Well it's official....
I wasn't going to say anything because frankly, I didn't want to get flamed. But to hell with it. I understand what Ann is saying - having a hard time TTC and seeing a post like this is difficult. BUT - when I was 18 and stupid, I had sex with a guy and used no protection. I thought I was ok because he didn't "finish". Well, I am living proof that a man can impregnate a woman without finishing. I had an abortion. My reasons are my own and will not change anyone's opinion if they are against abortion anyway, so I'll spare you them. It was THE hardest decision I've ever made, even 15 years later. No one, unless they have faced this decision, could know how they will react, Bible quotes, faith or whatever can NOT prepare you for this decision.
While I'd love it if you could carry the babies to term and give them up, I know that's not possible for most, or all of us who are infertile (or taking a long time to conceive) would have surrogate mothers lining up down the block! I'm dying to have a baby now, but I know if disaster struck and it would be impossible for me to care for a child tomorrow, it would be very hard, but I'd consider another abortion. Even though I've said for 15 years that I'd never do it again.
All this to say - I'm really sorry you are being faced with this decision. It's not easy, I know that very well - but I feel very strongly that you know what you and your family need better than anyone here, and if terminating is the way you need to go, then best wishes to you. If you want to talk, PM me anytime.
*hugs*
T :)
While I'd love it if you could carry the babies to term and give them up, I know that's not possible for most, or all of us who are infertile (or taking a long time to conceive) would have surrogate mothers lining up down the block! I'm dying to have a baby now, but I know if disaster struck and it would be impossible for me to care for a child tomorrow, it would be very hard, but I'd consider another abortion. Even though I've said for 15 years that I'd never do it again.
All this to say - I'm really sorry you are being faced with this decision. It's not easy, I know that very well - but I feel very strongly that you know what you and your family need better than anyone here, and if terminating is the way you need to go, then best wishes to you. If you want to talk, PM me anytime.
*hugs*
T :)
I DID Make It - 135.4 8-1-10! Now working on post baby weight loss. (All WL post-op - preop got up to 220 from quitting smoking & last supper syndrome.) 5'2"
Awww...Mel...I hope I didn't offend you with my posts. I love you and I love seeing the twins. I just want you to know since you have mentioned the Lord before that He is with you. I was not at ALL trying to flame you or hurt you and I don't want you to leave.
320/199/140<<<
Updated since I had my baby....280(highest pregnant)/245(current)/140 still is my goal and I know I can do it!!!
Updated since I had my baby....280(highest pregnant)/245(current)/140 still is my goal and I know I can do it!!!
I would definatly say check out all your options completly before you make a decision honey. Adoption is a beautiful option. The birth family can help you by paying all of your doctor bills, and even with rent etc for the pregnancy. I am a birth mom, and have never regretted my decision. We still have regular contact with the adoptive family and my son as well. Whatever choice you make, there are lots of people on here to support you. :) Good luck, hopt you feel better!
Super proud mommy to Dylan, Owen and Sophia Brianne!
I would just like to offer support also. I know the decision all too well and I agree it is the hardest thing to do. I too had an abortion at 15 and to this day it hurts me so much. I just want to say that doing what is best for you is the best thing to do and nothing noone says nor does should change that. I know many people who have to live with this is either way it goes NOONE has a right to be cruel and judgemental at all!! Big Hugs for you!!
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Jarrid 10-12-98
Hayvann 11-22-09
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No matter what you choose, we won't judge you here! But I will certainly encourage you to be a LOT MORE CAREFUL! Clearly, you are fertile Myrtle over there!
edited to add: OK, so apparently some people will be all Judgy McJudgerson, so I'll just say *I* won't judge.
No matter what you choose, we won't judge you here! But I will certainly encourage you to be a LOT MORE CAREFUL! Clearly, you are fertile Myrtle over there!
edited to add: OK, so apparently some people will be all Judgy McJudgerson, so I'll just say *I* won't judge.
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Sleeved 07/11/2013 228/165 (surgery/current) (111lbs lost)
Mom to two of the cutest boys on earth.
Meleney,
My name is Sherrine and I normally look at this website but rarely respond. I read your post and felt the need to do so. First i want to say that I am here for you even though you don't know me. I understand that you are scared, but trust in God and believe that perhaps this is his plan and it will work out. I think it is amazing that you have conceived so quickly again and with twins to boot! Many of us on this board make mistakes. I see it all the time. I see posts on here from people who get pregant a month or two after surgery and they reach out so why shouldn't you? I am not judging you AT ALL nor should anyone else responding to your post. Four babies in daycare will be close to impossible and naturally I don't know your situation but those are all things to consider. Whatever you decision, I am there and I will pray that you find guidance and peace with your decision. Your first set of twins are beautiful by the way. Take Care and get some rest
My name is Sherrine and I normally look at this website but rarely respond. I read your post and felt the need to do so. First i want to say that I am here for you even though you don't know me. I understand that you are scared, but trust in God and believe that perhaps this is his plan and it will work out. I think it is amazing that you have conceived so quickly again and with twins to boot! Many of us on this board make mistakes. I see it all the time. I see posts on here from people who get pregant a month or two after surgery and they reach out so why shouldn't you? I am not judging you AT ALL nor should anyone else responding to your post. Four babies in daycare will be close to impossible and naturally I don't know your situation but those are all things to consider. Whatever you decision, I am there and I will pray that you find guidance and peace with your decision. Your first set of twins are beautiful by the way. Take Care and get some rest
Hi Meleney,
Just wanted you to know that I am praying for you. I do believe God exists....and while I have been trying almost 8 years for a baby (with 14 months off after surgery), I don't see this as a "massive slap in the face to me". I know that you must be SO overwhelmed! Often being overwhelmed can make people do things they will regret. The only advice I can give is to think very hard before you abort these sweet babies...I can totally understand if you can't care for them. You definitely have your hands full! But, there are families out there that would love to have them. I am praying for you, girl!
Just wanted you to know that I am praying for you. I do believe God exists....and while I have been trying almost 8 years for a baby (with 14 months off after surgery), I don't see this as a "massive slap in the face to me". I know that you must be SO overwhelmed! Often being overwhelmed can make people do things they will regret. The only advice I can give is to think very hard before you abort these sweet babies...I can totally understand if you can't care for them. You definitely have your hands full! But, there are families out there that would love to have them. I am praying for you, girl!
Leslie
Wow...OMG, good luck girl. That's going to be tough with 4 little ones under two years of age. I (or somebody) would seriously consider staying home (homemaker). It will be less expensive. Good luck again and congratulations, I think. 
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