How many of you had your moms in the delivery room?

I think it's a personal decision and some people are with it and others aren't. She should really respect that decision. Now for me, I wanted my mom and husband in there with me and they were. I ended up having a C section and my mom was the one by my head and my husband was there to see the baby when they were cleaning her up. He said he didn't think he could be at my head with me. He can't stand blood or surgeries at all. Plus my mom is a nurse so it worked out. We plan on doing the same thing this time. My mom will be in by my head for the C section.

I understand you position.  My husband and I are very private as well and it will only be the two of us in the room.  My mom will only be there if my hisband is not (in the navy and we have one more underway to make it through and his big deployment is now set to be exactlly one week after due date ).  My mom understands, but the one who actually doesn't is my sister.  I was in the room for her first child's birth, so I guess she just thought the same in reverse.  She jokes all the time about just accidentlly being in the room at the right time....and my husband assures her that she will be accidentlly escorted out. 

Anyways, I hope the best in your situation!  Stacey

I had my mom in the room with us... at first I didn't want her in there but couldn't break her heart... After I was happy I had her there with us... and Now this time she is coming to NY from Texas for 6 weeks or so to be here for me again...I just want her in there again... My mom is corny and stuff but for some reason I just feel better with her in the room with us. Plus she gonna help me with my daughter and the twins cuz the hubby cant miss to much work... I just thought I would add my 2 cents in there... I can see why you didn't want your mom it there being your's and ur hubbys special moment... thats just crazy your mom took it to heart like that and was stuborn to not see her grand baby until a month later...

I was on the East Coast (NY) and my family is West Coast (Oregon) when my son was born.  Regardless...even if we'd have been neighbors...I wouldn't have had anyone but DH in there.  I wouldn't have minded if anyone wanted to wait out in the waiting area, but it's not 'me' to have a room full of people see all my business, no matter the cir****tances.  I had a good friend from high school though, who had me, her mother, her brother, her sister in law, her nieces and a few other people in the room when she had each of her babies.  Didn't seem to bother her at all.  I'm glad, despite your mom's temper tantrum, that you were able to stick to the birth YOU wanted.  Your mom will get over it - or not - and soon just enjoy being 'Grandma.'

My mother and hubby were in delivery room with my first son. Just hubby second time and my hubby and dad this last time. My mother was fine with whatever we decided though. When I told her I wanted my dad to go in she was proud. They are still together but when we were born dads had to stay out and he has never been around for his grandkids births. He had a job being gone all the time. So this was going to be his only chance to be there and it was awesome. That being said it always what YOU are most comfortable with. Its for you to enjoy and hubby to enjoy. So I say dont feel bad at all because you have to do what is right for you.

My mom is always too busy to help me let alone visit ANY time soon after a baby is born.

I had a c/s with my first and I begged and pleaded my mom and sister to come and help me as I knew I'd need help after my c/s. My mom was "too busy" with work. Instead she saved up her "vacation time" for my sister who was due a couple months after me so she could take several weeks off and pamper her before, during, and after her vaginal delivery.

I leanred at that point never to ask my mom for help with my children, before, during, or after birth.

I agree it's a personal decision, and I am one who would very much allow my mother in the room with me when I deliver because I would really love to be invited to the birth of my grandchildren (my daughter's and not my daughters in law, I think that would be over stepping). I'd certainly understand if they didn't want me there but I am hoping to be invited!!

ETA: I don't think it was unreasonable to not have your mom there, and I do think it was unreasonable for her to get so hurt over it. Perhaps she felt she had a stronger relationship with you so I would definitely talk to her about it and why you chose not to have her there to help her understand more. Otherwise I think it's rediculous to hold such a grudge. She only gyps herself in the end by staying away from her new grandbaby like that. :(

I had my mom and best friend in there along with my husband.  He wanted private and I wanted a room full.  At first it was just going to be my best friend to take video and at the last moment my husband told my mother to come along.  I was very happy.  But I also believe to each his own and understand people wanting privacy also. 

I know how hard it must have been for you to have her not talk for a whole month. Personally I think that was selfish of her but I think it is good that you are not holding it against her.  My mother-in-law didn't talk to us or come over for 2 weeks after my sons birth b/c they were mad that we didn't circumcise him.  I think that added to my PP depression, but over time we all got over it and she has watched Jackson for me while I work on Mondays and half a day Tuesday.

The moral of this is NO you are not crazy!

Jackie

SO sorry that your Mom was such a pain - she missed out on a great time with Anberlin for that first month though!

My hubby and I have discussed it and we want my Mom in there with us. Like Kyle Beth mentioned I am very close to my Mom. We talk on the phone at least once a day and I see her at least once a week. If I don't feel good or have a bad day I can always call her and she makes it better. She was there with me through my WLS and all the other surgeries I've had and she is calming to me. I know that Chris (my hubby) doesn't handle me being in pain well and I am usually the one that takes control in a stressful situation  so he'll be glad to have her there to take the lead if needed. I have 2 sides - they can each take one! lol

Your mom is selfish and immature.  She wants to see the baby so bad for the birth and then does not show up for a month.  I mean, come on. 

Your baby, your birth, your decision who gets to attend.

Wow! I cannot imagine a mother treating her daughter that way... It seems pretty childish of her and I am sure it hurt you too... But I think that if you wanted it to be just you & the hubby in the room, you did the right thing... It's your choice and no one elses! Sorry that happened...

I asked my mom to be in with me months ahead of time and she planned to... However, she had to have a hysterectomy because of some issues she was having on the 9th of December.... I went into labor the 12th with Zander so she wasn't able to travel to be with me... So instead, my wonderful sister drove and hour & a half to be with me in the room... I was very lucky...