possible miscarriage ( long rant )

thank you everyone this is a very touchy thing for me as it is for everyone i just feel so helpless like there should be something i can do or they can do. they know my progesterone levels are low and wont even put me on anything because they dont know if my pregnancy is viable it makes me mad that they can even make that call just yet..

I cannot help you with the numbers.  I know that when I lost my last pregnancy I started spotting.  Then I traveled 2 hours away to my in-laws.  I ended up in the ER before we left there.  I came home and went to the store and started bleeding again.  It seemed if I stayed off my feet I didn't seem to bleed as much.  When I got to go to the dr, I found out the baby didn't have a heartbeat.  During all of that time, I was never told my numbers so I cannot help you.  What I can tell you is that while my husband hurt because of the loss of our baby and I was hurting, he still didn't hurt as much as I did.  As the others said, none of it was as real to him because he wasn't experiencing any of the changes.  When I started spotting, I begged him to take me to the hospital and he kept telling me everything was ok.  I think he was telling me this to help me, but I sometimes it was just as much for him.  Men are the ones who are supposed to fix things (in their mind), but this is something they can't fix.  While I think in some ways it is harder for us to deal with things, I think in other ways it is more difficult for them, if that makes sense.
I hope everything works out for you.  Good luck.  One thing that helped me feel better when I was having trouble is what others on this board would say.  I would tell myself, Today I AM Pregnant!!  Tell yourself that and cherish everyday that you have with your baby.  You will be pregnant every day until the doctor says otherwise.  So until you hear those words, tell yourself the words that you are pregnant.

Amanda,

I have had a mc at 4 weeks which started w/bleeding. I also had a threatened mc with this pregnancy around 10 weeks I bled very heavily for almost 2 weeks. I was on bed rest for about a month. I am happy to say that I am now about to enter week 29 and Jakob appears to be okay now. Unfortunately, they do say there is not much they can do but wait and see. That sucks for us but I believe its true. Keep your feet up. Read encouraging materials and keep talking to people who understand. There is no feeling like being pregnant and no loss as bad as losing a baby. We get to experience the highs and sometimes the lows too. We will hope for the best for you and look forward to hearing a positive update in the future. Take care.

I misscarried at 12 weeks with my first baby. I do not remember my numbers from then. I will tell you that I started bleeding at 6 weeks on almost a daily basis. It went on for another 6 weeks. I consistently went to the doctor almost weekly and they would tell me it was fine to go home. On the day I misscarried I had been bleeding. I went to the doctor who had an ultrasound done. Every thing showed that all was good, heartbeat, baby moving all of it. I went back upstairs to the doc where she decided to use some stuff on my cervix to stop the bleeding. Well less than 6 hours later I misscarried. I never felt comfortable with the doctor and honestly believe that the misscarrage was part of her fault. I just do not see how everything on the ultrasound could be great and perfect and then a few hours later I misscarry. I never went back to her. I switched doctors and have five wonderful pregnancies after that one. My second I did spot for a few weeks on and off. This pregnancy I had one day of light pink spotting and then a pin size dot of red blood. Nothing since in over a week. I think it was implantation bleeding. I do not go to the doctor until the 10th of next month.
I will tell you I remember that I lost the baby on March 4th 2002. I won't forget that day and I remember the pain and heartache. My husband is not bothered by it at the least. I honestly believe that they are never given a chance to bond at that stage in the pregnancy so they have no attachment at that point.