Update w/ pictures & Walk for MS
OH boy have I been stressed out lately. I have come to terms with the fact that I have fallen off the WLS wagon! I need to get back to basics and quit cheating! It's hard because I am not gaining weight from cheating but in fact still slowly losing. I just want to get a grip on things asap because some daysoon I will be able to gain weight and I do not want to fail at this! I have created a profile at mycaloriecounter.com and I think this tool will help me be responsible for what I put in my mouth! I still have 40 lbs to lose and I would love to get there someday!
On another note I have been getting frustrated with my husband. He has not lifted one finger around the house in a week! I cleaned the house spotless last Thursday and kept on top of it up until probably Monday. On Monday night I had cleaned the kitchen after dinner. My husband took our plates to the kitchen after dinner and didn't do anything with them but put them on the counter and that's where they sat. I very nicely and calmly asked him why he couldn't rinse them off and put them in the sink? Especially when he knows how hard I had been working to keep the house clean. His response was "You have been waaay too sensitive about the house ever since you cleaned it!" So needless to say I quit cleaning it period. He is a stay at home dad and he should be able to do something around the house when he is home. The problem is when he is home every available minute he gets away from Annie (if she is napping or content in her swing etc...) he gets on the phone to start booking for his bands tour this summer so house work goes out the window. Then on Monday and Wednesday nights he goes to the studio as soon as I walk in the door. I am going 4hrs up north alone w/ Annie to celebrate Easter w/ Matt's family because Matt has band stuff this weekend. I had to take a vacation day yesterday because Matt was out of town for a show. He got home at 4am so I know NOTHING is going to get done around the house today because he will be too tired. He is going to the studio tonight to practice so I will have to clean the house if I want it done. I am so close to snapping! I don't know what I have gotten myself into. This is the life of a rock stars wife but it wouldn't be so bad if he would help when he is home but when he is home he just wants to relax because the band is a lot of work! I dunno....
Annie is growing like a weed! She is 15.6 pounds and 24in long. She is 3 mo old and wearing 3-6mo and 6mo clothes. She is in size 2-3 diapers. She is sleeping pretty well for us. Last night she went to bed at 9:45pm and I woke her up to top her off at midnight and then she woke up to eat at 4:30am and I fed her before I left for work at 7am. She went back to bed for dad soon after that for another couple hours. She is a great baby at home but is pretty fussy away from home. I don't know what that's all about. If any of you have any advice on that fill me in!
I am doing the "Walk For MS" on 5/2/2010. It is a 6 mile walk. I would appreciate any pledges! My grandmother has lived with MS since I was a baby and my cousins girlfriend, Lindsey was just diagnosed and she is only 26 years old! I am trying to do all I can to support this cause so any little bit helps! You can pledge at this link:
http://walkmnm.nationalmssociety.org/site/TR/Walk/MNMWalkEve nts?pg=pfind&fr_id=12011
Donate either to me: Ashlie Mahlen or my team: Quinn's Crew - Thank you sooo much!!
Thanks everyone for reading!
-Ashlie
On another note I have been getting frustrated with my husband. He has not lifted one finger around the house in a week! I cleaned the house spotless last Thursday and kept on top of it up until probably Monday. On Monday night I had cleaned the kitchen after dinner. My husband took our plates to the kitchen after dinner and didn't do anything with them but put them on the counter and that's where they sat. I very nicely and calmly asked him why he couldn't rinse them off and put them in the sink? Especially when he knows how hard I had been working to keep the house clean. His response was "You have been waaay too sensitive about the house ever since you cleaned it!" So needless to say I quit cleaning it period. He is a stay at home dad and he should be able to do something around the house when he is home. The problem is when he is home every available minute he gets away from Annie (if she is napping or content in her swing etc...) he gets on the phone to start booking for his bands tour this summer so house work goes out the window. Then on Monday and Wednesday nights he goes to the studio as soon as I walk in the door. I am going 4hrs up north alone w/ Annie to celebrate Easter w/ Matt's family because Matt has band stuff this weekend. I had to take a vacation day yesterday because Matt was out of town for a show. He got home at 4am so I know NOTHING is going to get done around the house today because he will be too tired. He is going to the studio tonight to practice so I will have to clean the house if I want it done. I am so close to snapping! I don't know what I have gotten myself into. This is the life of a rock stars wife but it wouldn't be so bad if he would help when he is home but when he is home he just wants to relax because the band is a lot of work! I dunno....
Annie is growing like a weed! She is 15.6 pounds and 24in long. She is 3 mo old and wearing 3-6mo and 6mo clothes. She is in size 2-3 diapers. She is sleeping pretty well for us. Last night she went to bed at 9:45pm and I woke her up to top her off at midnight and then she woke up to eat at 4:30am and I fed her before I left for work at 7am. She went back to bed for dad soon after that for another couple hours. She is a great baby at home but is pretty fussy away from home. I don't know what that's all about. If any of you have any advice on that fill me in!
