How soon can I get pregnant....

Hi all I am new to this forum, I just had RNY 3/31/10 which was revised from lapband 11/2005, I am 36 years old 37 in October. My new fiancee and I have been together 3  plus wonderful years and he and I want a baby soo bad.  How soon after surgery can I try to comceive..

My fear is I am not getting any younger and he doesn't have any children...I currently weight 194 pounds I still have about 50-60 pounds to lose for my own goal, but really wanted to try to conceive this year closer to November or December...too soon?

Thank you...

Most surgeons say to wait between 12-18 months (some even want 24 months).   I would talk to your surgeon about this at your next appointment.   Lose the weight as quickly as you can.  If you are at goal (or at a stable weight) by November, he/she may give you the O.K to start trying sooner.

Ask your surgeon what they think. I am 37 and will be 38 when the baby is born. "Old" women are having healthy kids all the time. Try not to stress it too much. It doesn't help with weight loss.

I waited until I hit my goal which was 15 months out from surgery. I'm 37 yrs old and 36 weeks prego...

Most doctors will not agree even if you are stable by November or December and the typical doctor will tell you that they want you to wait 12-18 months after having RNY surgery to get pregnant.  Not just because it derails your weight loss(because most do gain weight when they get pregnant), but because you are at increased risk and so is your child if you don't wait.  Yes...several women here have gotten pregnant accidentally before that time period and their children were fine...however they do make you wait for a reason.

You are at increased risk of interuterine growth restriction(baby can't gain enough weight within you because of your surgery and the ability to eat less food) because your body cannot get a lot of food in volume, and b)you are still malabsorbing pretty good up until after a year after surgery until your body increases the cilia in your digestive tract to start gaining more nutrients from the tiny bits of food you eat.  Not to mention, you want your weight stable prior to getting pregnant and you want your vitamin levels at optimal level.  While in that first year, many many people's levels go haywire and baby pulls what it needs from you.  Last thing you need is to be anemic or for the baby to steal too much calcium from you and you start pulling from your bones.  Osteomalacia and Osteoporosis at 30 or 40 years old is not cool!

RNY is not like lapband.  There are long lasting effects to our surgery.  Make sure you are healthy before trying to conceive.  You are influencing both you and your child when you are pregnant and you want to be healthy before you try.  I understand the longing for a child...but you don't want to worry your entire pregnancy like some women here have had to do when that worry could have been abated had you just waited the optimal amount of time.  And as a previous poster put it, 36 or 37 is not that old.  We have women here in their 40s having healthy babies.

So...use your RNY wisely.  Lose that last 50 or 60 lbs, get your weight stabilized and then try.  Not only will conception be easier, but you won't have the weight of worrying about your child and blaming yourself if something goes wrong.

I waited...and I am so glad I did.  I have worried this pregnancy anyway, but at least I did NOT have to worry about her growth.  She is growing beautifully because I waited almost two years to become pregnant with her.

I am in exactly the same boat...having a revision to RNY next week. I have about 35 lbs to lose and want to start TTC by the start of fall. I already have been taking extra calcium and folic acid to prepare my body, and we'll see how I feel in the fall. I would not do anything that I felt was unsafe for me or the baby.

I had RNY in Sept 07 and saw my surgeon in Aug 08, when I was already at goal.  I wanted to start TTC and he was adement that I wait until 2 years.  He basically explained that at this point the baby would be fine, but unless I was very closely monitored there could be problems for me.

In the interim I moved to Germany and the doctor here cleared me for TTC at 18 months post-op.