We're all good....Mostly

I went to the doctor yesterday.  We were to get the results from the Triple Check test and from the ultrasound that we had at the perinatal center.  Everyone asked if we had the ultrasound and we said yes.  The next question was, "Do we know what we are having?"  Each time we had to say no.  We joked with the nurse about getting an ultraound and she said he wouldn't because insurance wouldn't pay for it.  When the doctor came in, they checked the heartbeat.  It was 142 yesterday.  We asked about the testing and ultrasound.  He told us everything looked normal.  He asked the same questions as everyone else, did we know what we were having.  My husband jokingly asked him for an ultrasound.  He surprisingly told us that if we wanted to wait for the 6 people getting ultrasounds or about 1.5 hours he would do the ultrasound.  My husband decided that he didn't care how long he had to wait, he wanted to know.  So we waited.  We only had to wait an hour.  Luckily this week, the baby cooperated.  We are on team PINK!!!  Of course, I was happy, which I would have been regardless of the gender.  I was just happy to find out.  My husband on the other hand, not so well.  He is having a hard time with the idea of having a girl.  I noticed he was starting to come around tonight and talking about the baby girl.  I know he loves her and in time he will get excited.  He just has to deal with it on his own time.  I try not to rub it in his face and I think that is helping.  We still haven't agreed on a name, which since we found out for sure we haven't talked about it much. 
Sorry this was so long.  Hope everyone has a good day.  Good luck to everyone in their pregnancy and/or TTC.

My husband really struggled with us having a girl first too- really bad. He even considered leaving- he was having a lot of family issues back home and some immigration difficulties and seriously considered leaving- he told me about his struggles much later.People kept saying though that they become Daddy's girls- I never really had that experience so I wasn't so sure. But, it is so true. They are really close now (she's almost 4) and it's very sweet. It did take a while- she was almost 2 when he finally started to really get interested in taking care of her. Now we work opposite shifts so that we don't have daycare- and he loves it. They both do. It is a journey. Not always fast, and somewhat painful, especially given my husband's cultural background and the preference for boys. Plus she was born very small due to placental problems and had some physical therapy and things to correct it in the firstyear, which was really hard for him to watch. Things get better, at least they did for us. It's tough, but just stand by him anyway. Good luck! And congrats on your girl- I wouldn't trade mine for the world!!

Carrie

YAY Congrats on getting the ultrasound and being on team pink! I think that my hubby will be a bit disapointed if the baby is a girl, but he'll get over it and love her all the same. I am a total Daddy's girl so I know how special that bond is.

Congrats!!

Congrats on finding out what you're having and welcome to Team Pink! I don't know your hubby so it's hard to say, but my hubby was a little scared when he found out we are having a girl. He wasn't disappointed, he was nervous. He said he's really worried about her having daddy issues and that it's just a lot of pressure on him to be a really good daddy and a boy would have probably been easier. But he is really still excited, still nervous but very excited. I wonder if your hubby is kinda feeling the same way.
She will have him wrapped around her little finger in no time though, that's just the way it works.

Tina

I think you have hit the nail on the head.  I think it was the initial shock and the want for a boy so bad.  His cousin has talked to him some and I have talked to his cousin about it.  He is already coming around.  I think he is one of those daddy's that wants a boy so bad that he can't imagine another option.  Now that he has to face the other option, he is dealing.  I think once he holds her in his arms, he will be a goner.  I think she will be a complete daddy's girl that will be so spoiled she won't be worth anything.
Thanks everyone for the comments.  Really appreciate them.

Congrats on joining team pink :)  I think your husband will be a total goner once he holds her in his arms for that first time.  When we had our first girl (my last pregnancy) he was a bit nervous about it (he felt comfortable with his boys) but once he held her for the first time there was no turning back :)  Now he's a complete sucker for little girls and can't be more thrilled with this new girl coming.  She has him completely wrapped around her finger (she's 4 now and a complete daddy's girl lol).

Just give him time and all will be well :)

-Jennifer 

With my first pregnancy I know my husband wanted a boy, but we had a girl, he was ok with that but you could tell he was disappointed. With this pregnancy, it was so different that everyone was convinced that it had to be a boy, so I think he got his hopes up. Well, it's a girl too. He was definately disappointed at first and he had bought a couple boyish type things but he's excited now. He did say that he's definately scared of what it will be like when they become teenagers, all those hormones and having to watch out for the boys.