I am doing the "Walk For MS" on 5/2/2010. It is a 6 mile walk. I would appreciate any pledges! My grandmother has lived with MS since I was a baby and my cousins girlfriend, Lindsey was just diagnosed and she is only 26 years old! I am trying to do all I can to support this cause so any little bit helps! You can pledge at this link:
http://walkmnm.nationalmssociety.org/site/TR/Walk/MNMWalkEve nts?pg=pfind&fr_id=12011
Donate either to me: Ashlie Mahlen or my team: Quinn's Crew - Thank you sooo much!!
Thanks everyone for reading!
-Ashlie
Highest / DOS / Current / Goal / I've lost / Height / Size B4 wls / After wls
435 405 213 184 222 6ft 30/32 14/16
Just wanted to tell you (though you already know) that you have an absolutely beautiful baby girl!! Good job!
Good luck with getting back on the "wagon". I had my surgery August 2005, so I know it's easy to forget the "rules" and get detoured. It's so much a head game. Be strong, you'll make it!!
Good luck with getting back on the "wagon". I had my surgery August 2005, so I know it's easy to forget the "rules" and get detoured. It's so much a head game. Be strong, you'll make it!!
RNY 08/16/05
Weight day of surgery 222
Lost 100 pounds in about 10 months
Pre-pregnancy weight 126
Delivery day weight 166
Currently 118
Baby Gage born 11/02/10
Cute pictures!! I just wanted to comment on the hubby thing. I have done the band thing, tour, etc. I know how stressful and time consuming it is. However, you have a baby now and he needs to chip in. It sounds like you're working and taking care of baby so you both just need to decide how to split up the housework. Maybe if you actually say, I'll do this chore, if you do this, maybe that will work. Just a suggestion. Hope that gets better!
Tami "I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me!" Philippians 4:13
First off Annie is so beautiful!!! 3 months already - WOW!
As for the husband... mine does the same thing - granted baby isn't here yet but I am more then 8 months pregnant and slowing down, it's getting harder to do things. I recently posted something about this on the PA board and got some great replies (many of the people *****sponded know both of us personally). My hubby works opposite shift as me (6:30am - 4pm for me and 11am - 9pm for him - I have an hour commute and he has a 30 minute commute) so we don't cross paths - I am asleep when he gets home and he is asleep when I leave. We have agreed on using a dry erase marker board. I get to leave him a list of a few things to do that would really help me out. I always ask the same things - take out the trash, empty the dishwasher and put away the dishes from the sink. My friends (men and women) confirmed that men don't see things like we do - most men can step over dirty socks 100 times and won't think to pick them up - we can't do it once. They aren't "noticers" my hubby will do the same thing with the dinner dishes, he sets them on the counter right over the dishwasher or puts them next to the sink - he knows when the dishwasher is dirty - he empties it! I am not a neat freak by any means but I like to keep the house "presentable" just in case. He also never notices if the cats need food or water. I try to give him notice with the things incase he is too tired one night/morning to do it he has another opportunity. Like monday I left him a note asking him "before friday" please do X, Y &Z and today when I got home from work it was all done. He can also leave me things - switch out laundry if he threw something in, a request for dinner etc. That way it seems like a 2 way street not just me making demands of him.
Hope that helps!
Liz
As for the husband... mine does the same thing - granted baby isn't here yet but I am more then 8 months pregnant and slowing down, it's getting harder to do things. I recently posted something about this on the PA board and got some great replies (many of the people *****sponded know both of us personally). My hubby works opposite shift as me (6:30am - 4pm for me and 11am - 9pm for him - I have an hour commute and he has a 30 minute commute) so we don't cross paths - I am asleep when he gets home and he is asleep when I leave. We have agreed on using a dry erase marker board. I get to leave him a list of a few things to do that would really help me out. I always ask the same things - take out the trash, empty the dishwasher and put away the dishes from the sink. My friends (men and women) confirmed that men don't see things like we do - most men can step over dirty socks 100 times and won't think to pick them up - we can't do it once. They aren't "noticers" my hubby will do the same thing with the dinner dishes, he sets them on the counter right over the dishwasher or puts them next to the sink - he knows when the dishwasher is dirty - he empties it! I am not a neat freak by any means but I like to keep the house "presentable" just in case. He also never notices if the cats need food or water. I try to give him notice with the things incase he is too tired one night/morning to do it he has another opportunity. Like monday I left him a note asking him "before friday" please do X, Y &Z and today when I got home from work it was all done. He can also leave me things - switch out laundry if he threw something in, a request for dinner etc. That way it seems like a 2 way street not just me making demands of him.
Hope that helps!
Liz
Yah we are opposite Craig works from 5:30-6-7 pm. So when he comes home is tired and all he wants to rest. I want him to watch Bella b/c I had her all day and night. He loves Bella but sometimes he just wants to sit and rest. When I have been cleaning, laundry, and cooking all day I would love to just sit too. But now we have a daughter to care for so things have to get done!!! Then again I would love for him to take the trash out, do the dinner dishes, or just take her and let me have a moment to breathe! I would just sit him down and tell him he HAS TO HELP!!! Hugs!!
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