So my six year old step daughter ask...

"Stacey-When the baby comes, do we have to take her everywhere?  Do we have to take her with us to grandmas? " I guess she thinks the baby is going to be like the dog, we put her in the kennel when we go on trips....I think she realizes that her being by herself and getting all the attention is slowly disappearing...we ask her if she was ready to share her time, but she said "NO"...

Think alot of it comes from we are buying things for the baby and every thing is "who's that for, me?"....

Guess closer we get and the arrival could get interesting. 

Just wanted to share-Stacey

That's too cute.  I know what you are/will be going thru.  My son was 7 and a half when his first sibling arrived.  He did very well but at first he did not want a baby brother or sister. 

Now he's got an older step sister and a 3 year old sister and another baby in July. 

I am sure as soon as the baby is born she's going to fall in love with it and want to hold it all the time!  My son did that.

Bambi

From personal experience just have your husband spend a lot of time with his daughter when the baby is born.  Yes he has to bond with the baby but if SD feels pushed aside it will affect her for life.  I'm living that. 

Thanks for the response.  We have been working on sharing etc with her alot.  We were actually shopping for the baby letting Jas pick out the outfit for the baby to wear home.  We also have bought her gifts for the baby shower so she doesn't feel left out or where the focus is...I think what will help our situation is she is the only child still with her mom (who she lives/with us on weekends).  The other tricky part for us is my husband is delploying for eight months about two weeks after the due date of the baby....so we will be adjusting to that as well.  (Which is hard on it's own for a six year old-we haven't told her this yet, too much stress at once)....

Again, thanks for the advise!  Have a great day...Stacey

I've never had older sibling things to deal with, but I'd suggest if you can, maybe make a special 'big sister' gift bag for your step daughter...something to reminder her that she's special and loved too.   Maybe a tee shirt saying something about her being the best big sister, a book/toy/movie that's just for her (do they have story books for older siblings on what it's like to have a new baby in the house?), if she's a girly girl...maybe some 'fingernail' polish (the real stuff or the stuff they make for young girls)...you get the idea.  Wait and surprise her with it after the baby's here, so that the baby's not the only one getting gifts.