanks

Chrissy

I wish I could tell you it will all be OK but I haven't been through it personally. I know that you will make it work though! Do you have any friends that can maybe take your 2 year old for a few hours during the day for the first few days? That or just come over and be with you.

My hubby can't take much time off either, he is using all his vacation time for our family vacation in June but I am super lucky that I have tons of help.

Just focus on the positive - the day after tomorrow you will be holding your 2 beautiful boys!

Liz

Chrissy, my c-section wasn't planned, so I didn't have time to worry, but I would have if I'd had advance notice. Honestly, it wasn't that bad. They had a little bit of a difficult time getting my spinal in, but that was totally tolerable. The c-section itself was quick and painless, just felt a little funny when you could tell they were doing things, but you don't feel any pain. Recovery was pretty good too. I must admit that I over did it the first day or so, walking to/from NICU a lot. I wasn't feeling any pain because of the spinal. The next day I was very uncomfortable from overdoing it. Take your pain meds and take it easy. You'll do fine!!

Hey!  My biggest fear was a c-section.  I am a complete baby and I had a literal meltdown before I went into the OR.  Once I got in there I was completely calm.  This is about your babies.  Ii was a week and a day out of surgery yesterday and I was driving.  I've been off pain meds for days.  The first 2-3 days are rough, but you will be in the hospital where you will have lots of help.  I wish you the best, it is NOT as bad as you are imagining!! 

Good luck!
Karen

I had the C-Section & the twins. You are very blessed that yours will be full term. Mine were preemies. So, they were eating every 1 1/2 - 2 hours. Hopefully yours will sleep a little more between feedings. My advice is to get them on a schedule fast !!! You have to feed them @ the same time (it is possible to do by yourself). If not, you'll be feeding one of them all the time & will never get any rest. I used a Boppy pillow(s) during feedings till I got the hang of positioning them. My biggest concern for you is your toddler getting enough attention. You are gonna need to rest when the babies rest & that is very hard with a toddler. Also, you won't we able to lift her for several weeks. I don't know about your little girl, but my 2 yr olds are needy. I totally sympathize with your situation, but as Mommies, it's amazing what we can do when it comes to caring for our babies. You can do it !!! We will all be praying for you : ) 

thanks... the doctors and I are surprised I am 38 weeks and still going... my daughter is such a mommys girl during the day and when daddy gets home then she's a daddys girl.... I think she will help me a lot though... I just hope she adapts well to the twins..

The C section itself isn't as bad as I had thought it was going to be. The infection I got afterwards was, so I'm glad they are thinking about that and giving you an incision that will minimize that. You'll be able to handle it by yourself but it would be nice to have some help. Do you have anyone, a friend or relative that could come over for even a couple hours during the day to help out?

where there cutting me is making me think about my bypass incision and how badlt that hurt... but then again I was also 165lbs heaver then as well... I am sure I am gonna be fine, I'm just a worry wart sometimes...

I cannot give you advice regarding the c-section because I didn't have one, but I can tell you what it's like to have 3 young children in the house.  

My twins were 15 months old when I brought my newborn home from the hospital.  I had help for about a week and after that it was just me and the three kids.   So it CAN be done.  

The twins are going to demand a lot of your time and attention, but I agree with the other poster.  You will need to set aside one on one time with you and your daughter.   Initially my twins were PISSED that I brought a new strange creature into the house, but in about 2 weeks they were in love with their new baby sister.  

I never had my twins on a feeding schedule.  I tried and tried to get them on the same schedule, but it never happened.  If you can do it, great, but if you cannot don't sweat it.   They will eventually get on the same schedule when it comes to feeding.  My twins started to eat at the same time when I introduced solids at 6 months.  They are now almost 20 months and still don't nap at the same time and they never go to bed at the same time.   So if you can regulate that, it will be a big help. 

It will probably take you a few months to get into a routine.  It will keep you sane if you just go with the flow versus trying to force schedules.  At least that's what has worked for me. 

I am just hoping they are both head down in the morning so I can go natural... but either way I know I can do this... I think my daughter will adjust alright after a while but it's hard to say... I couldn't imagine twins toddlers first and a new one... I already plan on getting a good schedule going with them asap... my daughter is easy to adjust to a new one... if need be...

thanks