How many of you had your moms in the delivery room?

My husband and I wanted the birth of our baby girl to be very special so we decided to have it be only him and myself in the delivery room. (no family & friends until after the birth) My mother was very upset about that and didn't talk to me or see Anberlin for a month after she was born. She assumed she was going to be in the room but we never talked about weather or not she would be. Is it crazy of me that I didn't have my mom in the room with us?

-Ashlie

Honestly its you and your dh decision. She shouldn't be mad about that and not see her grandchild for a month. Thats ridiculous - in any case why would she assume that you wanted her to be there? Did ya'll talk about it beforehand? I was not planning on having my mom there but DH was driving from NH to CT and he didnt make it in time, she just happened to be the one who brought me, but either way with that pain I didn't care who was there, I just wanted her out! LOL

I am a confronting person so I would talk with her about the situation; obviously its in the past now but let her know your intention was not to make her feel bad but its your child and your decision whom you would like in the room while bringing YOUR child into the room. It's a very private thing for some people. Good Luck.

I had my mom in the room with me for the birth of both of my children. I wouldn't have it any other way actually.... I still call my mom when I don't feel good and I'm a huge baby when it comes to pain and she has a way of keeping things calm. I thought it was nice to have two support people and she didn't "take over" in anyway...

I think everyone is different... everyone has different relationships with their parents... so I don't think it's weird or wrong for you not to have her. I guess the only thing that could have been done differently was to be more open with your plans to just have hubby in the room with you.. but that's not something you can change.

I think it's sad that she hasn't seen Anberlin for a month after she was born... that's childish...which kind of suggests you made the right choice by not having her with you.

I don't think you are crazy for that at all. My hubby & I have decided the same thing. The only difference is that I have talked to my mom about it. She understands. What I do think is crazy is your mom not seeing her gandbaby for that amount of time! I understand that not having an expectation met really sucks, but you just missed the 1st month of your grandaughters life...and for what? Because your feelings were hurt? Is she over it now?

I wouldn't say she is over it but she has let it go... for now anyway!

My mom is going to be with us.  I was going to ask her of course, but that being said, she did also assume she was coming in, and even said she shot gunned being in the room lol.  It's obviously you and your husbands choice.  I hope she comes around!

My mother passed away Christmas of 2004. If she was alive I would have her there because she was a nurse and I am VERY CLOSE to her. Now, my mother-in-law will want to be in the room. My hubby and I will have a conversation with everyone that I don't want anyone in the room with me. I am private and can't imagine anyone being there during pushing and delivery. The ONLY person I would allow during active labor and pushing would be my hubby and possibly my best friend if she is here for the birth. She has had two children and could provide the female emotional support that hubby couldn't.

My mother-in-law would drive hubby and I crazy crying and bossing around.

It is really your decision and it is a personal one. I think you should talk to your mother about it and explain your feelings. She missed out on her granddaughters first month and it was her choice.

Traci

I am so sorry about your mother.  That being said I would NOT ever ever ever have my MIL in the room with us.  Good choice!

I am 99% sure I am going to have a section. I have no problems with people being at the hospital, but I want NO ONE in the room with me other than Mark. I don't think his Mom will fuss but Mine might. She is coming to CT from OH to be here. It's gonna be him, me, and anyone who is on the team to get the baby here and that's it.

My mom and my mom in law was in with my 1st. My MIL was tryin to tell my hubby n me what to do n what not to do so after I told her if she didnt shut up n sit in the corner Id beat her ass then she was Ok. My mom on the other hand took my baby girl..the 1 thing Ive wanted most in my life since I was 4 yrs old..took her and held her n I was screaming for my baby and she TOOK that special bonding time and I will NEVER forgive her til the day I die!!! Me and my baby didnt get close for years because of HER!! That was the worse mistake I have ever made to this day. Its ur baby n ur delivery...Its all bout u n how U wanted it to go ..not any1 else.