Well it's official....

OMG, OMG, OMG!!!  Oh Meleney it sounds insane BUT have these babies cause it will never feel right if you don't (I know first hand).  Like how could this happen - but it did and it did for a reason.

I don't want to mention "adoption" though I just got to.  I know how I ache to be in a position to have a baby.  I don't know what it would be like if when the time came that I could not conceive  - if I tried, tried and couldn't, I would would not hesitate to adopt and love that child like my very own.  Many families feel like that.  Personal I could never give my child up for adoption so I would understand your thoughts on that too.

If it weren't meant to be, it would not have happened or it won't continue to happen.

(((BIG HUGS)))

Leila

I wish you well.

I think you've gotten enough personal and/or judgmental opinions here, so here's some food for thought....

Personally, I believe that we aren't brought to things we can't deal with. I believe there is a way to get through any situation and the outcome be a positive one (terminal illness aside, obviously). I believe that unexpected pregnancies/children only hold us back if we have the mindset that they will.

Would adoption be a possibility? You could always tell everyone you are a surrogate or something and no one will even have to know the real cir****tances.

This is an acitve post.  When I read it, I so hoped no one would put there personal belief system into their answer, however, I was wrong.  While we all are entitled to our opinion, I guess some of us can't or don't know how to disagree without being disagreeable.  From reading the remainder of the post it appears some posters have changed the tone of the post.  My two cents -  this decision should be made between you, your fiance and God, really no one else opinion matters.  My prayers are with you and your family that whatever decision you make that it will be right for you and your family.  I know it will not be an easy decision but it will be one you can live with. 

Even though you aren't stoked about this pregnancy, I must say congratulations.  I can understand the predicament you are in..."how do i do this?"  If you decide to terminate or give up the babies....I pray for strength for you and your family.  I could never make that decision.  I couldn't live with the "what ifs" and "where are they nows" and what do they look likes".

Even in the face of difficult times, I would have my babies....I couldn't do it any other way.  For me the only decsions would be "where are they going to sleep?"  LOL!!! 

I don't think it's anyone place to share opinions like they have...this is your life. 

These are precious little people you are carrying.  Good luck to you on this journey! 

I tried my best to stay out of this but I just couldn't keep quiet any longer. I am not going to judge, flame, or "crucify" you. I am also not going to give you any sympathy. I have been praying for you since this post went up. I can't imagine how scared you must be right now. The picture I post below isn't to make you angry. I just feel that it is my responsibility as a Christian mother to say something. I will continue praying for you, your unborn babies, and your family.

"You may be going through a touch time right now but God is getting ready to bless you in ways that you cannot imagine!" -Anonymous

-Ashlie

Hi Meleney,

You don't really know me as my littlest one is 4, but I have been around this board a long time and there are those here that I consider wonderful women and some that I consider to be attention *****s who judge others due to their own issues.  I myself hope that you are able to come to a decision that YOU and YOUR FIANCE can live with.  Ultimately, that is what it comes down to.  I am not afraid to say, I am an agnostic.  I have a very hard time with religious people using it as a way to push their views and then turning around and making their own mistakes and using religion as an excuse for that.  So, I am coming from an entirely different perspective.

Just know that you are the one who will make the best decision for you.  Good luck sweetie I hope you feel better soon.

first congratulations..... next you must be soooo freaked out!!! i know i would be!! Sheesh you must be up to your eyeballs in baby and now the new pregnancy... i would need a big dose of my anti anxiety meds just not to head into a tail spin... that being said please give yourself some time to reflect... Im sure that most of what you are feeling is panic and shock....
that being said, the only one who can make that desicion is you. i'm sure that you know that. and even though the "GOD" replies make me seethe inside, i still beleive the opinions of others will help you weigh out what is going on in your own conflicting mind. I beleive in GOD but probably not the same as everyone else. Beleive me when and if i get there i've got some hard questions for him to answer... I beleive that god will see you through this no mater your decision. he knows that the decision you face is probably the hardest you will ever have to make. i do not beleive he will judge you for it. YOU will be the worst judge of yourself. I say this from experience.

I wound up pregnant after the first time i slept with my boyfreind (now my husband). I was on birthcontrol (another catholic no-no that i dont think god will condem me for) AND he didnt finish. So i was shocked when i found out i was pregnant. I was terrified, and i went back and forth about what to do. i decided on an abortion. For me, it has been the worst decision i ever made in my life and the guilt i feel will never go away. GOD i beleive has forgiven me, but i havent forgiven myself. I still believe in every womens right to choose... but if i could go back I WOULD CHOOSE differently. my life would be different. I still cant look at a baby without reflecting. I look at my son and wonder what his brother or sister might have looked like...

so for those preachers who have never been there and think its and easy way out to ERASE a problem... it just isnt so.... it stays with you... forever...

I had a very hard time having my son and was on fertility medication... that year was REALLY bad. i thought this was gods way of punishing me for what i did. then i had to think about it and reflect on it... my god is not vengeful... he could never hate me...

this time around was an "accident" as they say... wasnt really being careful... but then really wasnt in my mind that i could get pregnant on my own after all the issues i had with my son... I CRIED and CRIED! i didnt want to be pregnant. i was finally ok with having just 1 child. got rid of everything baby out of the attic 2 months before. It took me a few weeks to get into it (i didnt even want to tell people cause i was afraid they would see just how unhappy i was) when i was at about 3 months i started to come around.

now at my last doctors appt i just found out they wont be delivering out of a spesific hospital anymore and only a catholic hospital so i will NOT be able to get my tubes tied at the same time (again another catholic no-no i dont think god will judge me for)

not saying any of these catholic no -nos are on quite the same level, just that i beleive in GOD and maybe not a spesific religion or that my decisions will keep me from him.

Girl, i am here for you... no matter what decision you make it will be a very difficult one and a long road ahead. my heart hurts for you.  HUGS

 
Hi Meleney.  I sent you a PM, but I'm sure you have a hundred by now.    

Keep your chin up girl.

im new on here so sorry for sounding so harsh but god dont have a damn thing to do with this she is the dumb one for letting herself get pregnant and for the fiance he stupid to bc knowing that they just had twins and she said she has 4 i toltal y not protect yourself the hell will all this feeling sorry for her yeah she needs to pray after she has the abortion how does it look for her to carry again a set of twins and give them up for adoption that wil be on her headfor the rest of her life and if she does decide to have an abortion she need to learn to e9ither use protection or get her tubes done so she wont come out pregnant again bc she on her posting like she wants somebody to feel sorry for her but no pity this round or this way if u cant deal with the comments like u said earlier dont post bc when u post you get possitive and negative feedback and as for your fiance tell him to learn how to protect himself and you dont be so niave. sorry ake it for what is worth