so called well wishers and pregnancy critics.
im just wondering if any one else has the so called friends and family members who always try to sound like their only concerned about your well being but do nothing but critize u. im 38 years old and my daughter is about to turn 18 but because my one desire when i reach my 12 month post-op date is to have another baby i am bombarded by these friends and family members who cant believe that im finally about to have my "freedom" and i want to tie myself down again with another child. i know that not everyone feels this way but it seems to me that the people who are meant to be supporting me are the same people who are consently critizing my decisions. i know im ranting a little but well i just wish that people would stop thinking that just because im losing weight that my whole personality will change. i know what i want and until i had this operation i truely believed that my dream of having another child would never come true. i dont think having another baby is "tying me down" i look at it as a blessing and a privliage, a true gift from the gods
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thanks for listening to my ranting people
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Tanya
.thanks for listening to my ranting people
.Tanya
People are stupid. I have it all the time for other things. I mean how many times were we told we were doing WLS so get skinny? I did it for my health, getting thinner was a bonus. Good luck and this is something only you can decide.
I shall now be know as Hagatha: Queen of the queens. 
Baby 
7-09
Xavier Elliott born 10-5-10
As long as you are self-reliant, you do not need other people's approval. Can you support and take care of your family without those critics?
Truly, I wouldn't care what others had to say. They are not supporting me NOR the government.
Blessings,
L
Truly, I wouldn't care what others had to say. They are not supporting me NOR the government.
Blessings,
L
3/30/2005 Lap Band installed 12/20/2010 Lap Band REMOVED
6/6/2011 Vertical SLEEVE Gastrectomy
Like the others, later for what others say. Because I'm 39 people believe me and my husband are too old to just be starting our family. Oh well. They don't have to raise or support my family so they don't get to decide when I have it. Cheer up. People feel like if they care it gives them the right to share their feelings no matter how much it may hurt yours. Hang in there and do what feels right to you.
336lbs 6/19/06 - 198 lbs - 6/19/10 
138 lbs gone forever!!!
We have our miracle: Jakob Makhi born 4-15-10; 4 lbs. 10 oz. 22" long.
. i do also have a few supporting friends and family. 
I don't listen to people's opinions because they are just that.........opinions. Now, do they hurt? Sure they do! But if people have nothing better to do than to criticize or judge you or your decisions, they OBVIOUSLY have something wrong in their lives somewhere.
You have the right attitude and babies ARE a gift from God AND a blessing. Some people just don't feel that way and that is their problem. Those are the kind of people I DON'T want in my life because our lives revolve around our 4 (soon to be 5) children and it will remain that way until the day we die.
Just take it with a grain of salt and really, you don't need the negative influences. Do what makes YOU happy because those other people in your life that are criticizing you or giving you their "opinion" aren't the ones that make YOU happy. Only YOU can do that and you are making the choices and decisions for your life that will make YOU happy!
So, make yourself happy girl!! Have that baby, be proud of it and brush everyone else's negativity out the door and don't let it ruin your attitude or life........you don't need it!
You have the right attitude and babies ARE a gift from God AND a blessing. Some people just don't feel that way and that is their problem. Those are the kind of people I DON'T want in my life because our lives revolve around our 4 (soon to be 5) children and it will remain that way until the day we die.
Just take it with a grain of salt and really, you don't need the negative influences. Do what makes YOU happy because those other people in your life that are criticizing you or giving you their "opinion" aren't the ones that make YOU happy. Only YOU can do that and you are making the choices and decisions for your life that will make YOU happy!
So, make yourself happy girl!! Have that baby, be proud of it and brush everyone else's negativity out the door and don't let it ruin your attitude or life........you don't need it!
Allie
Mom to 5 cuties!! 
Ages 15, 7, 6, 4 & a 3 month old sweety!
-250 Pounds since GBS!
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