depressed and prego............

ok so i hope that i can just plain ole vent and get some feedback...  i am 6 mo. preg. on tuesday and boy do i feel like hell.  Im in the dumps and all my DH can say its your hormones it drives me wild.  Quick run down on my situation...DH is unemployed, i've gained 40 pds. from my lowest weight (not due to pregnancy), im trying to be the best mom to my son who is six, i work full time and im just plain ole sad all the darn time.  I hate feeling like this!! I feel guilty for feeling this way because i should be happy cause im pregnant with my little girl ahhh.  I dont know what to do i have my ck up in a wwek and four days so i will mention it to my dr. i'm already on an antidepressant so i dont know what else can be done and i also have an appt. with my therapist this thursday.  I realy want to feel better but i feel so unsupported by who matters most!!
 

Thanks for reading!

I hope that you feel better soon. Have you tried having a heart to heart with hubby? Maybe a weekend away with the girls would be something that would help to. A little pampering for yourself! If a weekend isn't possible have Hubby watch your son for the day and go out with the girls. Have a massage, get your nails done, do some retail therapy, whatever it is that makes you feel better! Maybe if you are less stressed you will be better able to convey your feelings to hubby and get some more support. You aren't the only one having this baby after all!

*hugs* hang in there. We are due right around the same time (5/21 for me) I know there are moments where I feel like I am just going to snap.

Liz

thanks for reading this it really means a lot!! I have tried talking to my husband but yesterday he said "i am going through some of my own stuff and you dont know how i feel."  that is when i said well tell me!  He is a person that keeps to himself a lot but darn so much crap goes through my head i dunno!!

What I would say is this- how you feel is how you feel. Even if it is hormones, that doesn't change how you feel. Perhaps you need to have this conversation with DH- You could make a list beforehand or think about what is really bothering you and the support you need from him. Chances are, he is feeling some guilt about not working and the extra stress. It also sounds like you're doing everything to keep the family going, which is such a tough place to be! I've done that for a while now too. Having a candid conversation about that with him and suggesting some ways he can be supportive, as well as taking his feedback about how you can help him might make the situation a little better at home. Perhaps your Dr. may want to change or increase the does of your antidepressant- I have found that I need two wellbutrins a day when I get pretty depressed like that, pregnant or not. Your weight you can't really change right now, although if you are cleared for exercise you may try working that in (I know how that sucks to hear) but that might be making baby steps toward feeling like you are controlling your weight as much as you can right now. Don't feel guilty about how you feel- it's how you feel. But, you can make some changes. I recently went through this and after thinking a lot about what was going on identified some small changes that I could make at work that have been helping me. Changes at home are good too. It sounds like you're doing what you can, so accept that and look at what changes are doable and might help you feel better sooner rather than later. Good luck! 

Carrie

thanks!!

When I get like this it is because I need time to myself.  I have my husband take care of my daughter for a few hours.  I go to the mall, see a movie and window shop.

I am not saying that is a fix for you but definitely make time for yourself while you still can!

Ooh, so sorry that you are going through this Nancy.  Hold on!  First, seek professional mental health assistance ASAP.

Try reading selp-help books, listening to recordings of Wayne Dyer, Tony Robbins and other life coaches/motivators.  This is stupid, but just smile and there will be a good chance that your body and mind will follow.  Watch funny movies, force yourself to be around people - positive people, not those looking to be in the doom and gloom with you.  Play, I mean really play with a child/children.  Get out of your head, get out of YOU.  If you are not boohoo ing about YOU, you can concentrate on other things/other people.  Yeah, being down is a pretty selfish thing, it's all about us, but when we get out of ourselves, we can't be blue.

Your situation may not be ideal  . . . and I know it sounds like such a back door blessing, BUT others are worse off.  You can make changes.  Your husband can get a job, you can lose the weight you gained and get in top health - some people don't have that option.  There are so many things you can do - our economics are not in top form right now BUT we are blessed to be living in the United States of America - we have many options/possibilities.

Very important to treat yourself kindly.  Do nice things for yourself even if they are the smallest of things like getting/doing your nails, facials, foot soaks, taking a nap, nice fragrances, healthy food treats, take yourself out to something cheap or free (I go to so many great free things in the city), sing, play music you like, music that has great memories attached to it. 



God Bless,
Leila

thanks all for your reply!! On sunday when i wrote this blog i was in one of the rooms listening to music and really just crying with the door closed so my son would not see me but then guess who walked in MY HUBBY....he asked what was wrong and i just said that i felt everything was so he asked me to come sit outside on our bench and play with the dogs and get fresh air...well wowzie caused it helped so yesterday was a really good day we spent time with our son the dogs and watched t.v. alone with him yey!!! 

Well i came back to work today and i work at a continuation high school and helping students out with their problems kinda helps me deal with mine because the advice i give them well im giving to myself....

THanks for reading this and i hope to be a good addtion to this group!!