I lost my lil angel pumpkin
As someone else stated, I am not going to say I know what you are going through because I don't. Yes, I lost a baby, but every cir****tance is different and each person deals differently.
When I went for my first appointment on Sept 9, the baby had no heartbeat. I was scheduled for a D&C, but actually passed the baby before I could get it. They still did the D&C.
I am not going to tell you that the pain gets easier or goes away. My belief is it still huts and it is still there, but with time you develop mechanisms that help you deal and get through each day.
I will never know if something was wrong with my baby or not. After my loss, the doctor was very proactive and found that I had a blood clot disorder and he believes that is what caused my miscarriage. I feel he is correct.
We were told no sex for 6 weeks, to wait 1 cycle before trying. The first month we could try was at the end of October, but we didn't. We started trying in November and December I got a BFP. I feel blessed to be having this baby. Yeah I want the one I lost, but I am thankful for this one. It has taken me this long to come to this point in my life, but my husband and I were talking the other day. Yes, we miss the baby we lost. Yes, we still grieve. As a matter of fact, I wear a necklace that has a little heart in a big heart that says "I carry your heart in my heart forever" in memory of my baby. While we miss and grieve that baby, we finally came to the point where we truly believe it happened for a reason. We even think it could have been a blessing because had I not lost that baby we would never have known that I had the blood clot disorder. As far fetched as it sounds, we came to the conclusion that maybe I had to lose that baby in order to save my life.
I am sorry I got so long-winded. I am sorry you went through this loss. This is a good place to be for support. As hard as it is, keep your head up. While now it is difficult to do, there maybe a day that you can find a positive in all of this grief and woe.
When I went for my first appointment on Sept 9, the baby had no heartbeat. I was scheduled for a D&C, but actually passed the baby before I could get it. They still did the D&C.
I am not going to tell you that the pain gets easier or goes away. My belief is it still huts and it is still there, but with time you develop mechanisms that help you deal and get through each day.
I will never know if something was wrong with my baby or not. After my loss, the doctor was very proactive and found that I had a blood clot disorder and he believes that is what caused my miscarriage. I feel he is correct.
We were told no sex for 6 weeks, to wait 1 cycle before trying. The first month we could try was at the end of October, but we didn't. We started trying in November and December I got a BFP. I feel blessed to be having this baby. Yeah I want the one I lost, but I am thankful for this one. It has taken me this long to come to this point in my life, but my husband and I were talking the other day. Yes, we miss the baby we lost. Yes, we still grieve. As a matter of fact, I wear a necklace that has a little heart in a big heart that says "I carry your heart in my heart forever" in memory of my baby. While we miss and grieve that baby, we finally came to the point where we truly believe it happened for a reason. We even think it could have been a blessing because had I not lost that baby we would never have known that I had the blood clot disorder. As far fetched as it sounds, we came to the conclusion that maybe I had to lose that baby in order to save my life.
I am sorry I got so long-winded. I am sorry you went through this loss. This is a good place to be for support. As hard as it is, keep your head up. While now it is difficult to do, there maybe a day that you can find a positive in all of this grief and woe.
Andrea
THe tremendous outpouring of support from you guys is simply heart warming.
I appreciate it very much and your thoughtful words are helping ease the pain a little. I appreciate you shared experiences or little sayings
Right now its 3 am and I cannot sleep te contractions are so bad.
thanks agin for your support
I appreciate it very much and your thoughtful words are helping ease the pain a little. I appreciate you shared experiences or little sayings
Right now its 3 am and I cannot sleep te contractions are so bad.
thanks agin for your support
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I'm so sorry for your loss. I've gone through 3 miscarriages total, 2 in the last year. I had to have a D&C with the 2nd one. It is devastating and you will hurt and grieve for a long time. The minute you see those 2 lines, you have so many hopes, dreams, and plans for your little one, and when that ends, there is just a huge hole in your heart.
The good news is that it will get easier to bear after time. I am pregnant again now, 3 months after my D&C, and so far it is going well, but I am still scared every day. I've been pregnant 5 times total now, so far my miracle 4-year old DS is the only one who has made it, and I can tell you that he is worth ALL of the pain and tears. Take all the time you need to be sad and grieve your loss, then try again when you are ready ... keeping the faith and trying again and again is the only thing that helps me get through my losses.
And ask your Dr for some pain meds. Those post-D&C contractions are AWFUL and you shouldn't have to be uncomfortable.
The good news is that it will get easier to bear after time. I am pregnant again now, 3 months after my D&C, and so far it is going well, but I am still scared every day. I've been pregnant 5 times total now, so far my miracle 4-year old DS is the only one who has made it, and I can tell you that he is worth ALL of the pain and tears. Take all the time you need to be sad and grieve your loss, then try again when you are ready ... keeping the faith and trying again and again is the only thing that helps me get through my losses.
And ask your Dr for some pain meds. Those post-D&C contractions are AWFUL and you shouldn't have to be uncomfortable.
Post-op esophageal leak & sepsis survivor!
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