When does the worry stop???

As most of you know. I lost a baby back in June. This pregnancy I have been so worried. Every little tingle of pain or if I don't feel pregnant enough, I worry. How did you all make it through the first trimester? I'm so scared the same thing is going to happen again. My last pregnancy I saw a heartbeat and then went in and the baby died. I had no spotting or bleeding. This waiting is just killing me. I know there is nothing I can do but wait. Did everyone feel like they were waiting for the ball to drop?


Jackie

I felt that way with both pregnancies and I never lost a baby.  I can't imagine what I would have been like after a loss.  For me I always relaxed a LITTLE when I made it to the third trimester. 
For me the worry never stops.  If Hannah actually does sleep more than a few hours I'm in her room checking her breathing.   Noah turned blue on me several times with the RSV.  I now sleep with a light on and keep him right beside of me so I can check his color several times during the night.
I wish I had some magic answer that would make you not worry.   I'm praying that you continue to have a healthy pregnancy!
Amy

Jackie,

You know I posted this several times on the board. After my two losses last year, it is something that I wish I could just relax and enjoy but I am always worried. I am 15 weeks and 3 days and I still worry. I worry before every appointment and everything is always ok. I had to come to the conclusion that it really is out of my hands. I can't control if I loose the baby or not. Now, if I am drinking and doing drugs I could control that but I am not. So, I know that no matter how much I pray, want, hope, and have faith it really is out of my hands.

So, I try to relax and remember that stress is not good on the baby. I don't think the worry ever goes away. Also, there are those that are currently Mom's who have said you worry now about keeping the baby but then once it is born you worry about everything else :)

Traci

I agree, the worry never stops. I have never suffered a miscarriage, but I still worry throughout my entire pregnancies. The best thing you can do for you and your little peanut is to do your best not to worry. Try to relax and enjoy each day and think about holding your miracle in your arms!!

*hugs*

the worry lessened for me when I could feel the baby consistantly move. I lost my last baby (well found out) at 11 weeks - I NEVER had a symptom or sign that there was something wrong - I was nauseous, extremly fatigued etc. The at home dopplar was a GOD SEND too. I still worry, just about different things lol. Am I eating enough, is the baby growing like it should, is it kicking too much/too little. From what the "experienced" Mom's tell me you NEVER stop worrying - the reasons just change.

Hang in there hun and I hope that the worry lessens some for you!

I had an ectopic a year ago July and then got pregnant again in Sept.  I worried and worried - like you said every twinge and tweak.

Thank goodness my doctor(s) were kind enough to ease my stress with frequent ultrasounds and blood tests.... and I bought a fetal doppler that I used until I could feel him move. 

I think the worry never goes away... once past the 1st trimester you'll find new things to worry about. 

Just stay positive and remember what is meant to be will be.... worrying doesn't solve anything and can cause problems.  (I know, easier said than done!)

*hugs*

Cindy

I definitely understand your question. Even last week when I went to our u/s I was tensing up right beforehand because we found out during 2 u/s's that we had lost our little ones. So u/s's can be a little stressful for me. I have to keep telling myself that the other 2 were lost between 5 & 6 weeks and that I am pretty far past that time. Now that I can feel her move, although not super frequently it is every day and I am relaxing a little bit more. Now I am not as worried about losing her as I am about what we're going to do when she comes. My first trimester was really hard because of that. Luckily most of the time when I wasn't at work I was sleeping so I didn't have too much time to worry. I hope it gets a little easier for you.

Tina

I have been fortunate not ot have had a loss. That being said, this ime around  I was still worried, and still am, because I am having twins and my Mom delivered a pair of twins early- somewhere around 23 or 24 weeks stillborn, so I know that I can still have problems, even though now I am neraly at 27. So, I am still quite the worry wart. I try to do things that help me manage the anxiety, because it is always there. i do a lot of reading on pregnancy. I have some websites like this one that I like that help too. If something works for you for anxiety, use it and see. You'll still worry, but perhaps you'll feel more empowered when you do feel a twinge because you read something about it, for example. Good luck!

Carrie

Hi Jackie,
I am 22 weeks and finally starting to relax and not worry so much!  I feel so much better after 25 weeks...then 30 and so on.  I don't think we ever completely stop worrying but it does get better. 

Bambi

I lost a baby back in September.  I have to say I agree with everyone else.  I worry every day.  Although, I still try to enjoy that I am pregnant, that worry is still in my mind.  I think I will continue to worry until I hold the baby in my arms.  Then a whole new set of worries will sit in.  Good luck!!!